Question for ALL members over 50 here...
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Older men just have the wisdom, the know how, and usually... the experiance to be loving, caring and nurturing.
I am highly attracted to older men. But the young ones are pretty attractive too. Ah hell, I am a fuckslut so don't listen to moi.
I am interested to see what the consensus is.
I am highly attracted to older men. But the young ones are pretty attractive too. Ah hell, I am a fuckslut so don't listen to moi.
I am interested to see what the consensus is.
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I am 36, age isn't a great factor for me, though I tend to be attracted to more mature women, usually in their early to mid thirties and up. Not to say that I dont find younger ladies attractive, but I get soooo turned on by the age group mentioned above.
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I have generally been attracted to older men and women. I am 38 now and pretty comfortable with my age group. I basically consider anybody between the ages of 30 and 50 my contemporaries.
When I was in my 20s I had a big thing for men in their 40s. I dated a couple of men older than my father was at that time. It was a huge turn on, but I'm not sure what they found attractive about me.
I know that young bodies are very attractive, but I personally prefer experience over youth.
When I was in my 20s I had a big thing for men in their 40s. I dated a couple of men older than my father was at that time. It was a huge turn on, but I'm not sure what they found attractive about me.
I know that young bodies are very attractive, but I personally prefer experience over youth.
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*bratcat* said:Ok...I am 39...a very loud broadcasted statement around here...anyways, I think that MOST of the men I have become attracted to online have been either edging 50 or well over...I honestly don't think I have become attracted to many of them less than 50 (well, except for a very few chosen womenand Juspar)...or is that just a figment of my imagination? Are there really more 30-45 age people that I talk to and I just don't know it? IF you are edging 50 or older...what appeals to you about the ones my age...or even younger? IF you are younger than 50...what appeals to you about the older ones?
I'm 50 and I can only speak for myself and I don't know much except I KNOW I don't know much. As I get older, I have shed many of the superficial aspects of a relationship, one of which is the age of your friend/mate/partner. I am interested in WHO you are not how old you are. Granted, a teenager and I would have virtually nothing in common and thus building a relationship would be extremely difficult if not impossible. As I get older, I have learned to be very honest and direct about how I feel about someone and what I want from them and what I want to give to them. It's what is in your mind, your spirit, your wants and needs that attracts me not your chronological age. Maybe that is what drives you as well, Bratcat.
Take care.
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Having experience about the same as your age group is good, but what I look for is relative mental maturity. We've been over this beofe in the age threads, and of course many young women are very attractive, but so are many older women so I don't think that is it. Up until recently I had not even considered anybody more than 15 years younger than me for several reasons:Rubyfruit said:
1) I didn't think they would really be interested in someone my age, and I think that is generally true with some exceptions. It jsut never really occured to me that someone half my age would really be interested in me.
2) Many women don't really mature enough for me until they are 25-30, and again there are exceptions.
3) Many women half my age have yet to have families, and most eventually want to have children. I have already raised my children and I don't want to sire more (existing children may be an exception).
So Bratcat, except for the fact that you are married, someone your age would not at all be out of the running for me. I have an upper age range but I would date someone who looked like Ann Margaret and she is almost 15 years older than me, so...
What I look for is someone who is single, that shares my interests and philosophies, who is within my attraction spectrum, and who is upbeat and freindly. Age really doesn't come into those criteria that much as I have seen people in all age groups up to their 60s that qualify.
Does that answer your question?
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If you weren't canadian..........and married........and with 4 kids, etc.etc.etc.etc.etc.
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Shy Tall Guy said:
Relative being the operative word in that sentence.
In my opinion, mental maturity has less to do with it than life experiences. A person in their early 20s has so much to experience and do. Let's all think back a moment here? Where was your head at 20? Did you really know who you were? What you wanted in life? If you didn't marry your high school sweetheart, do you think that was the one for you, now that you have matured? I know mine wasn't the one for me, although I was absolutely in love with him at the time.
I'm not slamming young people. To the contrary, I believe that people in their early 20s are at a wonderful time in their lives. Poised on the brink of discovery. Everything is new. Freedom is new! Living independently is new. Roommates! Dating. Bars. Jobs. Coming home for Christmas instead of waking up to it.
On the other hand, as a woman on the brink of 40, I no longer find myself attracted to the "older man" as a rule. Because an older man for me would be 60 and at a much different phase in his life than I am. Perhaps ready for retirement. Probably not interested in starting a family. (this is hypothetical as I am happily married)
Sorry I got off on a bit of a rant. I've even forgotten the initial question of this thread at this point.
Big age differences. Sometimes they work, but most often, I think it's a train wreck waiting to happen.
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My head was wondering how I was going to support my wife and my newborn baby after I had just been fired in the middle the mid 70's recession (much worse than it is now).Rubyfruit said:
Like I said in the threads on age differences, I have met people who in their 20s are more mature than people I know in their 40s. Yeah in some ways they are still immature, but I know a lady who just turned 30 who acts almost like she just got out of high school, my ex who at 45 is in many ways so immature that she was better off 15 years ago in that respect. It depends o nthe person - but yes, young people still have a lot of life to live and experience to pick up. It is not that I go searching them out, quite the opposite, but I am not going to arbitrarily rule them out like I once did.
Maybe, but what is a guy to do - set hard and fast age limits?
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Copied from Shy Tall Guy's Post...
"Maybe, but what is a guy to do - set hard and fast age limits?"
It depends on what you're looking for.
If you're in search of a long-term relationship, and you have the time taking into consideration advancing years, then I suppose a bottom age limit doesn't matter.
But if you're perfectly happy and at ease with yourself and only need female company on certain occasions then it would be better to select one closer to your own age.
Once the sex is over you have to talk about something other than the latest hit music, why can't everyone live in peace and "Oh God I'm worried about my grades!"
"Maybe, but what is a guy to do - set hard and fast age limits?"
It depends on what you're looking for.
If you're in search of a long-term relationship, and you have the time taking into consideration advancing years, then I suppose a bottom age limit doesn't matter.
But if you're perfectly happy and at ease with yourself and only need female company on certain occasions then it would be better to select one closer to your own age.
Once the sex is over you have to talk about something other than the latest hit music, why can't everyone live in peace and "Oh God I'm worried about my grades!"
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I am seeking a relationship, preferably long term, but if it only lasted 6 months then that is better than nothing - which is what I have now.p_p_man said:
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NOT 50..............does bratcat still love me????
I haven't really been involved with anyone way older then me, maybe a couple years but thats it.........now younger...........lol
......does bratcat still love me????I haven't really been involved with anyone way older then me, maybe a couple years but thats it.........now younger...........lol
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april-wine said:.....does bratcat still love me????
You almost lost her earlier...
I nearly persuaded her to pay for my fare and get me a Green Card in return for limitless, wild, inventive sex...
But she confessed she had no money
Ah well...
