Question for DD/lg couples or people with experience in this....

[Jw75766]

I've only recently discovered this concept reading over other threads. Initially, I thought it was a sort of incest type thing but that doesn't seem to be the case from everything I've come across so far (if it is for some, no judgement from me to be clear). I guess I have a couple questions....

One, is this truly an....interest (for lack of a more fitting word) for some? Empowerment and strength seems to be such a prominent role for women nowadays, it seems contrary to me based on what society seems to be leaning towards. My second question would be, have you had success in this, was it an in person, online only or a combination of the two and did you find success and happiness in it?

I'm genuinely intrigued by the concept of it and would love to hear others' thoughts and experiences with it whether successful or not. I think it could be great way to learn someone's needs and desires while hopefully providing the needed support or guidance/protection for another under the right circumstances. Looking forward to any responses and discussions!

 

[MindYaBitness]

I've only recently discovered this concept reading over other threads. Initially, I thought it was a sort of incest type thing but that doesn't seem to be the case from everything I've come across so far (if it is for some, no judgement from me to be clear). I guess I have a couple questions....

One, is this truly an....interest (for lack of a more fitting word) for some? Empowerment and strength seems to be such a prominent role for women nowadays, it seems contrary to me based on what society seems to be leaning towards. My second question would be, have you had success in this, was it an in person, online only or a combination of the two and did you find success and happiness in it?

I'm genuinely intrigued by the concept of it and would love to hear others' thoughts and experiences with it whether successful or not. I think it could be great way to learn someone's needs and desires while hopefully providing the needed support or guidance/protection for another under the right circumstances. Looking forward to any responses and discussions!

There are a few threads for these folks to socialize & express themselves in that you might find interesting. @barefootgirl69 thread is a good example. There are many others, if you just put DD/LG in the search barb& select "search thread titles only" you'll see several

 

[Jw75766]

There are a few threads for these folks to socialize & express themselves in that you might find interesting. @barefootgirl69 thread is a good example. There are many others, if you just put DD/LG in the search barb& select "search thread titles only" you'll see several

Yes, thank you, I have been browsing those as well. The daddy's little girl thread sounds more like a place for the littles. I didn't want to intrude there as I felt like I was intruding before which was not my intention. I will continue to observe however out of curiosity to learn and just try to understand the DD/lg relationship more.

 

[cascadiabound]

Yes, thank you, I have been browsing those as well. The daddy's little girl thread sounds more like a place for the littles. I didn't want to intrude there as I felt like I was intruding before which was not my intention. I will continue to observe however out of curiosity to learn and just try to understand the DD/lg relationship more.

@barefootgirl69 thread "Daddy's little girl" (I think we are in the 4th iteration so there is a LOT to browse), is about the dynamic of DDlg which is what you are interested in exploring. Lately that thread has been a bit more of a safe space for littles, but daddys and DDlg curious are welcome as long as it is understood that those threads are not for hitting on or trying to pick up a partner. Of course, if a relationship develops organically out of interactions that begin there, that would be a different situation.

In the past both littles and daddy's have used that thread to ask questions, get help, try to self understand, etc and I believe you would be welcome to bring your questions/curiosities there.

bfg, me and others would likely help keep such conversations on track and productive.
Maybe think of a few discussion topics that you are wondering about and do a new topic once a week or so and see what kind of interactions/useful info you elicit. I find such thread discussions to be illuminating for everyone.

Good luck.

 

[MagicFlute]

As a former Daddydom, I can say that it is a really empowering dynamic for both parties. As the daddy, I get to take care of my Littles needs, to care for her, to help her grow, to ensure she does want she needs to look after herself. For us it was more a lifestyle thing rather than a sexual kink.
There was definitely that arousement and excitement when we did partake in pleasures, either solo for each other or together. There was a feeling of almost euphoria when she called me Daddy. The look she could give of love and submissiveness was literally breathtaking.

As a Babygirl, she had strength. She had the power to make or break me as much as I had the power to make or break her. Submission is a gift and should never be given to an unworthy person. Nor should it be stolen from the submissive.

There is a lot of emotions attached to, particularly, a long-term dynamic of DDLG. I don't have the words to fully encompass the relationship, but for us it was deeper and more wild than anything either of us had experienced before.

But there are different types of Daddydom and different types of Babygirl. There needs to be that deeper connection or it just feels like acting out a scene in a play. Or a badly directed porno.

That's my two cents worth anyway.

 

[Jw75766]

It definitely seems that the key factor for any successful ddlg / Dom/Sub relationship is healthy (frequent) communication and consent. That's obviously important for any relationship but especially in this situation where one is putting her/himself in a vulnerable position that could easily lead to hurt or abuse. These relationships seem to rely much more heavily on trust than traditional relationships given the nature of the submissiveness and the trust that the D will not abuse the authority/privileges extended to him/her.

@MagicFlute I do like that you brought up the power a little has over the daddy. It's probably a concept that might seem foreign to littles but if the daddy cares about the little, then how the little reacts and feels will have an effect on the daddy.

 

[cascadiabound]

Snipped from the OP

I guess I have a couple questions...

One, is this truly an....interest (for lack of a more fitting word) for some? Empowerment and strength seems to be such a prominent role for women nowadays, it seems contrary to me based on what society seems to be leaning towards. My second question would be, have you had success in this, was it an in person, online only or a combination of the two and did you find success and happiness in it?

DD/lg is definitely an interest/desirable dynamic for some. I don't believe that any form of D/s relationship is by definition antithetical to the woman (submissive/little girl) feeling her personal empowerment and strength. Many women who prefer the DD/lg dynamic are competent, responsible, powerful, and effective people in their professional /public life. But they prefer a partner/sexual relationship with someone who makes them feel deeply safe and cared for within their relationship. What that exactly looks like can vary widely from one couple to the next.

I so appreciate the steady, calming, enfolding love, guidance, and support my DD gives me in every moment. I always know/feel that he wants me to be the most me I can be. Taking on big things, learning new things, being effective, proud and powerful in my life. He has my back. And I have his. I know I can always ask for his help and his opinion and his response will always be in the context of how to help me be my best. I love that I can lean on him. That I don't have to figure everything out for myself.

I function best when in a power exchange dynamic. I am a caregiver, teacher and submissive sexually by nature. When I can trust that he's got me, he's gonna take care of me and wrap me in his control emotionally/sexually, I become more free, more myself, less anxious, more confident, empowered in my sexuality and life. All good kinds of MORE. Submitting to him soothes my soul, reduces my anxiety and when I get too deeply in my squirrel/hamster dark hole of spinning brain ineffective decision/uncertainty/anxiety/negative self talk or imposter syndrome, I know he'll be able to ground me and pull me out of it all that unhealthy bs with his control. Give me a task to complete, pull me into his lap (ultimate safety) give me a big Ole spanking session so my busy worried brain gets wiped clean and I remember that I am his little girl. His good girl. His nasty depraved fuck toy needing all the control and direction so I can be freed from all the cognitive dissonance and the weight of my responsibilities while he cares for me, uses me, denies me, turns me into a puddle of need or a languid pile of utterly satisfied girl flesh. My daddy. His little girl. Wrapped in a control dynamic and co equal partners in this delicious kinky adventure.