Question: Do you believe in soul mates and if so have you met yours??

[Sinful]

Curious minds want to know if you believe in soul mates (married or not) Have you found yours and is he/she the one you are married to if you are married ??

 

[Sinful]

As for me I told myself I had for along time But I was just fooling myself then one day lo' and behold there he was most days I want to kill him but damn does he rock my world

 

[luv1]

Nope. I do not believe there's a person out there just for you. The idea of a "Mr/Mrs Right" is just simplistic. it goes along the same line of thinking as "happy ever after" or "It will all be alright in the end". This is real life. No it wont.

 

[JonasQ]

If I believed in soul mates, I'd have to come to the conclusion that mine must have died at birth.

 

[HollyHawkk]

I believe in soul mates. I think that the universe provides us more than one. That a soul mate can be of the same sex as you. That you can have a soul mate relationship with out sex.

To me a soul mate experience is trusting that person completely... a feeling that you know a person so well that you can finish there thoughts.

These are the people you can count on to always be your friend no matter the distance or the time you have been apart.

These are the people you instantly feel at home with even though they are not family, and you may have not known them long.

I think it is rare to marry your soul mate, and if you do you are so lucky! But you don't need that connection to have a long loving caring relationship with a person. Just my thoughts on it.

 

[Stryderthorongil]

I believe in soul mates. I think that the universe provides us more than one. That a soul mate can be of the same sex as you. That you can have a soul mate relationship with out sex.

To me a soul mate experience is trusting that person completely... a feeling that you know a person so well that you can finish there thoughts.

These are the people you can count on to always be your friend no matter the distance or the time you have been apart.

These are the people you instantly feel at home with even though they are not family, and you may have not known them long.

I think it is rare to marry your soul mate, and if you do you are so lucky! But you don't need that connection to have a long loving caring relationship with a person. Just my thoughts on it.

Wow, I was going to add something here, but after reading this, I have nothing to add...Thanks Holly

 

[carrie-on]

I sure do!! I met my soulmate when I was 17 and 30 yrs later we are still married soulmates!!

 

[babydoll2u]

I believe in soul mates. I think that the universe provides us more than one. That a soul mate can be of the same sex as you. That you can have a soul mate relationship with out sex.

To me a soul mate experience is trusting that person completely... a feeling that you know a person so well that you can finish there thoughts.

These are the people you can count on to always be your friend no matter the distance or the time you have been apart.

These are the people you instantly feel at home with even though they are not family, and you may have not known them long.

I think it is rare to marry your soul mate, and if you do you are so lucky! But you don't need that connection to have a long loving caring relationship with a person. Just my thoughts on it.

wow... I totally and completely agree....



have I met him yet ?............................possibility

 

[DLL]

heres my thoughts:
A soulmate is someone who has the locks to fit our keys, and the keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are,we can be loved for who we are and for who we're pretending to be. Each of us unveils the best part of one another. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person were safe in our paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we're two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we've found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life. "



A dictionary definition is: One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity. Someone for whom you have a deep affinity . A person temperamentally suited to another.

 

[Darkknight2010]

I believe in soul mates. I think that the universe provides us more than one. That a soul mate can be of the same sex as you. That you can have a soul mate relationship with out sex.

To me a soul mate experience is trusting that person completely... a feeling that you know a person so well that you can finish there thoughts.

These are the people you can count on to always be your friend no matter the distance or the time you have been apart.

These are the people you instantly feel at home with even though they are not family, and you may have not known them long.

I think it is rare to marry your soul mate, and if you do you are so lucky! But you don't need that connection to have a long loving caring relationship with a person. Just my thoughts on it.

Ditto. Frankly I always laugh when people assume 'Ther eis only one!' and say they married that person. Bullshit. so let me get this right, out of 3 BILLION PEOPLE, you found this one? You wanna pick lottery tickets for me? That would be nice too.

I do believe in soulmates. I've met wto. One who's in Boston, the other who's in Utah. How did I find them? I GOT LUCKY! AND the simple fact we trusted each other with EVERYTHING. No holding back at all; dreams, nightmares, what we screwed up, what we'er trying to fix, silly things like what our favorite flowers are, the works!

Finding someone to date/marry is EASY; you find someone you can tolerate and just suck it up until you get sick of eachother. It's settling. It amazes me how often peopple say 'I found my soulmate' and spend so much time bitching about them.

Is it perfection? Heck no. It's about acceptance. My soulmates have ALWAYS respected and encouraged who I man, and vise-versa. yes, we could also drive ach other nuts about other things, but such is life. Perfection is osmething you HOPE for, but as someone mentioned this is real life.

I think what makes the soul-mate search so ugly is that people assume this silly 'happily ever afger' blah, blah, blah, blah.

Is finding a soulmate 'happily ever after'? Hell no... in both cases we went seperate ways and it hurt like hell! when things were rough with one of them, we talked and she said 'love isnt' enough'. She's right. It's NOT. Timing, growth, where you are in your path in your life, all conspire against you.

The hard fact of the matter is the universe doesnt' care if we hook up or not. Sorry, plain truth. The universe is about 6 billion people trying to not blow each other up, starve, or other nastiness. What a single person does... well, unless you're the next Einstine or Ghandi, the univerese doens't care.

BUT WE AS INDIVIDUALS DO CARE! So we fight, we strive, but like everything else in lfe there is a VERY imiportant balance. yes, we strive to find someone who is our soulmate, but to delude yourself into a prince/princess charming... well you're 1 inch away from disaster and siappointment.

there's an Buddhist saying; life is suffering. Sounds masochistic, but it's VERY true. If you REALLY truely want to find someone who is THAT close to you... it take stime, work, fighting, hoping... and getting burned. it happens. If it DIDN'T hurt, then you weren't that close ot the person and you were just looking for something that was simple and 'comfortable'.

Soulmates for me were NEVER comfortable. They know you so well that they can, AND WILL challenge you to grow, force you to see things in a differnt light. Why? What about acceptance? There's a huge difference between acceptance, and seeiing someone/somethign stagnate. Soulmates DON'T want to see thigns stagnate.. .in the end it's about growing, become so much more then you thought.

There's the great line from 'As Good as it gets'; you make me want to be a better man. That's what a soulmate does; you want to be the best person you can be. It's along, hard, search... hopefully you get there.

(And OMG I ddin't think I would ramble like that. lol! My apologies for the typos. Stream of consciousness will do that. )

 

[Stryderthorongil]

I used to believe that a soul mate was out there. Someone who would let you be who you are, understand, be themselves, no pretenses. Someone who will always tell you the truth, even when you don't want to hear it. Someone whose thoughts match yours, romantically, sexually, and everyday activities. Not sure that exists, although you can try if the other person is willing. But, a truly romantic, love at first site, can't live without you soulmate? I think all we can do is try our best to share who we are and hope the other accepts that, faults and all.

 

[keiffers]

Someone is out there for you, you just have to allow things to happen naturally. I believe in it, as I have one but she is married and several hours away. I'm happy just in the basis that we have gotten to know each other over the last several years and what happens in the future will happen for a reason. Otherwise I think if there is someone else out there, I'll meet them when the time is right.

 

[babydoll2u]

quite a bit of cynicism there...

 

[ESH419]

'Course i do. But echoing some of what's been said.. the world isn't so black and white where you find one single person you get to be with.

I'm a dude and i've got friends that are like brothers to me. My best friend is a girl tho and we could never be in a romantic relationship without ripping each other to pieces. I've been in love with more than one woman at a time. Sometimes i feel i'll never "get over" my first love so in a way i'll always be in love with more than one woman.

There world is never so kind as to be black and white. All you've got to do make yourself happy and do your damnedest to make other people happy in the process.

 

[babydoll2u]

I used to believe that a soul mate was out there. Someone who would let you be who you are, understand, be themselves, no pretenses. Someone who will always tell you the truth, even when you don't want to hear it. Someone whose thoughts match yours, romantically, sexually, and everyday activities. Not sure that exists, although you can try if the other person is willing. But, a truly romantic, love at first site, can't live without you soulmate? I think all we can do is try our best to share who we are and hope the other accepts that, faults and all.

I do believe in soulmates... But do I believe there is a "love at first site, can't live without you" soulmate? No. I believe that soulmates are created, built, nourished... over time... as you come to know, love, open your soul to and trust each other... that a soulmate relationship is something you grow into... with the right person.

However there must be a connection with the other person, a draw, if you will.. something that brings you together, clicks, and holds you there. And somehow you know... you just know... that this is the one...

and I'm still waiting... lol... maybe...

 

[omahaman2]

"I've heard of "soul mate" before, but I never knew they could exist until I met her here"

In your life you will find one person, your forever love, your forever friend. This person is your soul mate, your one true love, and your best friend. The love between you will go beyond words, and be spoken deep within the eyes. This feeling, this connection, will never be broken. They will truly show you that forever means, forever."

Thank you LIT for bringing us together!

 

[shannon_est]

Yes, I believe there is someone out there for everybody. They may not be a perfect match, but there is some bond that brings and holds them together. We may have to travel down many roads to find them, but I believe that one day we all meet our other half.

Have I found him yet? Possibly...
Does he know it? I'm not sure yet....

 

[babydoll2u]

a 'bump' cuz I like this thread...

 

[Shagly]

Still on the great soulmate search, I know she is out there somewhere.

 

[dcraz]

I think HollyHawkk came closest to articulating my feelings on ‘soul mates’ or at least what that term means to me.

First of all, I believe there are multiple people for everyone. You can fall completely in love and get married to more than one person (i.e. if your spouse dies, you can fall in love again with another). The odds are just too great if there were ever only one person for each of us. The same goes for soul mates. You can have more than one, even at the same time.

For me, a soul mate is someone as DLL described them. Both her description and the text book definition. And no, your spouse does not need to be your soul mate nor vice versa. They can be, but it does not make a spouse that is not your soul mate less of a spouse. To me, they can be, often are, but not always different people. The simplest explanation of the feeling of a soul mate is someone with whom you just ‘click’. Someone with whom you share your inner most feelings. Your dreams, hopes, fears and desires. Someone that makes you feel completely comfortable being you.

We may never find a soul mate. Not everyone does. If we do, are they soul mates for ever? Sadly, not always. But they can be everything to you when the feeling is there. However long it may last. I also believe it is possible for one to be a soul mate for another but not in a reciprocal manner.

Have I found my soul mate? I have been lucky enough to find such a person.

 

[WantonWitch]

I was lucky, I met mine when I was 17, married him 26 and was very happy until I lost him to cancer at 41,he was 45, he was not only my husband but my best friend too, my rock when I was down and the person who celebrated all my highs. Don't get me wrong, life wasn't all flowers and smiles, there were bad times too but there were far more good/great/fantastic/f***ing excellent (excuse my language) times.

 

[luv1]

Jebbus, I didn't realize I was this cynical. I just don’t see how there can be one. I’m starting to think I’m far too bittered for my own good

 

[Solivagant]

All these lovely and romantic ideas...so sweet. I tend to call these people my friends, of which I have very few. Of course there are degrees of friendship, such as the friends I have here that I associate with almost daily, but have never actually met- people that I recognize by screen names. There are those who I trust and spend time with face-to-face. Some mean more to me than others, and some I trust more than others.

But enduring soulmates? I have very few that could step back into my life at any given moment and we'd immediately click as if never apart. My husband, who is near me every day and understands me like no other (indeed, like no othre has an opportunity to). Ultimately, though, I remain whole apart from these people, and doubt that there is a soulmate who completes me, or complements me so well that I would say, "This person is like a part of me."

 

[MrFantasyMan]

Soulmates?...is this something we believe in?...or something we long for?...what we believe, in most cases, is what makes it real. Many diverse opinions have been expressed, quite elegantly I might add, because we either want or need to believe/not believe that we all have a purpose. What follows is just my thoughts and expressions...


Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around.

You tell them things that you've never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more.

You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you.

When something wonderful happens, you can't wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement.

They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself.

Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful.

There is never any pressure or competition
but only a quiet calmness when they are around.

You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are.

The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever.

Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn't exist at all.

A phone call or two during the day helps to get you
through a long day's work and always brings a smile to your face.

In their presence, there's no need for continuous conversation, but you find you're quite content in just having them nearby.

You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon.

You open your heart knowing that there's a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible.

You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that's so real it scares you.

You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and
possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end.

Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life...


if this means I believe in soulmates so be it...I would rather think that these people in our lives are truely gifts...come into our lives for a reason and ultimately become a part of who we are. Life is a journey to be shared and it is a sweet thought that a "soulmate" is one to share it with...

 

[babydoll2u]

hhmmmmm... wouldn't a "soulmate" (or whatever we want to label him/her) not only accept you as you are, but encourage you to better yourself? grow? become your very best? With that said, I think that, to say that they never hurt your feelings, or that there's never any pressure... could be a bit idealistic... but a very nice thought.

I wonder if a person like that exists... anywhere...