question....for girls only :p

[little_dragon]

Not that mine is (thank god...I would be worried a bit), but what if your 'master' is into the whole BDSM thing....while you're on your period? Like he actually likes blood from down there?


Then what do you do? I've always thought the idea of having sex while on your period was disgusting anyway, but I haven't tried it......

Little Dragon

 

[Kierae]

If he likes it and wants it then how is this an issue if you are his sub? I guess more of my concern would be if this wasn't a committed relationship considering that blood exchange and potential for disease transmission is high. This is risky behavior (and russian roulette) if this isn't a committed monogamous (in the sense that playtime with anyone outside of this relationship must include safe sex practices) type relationship.

~kierae

 

[Aithne123]

Then what do you do?

I agree with Kierae. If he's my Master, then there is nothing I can do, but go along with it. Plus, I would never turn down a chance to have sex!
Aithne

 

[graceanne]

Wouldn't know, K won't have anything to do with me when I'm on my period. And while I don't mind, I can definately sympathise. Periods are NASTY.

 

[Stegral]

Not that mine is (thank god...I would be worried a bit), but what if your 'master' is into the whole BDSM thing....while you're on your period? Like he actually likes blood from down there?
Then what do you do? I've always thought the idea of having sex while on your period was disgusting anyway, but I haven't tried it......
Little Dragon

Ummm I will put in here.... I have had A b/f "play in blood" & if you can put the uncleanliness of it out of your head it can be very different sensation wise, He never ate me out while I bled, but the friction of sex was wild...
just make sure you have rubber under the darkest towels you can find as blood DOES stain.... & try to shower fairly soon after finishing up... once menstrual blood dries it can be painful to clean off....you need really hot water & sometimes you still need to do a final pull....

Sorry if I grossed anyone out but hey... it was my input...lol

 

[graceanne]

Also, I've heard that orgasm's during your period ROCK. They help with the cramps and everything. I don't have cramps or PMS or any of that stuff (DON'T THROW THINGS AT ME!), so I can't testify to this myself.

 

[snowy ciara]

Um.. Embarrassing question but...

Okay, I don't like PIV sex on my period, but I do get hell cramps and such and I have discovered that clit orgasms do help with pain, but it requires a MUCH gentler tough on my parts than usual. My whole body feels like a bruise, so a soft touch is must.

If he wants to do it though, I read somewhere that menstrual blood has a different PH or something than regular lubrication, and may irritate a guy's cock, so you probably want a rubber anyway. I did ask a guy friend and he says that it does feel different when he's doing his girl when she's on her flow.

 

[catalina_francisco]

as blood DOES stain.... & try to shower fairly soon after finishing up... once menstrual blood dries it can be painful to clean off....you need really hot water & sometimes you still need to do a final pull....

Sorry if I grossed anyone out but hey... it was my input...lol

Soak and wash blood out in cold water and you shouldn't have aproblem. Not sure about the painful to remove from skin thing....never had that problem myself.

Catalina

 

[catalina_francisco]

Not that mine is (thank god...I would be worried a bit), but what if your 'master' is into the whole BDSM thing....while you're on your period? Like he actually likes blood from down there?


Then what do you do? I've always thought the idea of having sex while on your period was disgusting anyway, but I haven't tried it......

Little Dragon

Nothing stops sex in this household, and I have never had an issue with any lovers who were cool with it. There have been a few who have gone as far as oral sex as well, and that also is OK if that is what they want and are regular partners. I actually find orgasms at that time increase my problems though, especially pain wise, but we manage to find ways to soothe it if it gets too bad. I think it is sad some miss out on sex just because they have their period....sheeesh, where have all the good men gone?!!

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

Maybe this is a soft or hard limit for you?

I've never sought out sex on my period. However I now have and have had in the past some men who were into that.

I didn't mind it at all. In fact it makes me happy to not miss a week of sex!!!

The taboo nature of it was embarrassing at first. Taboo is a major turn on for me though.

I've had sex while bleeding. I've been eaten out while bleeding. I've masturbated while bleeding. I've even tasted the blood on my fingers and his cock after he had been in me.
(He tasted it, why shouldn't I?)

I never like to let anything stop me from doing whatever I want to do.

We also never have problem with clean up. I wash all towels in cold water. I take very hot showers. *shrugs*

Fury

 

[Black666kitten]

=p

lol i've done it =p

 

[Kierae]

bottom line is your hormones rage during this time so consequently you would definitely have some of the "hottest" sexual adventures during this period (figuratively and literally ).

so many taboos...isn't is just grand to explore?

 

[*curious*]

This is why you have long, mature, frank conversations before being intimate.

If he expects to be sexually active whilst you are menstruating and considers such contact to be a need in order for a relationship to be fulfilling, and you feel great disgust at the idea of even being touched while menstruating... I believe this is what would be called a compatability issue.

[Disclaimer- the following is personal opinion]

If you have agreed to submit to a Lover you *submit*. You don't submit except for "Oh by the way that one thing you think is really hot? I ain't going there. But other than that I'm totally your slave." You find out before hand, to the best of your knowledge, if you are truely compatable with this person, as to lessen the possibility of BDSM (and relationship) related issues; the result [in theory] is a BDSM based relationship which is fulfilling to both partners emotionally, mentally and physically. YMMV

 

[FurryFury]

I thought a sub had a right to limits both soft and hard. The soft ones can be eroded. The hard ones should be untouchable until and unless with communication, the limits change. Limits are bound to change with experiences and by opening up to new things or learning from them.

Isn't that so?

Fury

 

[*curious*]

Ah- I never said a sub had no right to limits.

Ideally - [again this is my *opinion*] the persons involved make sure they are compatable so that the limits aren't an issue. Ummm... example- I have no desire to engage in infantilism/diaper play. That would be a hard limit for me. However, if the person I am entering into a relationship with also has no desire to ever engage in infantilism/diaper play, the *need* for that hard limit is erroded and it becomes a non-issue. If I were exploring the idea of a relationship with someone who *needed* infantilism/diaper play in their relationship, I'd know that wasn't the right relationship for *me*.

Limits shift over time. I recognize that. There are things I enjoy today that would have horrified me 18 months ago and I'd never even heard of 5 years ago.

We all have our limits. My hard limits are still hard limits; I will not enter into a relationship with someone (BDSM or not) who has a *need* that is on my hard limits list. I will enter into a relationship with someone utterly and completely (read: no "limits") if we are compatable emotionally, mentally and physically; I will see my soft limits as grey areas open to exploration as long as our hard limits match up and become non-issues.

BTW- discovering that degree of compatability is not easy, nor does it happen quickly. I deserve everything; anyone I chose as a Lover deserves the same in return... I am willing to invest the time necessary to known in my soul that level of compatability exsists; I will not "play" without it.

(edited for a typo)

 

[Bandit58]

My ex husband wouldn't touch me when I was bleeding, and my mother did a good job of instilling in me that periods were yucky and something to be put up with It wasn't until after I left my husband that I found there were men who didn't mind having sex with me when I was menstruating. So I have done it before (PIV not oral) but I'm not really a fan of it (still to get over the old taboos!)

Master and I tend to stick with blowjobs when I'm on my period. I am on the pill and have used them to "skip" a cycle if it's necessary (for instance when I came to Australia to meet Master for the first time). However He doesn't like me doing that too often so that's reserved for special occasions

I worked for a while as a receptionist in a brothel and the girls there used pieces of sea sponge instead of tampons when they were "working" - it's soft and not able to be felt during sex. You might like to do some research on that. I have a couple of them but haven't had to use them yet.

 

[graceanne]

My ex husband wouldn't touch me when I was bleeding, and my mother did a good job of instilling in me that periods were yucky and something to be put up with It wasn't until after I left my husband that I found there were men who didn't mind having sex with me when I was menstruating. So I have done it before (PIV not oral) but I'm not really a fan of it (still to get over the old taboos!)

Master and I tend to stick with blowjobs when I'm on my period. I am on the pill and have used them to "skip" a cycle if it's necessary (for instance when I came to Australia to meet Master for the first time). However He doesn't like me doing that too often so that's reserved for special occasions

I worked for a while as a receptionist in a brothel and the girls there used pieces of sea sponge instead of tampons when they were "working" - it's soft and not able to be felt during sex. You might like to do some research on that. I have a couple of them but haven't had to use them yet.

I wasn't raised to think that they're nasty. My mother always said that it was a wonderful way to know that we can creat life . . . . blah blah blah

I hate it. I hate every disgusting, miserable moment of my period. If I could crawl out of my skin, I would. And I certainly don't blame anyone who doesn't wanna share my skin while I'm like that. Yick.

 

[chris9]

Not that mine is (thank god...I would be worried a bit), but what if your 'master' is into the whole BDSM thing....while you're on your period? Like he actually likes blood from down there?


Then what do you do? I've always thought the idea of having sex while on your period was disgusting anyway, but I haven't tried it......

Little Dragon

I'm not in a D/s relationship, but we do have sex when I'm on my period. He doesn't seem to mind, though we hold oral until later on when there's way less blood than the first two days. And I'm quite lucky that my periods are not very strong blood-wise, so maybe that makes it better.
I'm still testing myself if orgasms help with cramps I have been testing for some time and think that they probably don't, at least for me (don't get stomach cramps but back pain). Can't harm either, though

I don't feel it's disgusting. I might feel a bit uncomfortable if he were to eat me like the very first day. But honestly, if men are willing to stick their penis into a back passage, the blood in the vagina does not seem more disgusting to me.

 

[Chicklet]

I don't think I would ever let anyone, PYL or not, go down on me while I was on my period. I only feel comfortable with menstral sex if it's in the shower.

It's a limit for me - I can't get over the icky feeling and the paranoia of being dirty. (I've gotten over the ass, though... but, that proved not to be as dirty as period sex)

personally, sex while i'm having my monthly cycle doesn't feel good. orgasms happen, but are more stress relief than pleasure.

that's my own input.

 

[AvaAdore]

I've done it on a fairly regular basis, but I prefer not to during the heaviest flow because it's just messy. It's no big deal.

 

[little_dragon]

Wow...thanks guys, lol. I wasn't expecting all these comments!

Yeah, I kinda figured that if I'm the sub I wouldn't have any choice.....but EW. But now that I think of it......it does seem kinda kinky . I think I might try it....after I've become a little bit more experienced in BDSM....as long as he wants to, I mean, lol.

Little Dragon

 

[Quint]

I had no idea so many people thought of a period as nasty, taboo, etc. It's always just been a messier week but it's never so much as crossed my mind that it would keep me from being sexually active. In fact, it's the only time that T will come inside me without a condom (I'm also on the pill) so we actually really look forward to that week. I'm hornier and crave dirtier sex, I'm already lubricated (and we've never noticed any sort of irritation on his cock), and he doesn't have to worry about pulling out at the end. It's the best, and not even in a "teehee I'm being naughty" way.

 

[brioche]

I had no idea so many people thought of a period as nasty, taboo, etc. It's always just been a messier week but it's never so much as crossed my mind that it would keep me from being sexually active. In fact, it's the only time that T will come inside me without a condom (I'm also on the pill) so we actually really look forward to that week. I'm hornier and crave dirtier sex, I'm already lubricated (and we've never noticed any sort of irritation on his cock), and he doesn't have to worry about pulling out at the end. It's the best, and not even in a "teehee I'm being naughty" way.

I don't think it's a taboo with me. I have hated my period for a long time - not because it's a taboo, because I have very heavy flow and cramps and, before I went on the pill, occasionally quite nasty repeated vomiting and hot and cold chills. Also, because no one really knew about anti-inflammatories then, we didn't know why Tylenol didn't work, but my mom's enteric coated aspirin did. Thus, my first experiences with a period, before I was of sexual age, were unfailingly negative.

Also, I am anemic, and from the second day of my period on I feel very drained. It's tiring for me. I don't know if that's because of the blood or because my body draws on iron to prepare for the next one - but it's pretty reliable, the second day on I feel drained. I don't seem to have as much blood as the next person - a blood test of more than one tube requires a nap a few hours later. The time they were eliminating things and took six, I went home and slept for 18 hours.

I don't relish the thought of sex while on my period. That week is a tiring one for me, and I look forward to bed at the end of the day. I also don't relish the idea of cleaning up sheets that look like there's been a double homicide on them - as it is I have a protective sheet on the bed to guard against leaks.

If someone wanted to have sex with me, whether PIV or oral, I would let them, as long as they got the fact that *I* would be taking a shower afterwards and *they* would be cleaning up and changing the bed. It would be a definite case of Your kink, not mine.

 

[His_pita]

I have my best orgasms on about day 3 and 4 of my period. I don't mind having sex and I suppose if he wanted to do oral I would be ok with it. Just don't kiss me afterwards! I do think doing it in the shower is one of the best ways to go.

 

[Chicklet]

I kinda figured that if I'm the sub I wouldn't have any choice.....

*cough*

bullshit

*cough*