Question for all the other BBW ladies and lovers

[foofoo416]

Oops, I guess the playground is best for this, since it's not a personal. I just have a quick question for all the other BBW ladies here, and even for those who love us. Does it ever bother you (offend is too strong I think, it's all in fun anyway) that all the BBW stories are considered Fetish? It is just a physical preference, like brunette or blond, big tits or small...not a kinky closet fixation...at least it shouldn't be. And why are all the women in these things hairy and sweaty? I'm sorry, but I know how to shave it good, and I can keep nice and clean. Why does fat need to mean dirty? Any thoughts? (And nothing against those who prefer a full bush, but I resent the implication that big girls can't groom)

 

[MississippiGent]

Oops, I guess the playground is best for this, since it's not a personal. I just have a quick question for all the other BBW ladies here, and even for those who love us. Does it ever bother you (offend is too strong I think, it's all in fun anyway) that all the BBW stories are considered Fetish? It is just a physical preference, like brunette or blond, big tits or small...not a kinky closet fixation...at least it shouldn't be. And why are all the women in these things hairy and sweaty? I'm sorry, but I know how to shave it good, and I can keep nice and clean. Why does fat need to mean dirty? Any thoughts? (And nothing against those who prefer a full bush, but I resent the implication that big girls can't groom)

The wat a woman is portrayed in any particular story is strictly the writers own personal preferences. If a BBW in a story is being portrayed as as dirty, sweaty or hairy, to me that just represents the writers interest. I don't see it as classifying ALL BBW'S into that category. As far as the "fetish" part, I can see how it can be seen that way. Lots of people have "fetishes", whether its BDSM, watersports, blondes, brunettes, redheads or BBW'S. Anytime people seek a particular thing and rule out others that do not fit into "their" category, i guess it can be considered a fetish for that person.

Does ANY of my jabbering here make sense?.............lol

 

[babydoll2u]

Perfect sense MG and I agree with you completely.

 

[foofoo416]

I agree, and I totally get what you are saying. I just wondered if anyone else ever noticed it. It was brought to my attention that there are plenty of BBW stories throughout the rest of the site, and that makes me very happy. I just know that whenever I looked for them, the only ones that ever came up were the type I described. Like I said before, I know it's all in fun anyway, and I'm thrilled to find ANY bbw stories around, I was just thinking about it and wondered if anyone else had noticed it. One topic I am thrilled to be wrong about! Plus, I have nothing against the fetish category at all, it just tends to lump so many things together. You could term any preference a fetish, I agree, but it always seems to take on a taboo meaning, like something secretive or depraved. I just didn't like the thought of someone who appreciated bbw being looked upon as having a kinky fetish. We need more of these wonderful men who are loud and proud!

 

[MississippiGent]

I agree, and I totally get what you are saying. I just wondered if anyone else ever noticed it. It was brought to my attention that there are plenty of BBW stories throughout the rest of the site, and that makes me very happy. I just know that whenever I looked for them, the only ones that ever came up were the type I described. Like I said before, I know it's all in fun anyway, and I'm thrilled to find ANY bbw stories around, I was just thinking about it and wondered if anyone else had noticed it. One topic I am thrilled to be wrong about! Plus, I have nothing against the fetish category at all, it just tends to lump so many things together. You could term any preference a fetish, I agree, but it always seems to take on a taboo meaning, like something secretive or depraved. I just didn't like the thought of someone who appreciated bbw being looked upon as having a kinky fetish. We need more of these wonderful men who are loud and proud!

I totally understand the points you are bringing out here. And it is true that there are those people who choose to look at all BBW's as being the sweaty, hairy type and that is SO SAD. If people would only take time to try to KNOW others, the world would be a much better place. I am speaking from experience and very proud to stand up and say loudly that my wife, who by the way is 5'4 and 180 lbs, is the most SEXY, LOVING, CARING, OPEN MINDED, HORNIEST and MOST SPONTANEOUS woman that I have ever met. And every time we get out of the car in public, we are holding hands or have interlocked arms. I am proud that she is mine and I love to show her to the world.
As far as loving BBW's being a fetish? If that is what people want to classify it as, then I am one of those people with this fetish. And DAMN proud of it. Does that mean that I don't like other ladies too? HELL NO! The wife and I play around with other couples occasionally and we have great times with people of all ages and shapes. So if its a fetish, then SO BE IT! HEY, I LIKE being "kinky", its a hell of a lot of fun.
So Foof, we are here, the BBW lovers. NOT because they are "easy", and that is one thing that I have heard from some guys, but because of who you are and the way you represent yourself.
Sexy isn't a look...........its an ATTITUDE. YOU GO GIRL.

As far as the stories go. I have been working on one here lately with another author from here in the south. Haven't thought of it falling in the BBW category but it very well could. Will make sure you get the link when it finally hits the site. I will assure you......these aren't and hot, sweaty, hairy women.

KISSES

 

[foofoo416]

I totally understand the points you are bringing out here. And it is true that there are those people who choose to look at all BBW's as being the sweaty, hairy type and that is SO SAD. If people would only take time to try to KNOW others, the world would be a much better place. I am speaking from experience and very proud to stand up and say loudly that my wife, who by the way is 5'4 and 180 lbs, is the most SEXY, LOVING, CARING, OPEN MINDED, HORNIEST and MOST SPONTANEOUS woman that I have ever met. And every time we get out of the car in public, we are holding hands or have interlocked arms. I am proud that she is mine and I love to show her to the world.
As far as loving BBW's being a fetish? If that is what people want to classify it as, then I am one of those people with this fetish. And DAMN proud of it. Does that mean that I don't like other ladies too? HELL NO! The wife and I play around with other couples occasionally and we have great times with people of all ages and shapes. So if its a fetish, then SO BE IT! HEY, I LIKE being "kinky", its a hell of a lot of fun.
So Foof, we are here, the BBW lovers. NOT because they are "easy", and that is one thing that I have heard from some guys, but because of who you are and the way you represent yourself.
Sexy isn't a look...........its an ATTITUDE. YOU GO GIRL.

As far as the stories go. I have been working on one here lately with another author from here in the south. Haven't thought of it falling in the BBW category but it very well could. Will make sure you get the link when it finally hits the site. I will assure you......these aren't and hot, sweaty, hairy women.

KISSES

I have said it before and I will say it again...We need more men like you! Your wife is a very lucky lady! And hell yes i'd love that link, lol.

 

[agent2407]

Can I put it simply? I have lots of fetishes and I love them.

Could you not see fetish in a positive light, wallow in it and enjoy it?

 

[DyerStr8ts]

Can I put it simply? I have lots of fetishes and I love them.

Could you not see fetish in a positive light, wallow in it and enjoy it?

Exactly!

 

[Lookinguphill]

We all see what we want to see, feel what we want to feel, create what we want to create etc. I can't say that i have noticed the exact trend that you speak of but I have seen what you talked about here and there. BBW, such as yourself are wonderful, loving, and I am glad to say that I have one by my side through whatever comes our way.We all do need to open our eyes sometimes and realize that we all dont fit in some sort of stereotype, and get to know indiviuals for whom and what they are. I am glad that you decided to poin out your opinion on here Foof, and sorry if I am running around on tangents or such. I have writing stories in the past and maybe one day I shall submit on on here. But I do hope we see a bit more of what you are looking for.

 

[emacat]

Can I put it simply? I have lots of fetishes and I love them.

Could you not see fetish in a positive light, wallow in it and enjoy it?

I certainly do enjoy my fetishes, but I see where Foof is going. As more curvy women, we want a guy who isn't hesitant to take us out and to enjoy being with us, but just as I wouldn't want to be with a guy who no longer likes me 'cause i'm big- I also wouldn't want one who no longer wants me if I become "too thin".
I think maybe it can be related to like this- I haven't seen a "fetish" category about men with large dicks, or solely for "thin" ladies. To me fetish is not about physical appearance, it's about an action that is enjoyed, or an inanimate object such as shoes.
I hope I don't sound too harsh-

 

[foofoo416]

Can I put it simply? I have lots of fetishes and I love them.

Could you not see fetish in a positive light, wallow in it and enjoy it?

I have nothing against fetishes! I swear! I just didn't like the idea of all bbw stories being listed in the fetish category. Which I already said that I found was incorrect. I like the idea of fetishes, they make things fun and different. I was bothered by the idea of people seeing bbw as a fetish, instead of a favored trait. Someone pointed out to me that the writers of those stories probably just had a hairy fetish, and liked bbw, so they put the two together, and I read it the wrong way. Wonderful point. That's why I said I was wrong. This is so going in a completely different direction than it was intended. I only wondered if any other bbw ladies had run across those stories and wished that there were better representations. That's all. Swear on all that is holy, I am not attacking fetishes or fans of hairy women, etc. I just thought to put out a question and see if anyone agreed.

Also, it was also brought to my attention that the literal meaning of a fetish is a fixation on an inanimate object, like shoes or leather or rubber, and hair, lol. Liking a woman for certain features is just having a favored trait, like big tits and green eyes. That was what I was trying to say all along, and why I was bothered by the fetish idea. A bbw is not an object, but a sexy wonderful person. If you like that in a woman, then you just like big women. Now if you want to see her in high heels, leather and tied up with rubber tubes...that's a fetish. LOL. And you would also sound like a fun date, lol. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with that!

 

[liv2lik]

I don't see it as a fetish, but maybe a preference. In reading and viewing things in the fetish/bbw catagory, they seem to miss the real target for me. I agree that there is a proliferation of material that is somewhat derogatory. My interest are totally created from experience rather than fantasy. Ive dated some fat women who were mind blowing kissers...or whose body just excited me ...or the image of their beautiful sexy ass bent over while I was sliding my.....*ahem* well, you get the idea.lol.

 

[babydoll2u]

I certainly do enjoy my fetishes, but I see where Foof is going. As more curvy women, we want a guy who isn't hesitant to take us out and to enjoy being with us, but just as I wouldn't want to be with a guy who no longer likes me 'cause i'm big- I also wouldn't want one who no longer wants me if I become "too thin".
I think maybe it can be related to like this- I haven't seen a "fetish" category about men with large dicks, or solely for "thin" ladies. To me fetish is not about physical appearance, it's about an action that is enjoyed, or an inanimate object such as shoes.
I hope I don't sound too harsh-

Yup I agree with you ema

 

[TonyUK]

Just to say my piece;
I've never thought of BBWs being in anyway a fetish, then again there any many "topics" for want of a better word that some have to categorise - me, if I like someone/something, I just like it I don't feel it has to be pidgeon holed.
And besides, whether someone ios fat, thin, short, tall etc is all relative and a matter of opinion surely?
However, in my own humble opinion, the "BBWs" I have been with have probably been the sexiest girls I have come across, (pun intended) as they seem to just be themselves. The "perfect model" types often seem to have the biggest hang-ups and can't let themselves go easily. Maybe I should have married a fat girl this time instead of the petite wife I have, then I would be back to having wicked sex every day!!!!!
Tony

 

[College_geek]

It has only bothered me once, and that was when some guy was flaming me in my old pic thread or via AIM, I forget, but basically he said something about how "fat chicks are disgusting" and the stories, magazines, and videos that feature bbws are considered fetish because the majority of people don't approve of it or don't like it. His argument was that thin women are used all the time in mainstream porn, but bbws are in the fetish section and this was a sign that only some freaks liked bbws. It really steamed me. I hate fuckers like that.

Now if I had known back then some of the other things that are considered fetishes, such as only red heads or only brunettes, I could've used that as an argument back. Are women with red head not approved by people? Are they not in the mainstream? No way.

Other than that one incident, it doesn't bother me very much. Maybe some day bbws will be seen in mainstream porn as society changes and people's tastes change. In the 70s, everyone was very hairy and kind of flabby, but people watched it. Maybe in another 20 years, porn will be something else.

 

[TonyUK]

I've got croppd dark brown hair with specks of grey, I wonder if there's a fetish crowd who go for that???
Maybe that's it - if you only like one "thing" then that thing must be your fetish?
Me, I like all women untill I get in their heads, then some of them, I really like!!!

 

[Lyrical Fool]

I've got croppd dark brown hair with specks of grey, I wonder if there's a fetish crowd who go for that???

If it is, where do I sign up for the fetish club?

Maybe that's it - if you only like one "thing" then that thing must be your fetish?

Maybe, but seems so damn limiting to me.

Me, I like all women untill I get in their heads, then some of them, I really like!!!

Me, I'm just the opposite. I like very few people until I get in their heads, then some of them I adore, and others ... meh.

 

[TonyUK]

You have my kind of attitude Lyrical Fool - wicked!
Where were you when I was young, free and single???

 

[Lyrical Fool]

You have my kind of attitude Lyrical Fool - wicked!

Wicked is as wicked does.

Where were you when I was young

Just beginning my education in wickedness, I'm thinking.

free

Were you ever truly free?

and single???

Apparently too far away from someone who shares my sense of humor, or what passes for it, at any rate.

 

[TonyUK]

Actually, when I was young, free and single I was more likely inexperienceed, niaive and desperate!!!
Now I'm older, wiser and have the confidence to know what I enjoy and want - even if I don't always get it - damn!

 

[Lorelei_11]

I read this story and there were three girls, one was a bbw. All were described normally, physically. The bbw was described in terms of food. Her legs looked like ham hocks for example. She was also the only one described in a derogatory way. She had pimples on her ass. Which implied she didn't keep herself clean. Also, she was the feisty one that backed up into his cock so hard and wildly that she almost knocked him over. He had to laugh about that.

I read it shaking my head.

 

[Lyrical Fool]

Actually, when I was young, free and single I was more likely inexperienceed, niaive and desperate!!!
Now I'm older, wiser and have the confidence to know what I enjoy and want - even if I don't always get it - damn!

You ain't kidding.

Age has its benefits.

 

[Lyrical Fool]

I read this story and there were three girls, one was a bbw. All were described normally, physically. The bbw was described in terms of food. Her legs looked like ham hocks for example. She was also the only one described in a derogatory way. She had pimples on her ass. Which implied she didn't keep herself clean. Also, she was the feisty one that backed up into his cock so hard and wildly that she almost knocked him over. He had to laugh about that.

I read it shaking my head.

How sad. At least he got the feisty part right.

 

[Lorelei_11]

How sad. At least he got the feisty part right.

Yeah, the fiesty part would be good if it had been presented in a positive light.

The way it came off was he found it funny that she needed the fuck so badly. So, badly that she was pushing back into his cock, and almost knocked him over... I'm not positive, but I think he referred to her as pushing back into him like a heifer cow.

 

[TonyUK]

I honestly can't see what size and hygiene, (or even hairyness like someone earlier mentioned) have in common; the worst woman I ever slept with from a hygiene point of view was tiny - and hairy, (her choice!) on the other hand, I had a gf once who was what some would call a BBW - she was fun, flirtacious, incredibly sexy and clean enough you could eat your dinner off her, in fact she often was my dinner. And as she was blonde, (something that has far more to do with hair ammount than size is head hair colour) had hardly any hair!
Why aren;t we still together? damn!