Question for the ladies!

liftman01

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OK here it is I would like the ladies to tell me why women never respond to men's adds and how does a man find a woman or weman for friendship and fun. Please be honest if you need to pm me the answer,I would appreciate it.
 
I'm not a woman, but I'll give some input... and I'm going to generalize, so ladies, feel free to tit-slap me if these don't apply to you.

For women, desperation is very unattractive. To some, a guy making a personal ad might look needy or desperate, unless he's looking for a very specific thing or really writes out a nice ad.

Also, women tend to want a guy with some personality, wit, charm, intelligence, or abs. Personal ads don't do much to display these things (except for the abs part). Posting in a few threads will likely get you more attention than a personal ad.

Third, a lot of ads don't have a lot in them for the woman to get excited about replying to.

And lastly, there are approximately 10 BILLION men here for every one guy (it's true, I did the statistical analysis), so the odds are ever in their favor.
 
I agree to some of what Raw said. Some of the posts are to generic, while others are very specific to what they are looking for, or its a TL:DR post.

But if a woman posts up 'princess looking for daddy' she's going to get slammed with guys looking to be that one, she has her pick.

It's also the ratio. . 1 billion guys for every one girl
 
Nice

Thanks for the input duly noted, anyone else? And maybe ladies tell me what peaks your interest I am wanting to find some friends and chat partners, maybe I'm to shy who knows
 
Thanks for the input duly noted, anyone else? And maybe ladies tell me what peaks your interest I am wanting to find some friends and chat partners, maybe I'm to shy who knows

I personally like to rp. I love a good nerd too ;)
 
I personally like to rp. I love a good nerd too ;)

Totally agree with you and Raw.. its almost comical some of the messages I get.. "whats up baby" or something along those lines I would say 50% of the time.

Be conversational without being over confident (although I know some women do like confidence) Im more along the lines with you in that I would take a good role play over a fake porno any day of the week as a way to pleasure myself. Most guys I don't think understand that. If you are smart, witty and can hold your own with a good erotic chat then you have my attention any day of the week :)
 
sometimes we respond to personals.. I canʻt speak for all the ladies of course, but when Iʻm on I keep an eye on them, hoping Iʻll see something interesting—its usually the very specific longer posts that interest me, the ones where I learn enough to know whether the person posting is someone that Iʻm going to find appealing/interesting/(mentally) attractive. It can also be nice to know whether I am going to be anywhere close to what they are looking for.
 
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Totally agree with you and Raw.. its almost comical some of the messages I get.. "whats up baby" or something along those lines I would say 50% of the time.

Be conversational without being over confident (although I know some women do like confidence) Im more along the lines with you in that I would take a good role play over a fake porno any day of the week as a way to pleasure myself. Most guys I don't think understand that. If you are smart, witty and can hold your own with a good erotic chat then you have my attention any day of the week :)

correct I agree.
 
hi

Thanks for the input duly noted, anyone else? And maybe ladies tell me what peaks your interest I am wanting to find some friends and chat partners, maybe I'm to shy who knows

shy doesn't attract many people. free n frank,daring guys are wanted by most.
 
My .02 cents

I tended to respond to ads that were honest but not desperate. Any ad with the words horny, fuck, ass, etc were discarded.

If it would work being whispered in an ear at a bar, don't do it here.

Tell a little bit about yourself. Why are you here? What's your objective? Quick chat, long term OL relationship, writing partner etc.

And for heavens sake, please do not in the first two exchanges ask for pics or bra size. You might as well hold up a billboard saying 'shallow man looking for tits', personality doesn't matter. It's a pretty quick turn off for most women.

I speculate that women generally come here out of loneliness. Men tend to come here more often for quick mind fuck. Generally speaking of course.

Again, just my .02 cents.
Good luck!
 
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I tended to respond to ads that were honest but not desperate. Any ad with the words horny, fuck, ass, etc were discarded.

If it would work being whispered in an ear at a bar, don't do it here.

Tell a little bit about yourself. Why are you here? What's your objective? Quick chat, long term OL relationship, writing partner etc.

And for heavens sake, please do not in the first two exchanges ask for pics or bra size. You might as well hold up a billboard saying 'shallow man looking for tits', personality doesn't matter. It's a pretty quick turn off for most women.

I speculate that women generally come here out of loneliness. Men tend to come here more often for quick mind fuck. Generally speaking of course.

Again, just my .02 cents.
Good luck!

What is 0.02 cents compared to 2 cents?
 
Thanks

Wow this is all good info! Me I am looking for someone to talk to and enjoy all kinds of conversation from day to day up to sex of course isn't that why we are here mostly? I'm definitely not desperate sexually but I have never had alot of friends or people I could talk to, on here it is most comfortable to talk to women because most men are looking for sex and I'm not bi. Shy I guess isn't exactly the right word but I don't want to come off as being a creep so I might be a little over cautious in an attempt to be respect ful
 
I think ads are lazy. Instead of posting and letting people get to know you, guys just throw up an ad and sit back waiting for women to come to them. Unless you are really good looking or have an ad that invites conversation from men and women, then you need to put some effort in.

If you can't put effort into meeting women, how do you expect us to believe that you will put effort in after your wankfest?
 
You're stymied from the start by the male-female ratios, but, for what it's worth....

As mentioned by others, a lazy PM isn't going to do it. "How's your day" is too easily ignored (or answered with "Fine, thanks, bye..."). Say what interested you in the person you're PMing, what made you want to know more... Say a little about you... Be witty, make me laugh, make me feel there's more to know...

And remember we're all different - I'm sure there's a massive range in the interests and desires amongst the women of Lit, you just have to find the ones who share yours..

Good luck, and good hunting...
 
Thanks for the reply and information I'm enjoying reading and listening to the women of lit!!!!
 
As unpopular an opinion as it may be on a board filled with pictures of naked people, women (and men) are people first, and most women at least want to be talked to as a person, even if there's never going to be talking again.
If I was looking, I'd be intrigued by people who interacted with me, flirting, talking, having conversations. I don't want to open my PM box and find it filled with porn either. That's like showing up at my front door with your junk hanging out for a blind date.
Once invited, it may be welcome but it's presumptive to assume that before you have even said hello you know what I'd be looking for.
For instance... I am amazed at the number of Dom looking for sub PMs that come right to my PMs, despite my never having given any indication that's my kink or having interacted with the person sending it. It's not my kink and I don't know them so it's actually a turn off to have someone trying to boss me around before they even say hello and in some cases it feels very intrusive.
As far as the ads, there are a LOT of ads on here. Most are from guys, very few are interesting because it's hard to write an interesting personal ad.
I think they don't work because instant gratification rarely works, slapping up an ad isn't enough when the choices are so varied. I hope that gives some insight.
 
You're stymied from the start by the male-female ratios, but, for what it's worth....

As mentioned by others, a lazy PM isn't going to do it. "How's your day" is too easily ignored (or answered with "Fine, thanks, bye..."). Say what interested you in the person you're PMing, what made you want to know more... Say a little about you... Be witty, make me laugh, make me feel there's more to know...

And remember we're all different - I'm sure there's a massive range in the interests and desires amongst the women of Lit, you just have to find the ones who share yours..

Good luck, and good hunting...

Ding! Nail on the head there, couldn't have said it better myself. :)

Don't take it personally if you get a few knock backs or plain old ignored, as numeniusa says, there are so many people using the forums with so many different likes, wants, reasons for being on this forum and things they want to get from it, you won't win them all, but you might just find someone you can gel with one (or more) of the times. :) Good luck!
 
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