question about the penis

[WhimsyOne]

I would like to state that I do not have a lot of experience with the penis but certian things should make sense and they don't.

1. Can a guy truely not feel when they come? Or is that just a nice way to say I am done having sex with you and I am not that attracted to you?

2. What is the general rule for hardness? I ask because it seems that this person I know only gets to that semi-hard state where most other men I have seen are at after they have cum or before they are completely hard.

I don't know if it is just me or I was seeing a guy who had many issues. And yes I am insecure enough to think that it is mostly just me. it is what tends to happen with little experience.

Thank you for the time

 

[jre1962]

I'm pretty sure your guy had issues. There is certainly never any question on my part when I come.


John

P.s. I would love to help you get more experience

 

[TallMan60]

I aways know when I come, and I think that all guys are like that. Some guys of course have trouble coming, and some have trouble being hard. Usually this is an issue with the man, but if for some reason he's not that attracted then that's a possible manifestation of that. There are lots of reasons for these things.

 

[WhimsyOne]

I'm pretty sure your guy had issues. There is certainly never any question on my part when I come.


John

P.s. I would love to help you get more experience

Thank you for the offer it is very sweet of you.

I am just curious about this it just seems so strange. But thank you

 

[WhimsyOne]

I aways know when I come, and I think that all guys are like that. Some guys of course have trouble coming, and some have trouble being hard. Usually this is an issue with the man, but if for some reason he's not that attracted then that's a possible manifestation of that. There are lots of reasons for these things.

That is an idea. And the not attracted to me thing has crossed my mind. thank you for your time, I do appreicate it

 

[pinkflames]

Just from my experience, different guys reach different levels of hardness. Some get rock hard and some still feel a little soft even at their horniest.

Haven't heard of a guy not feeling when he cums though.

 

[yummielady]

my guy knows when he comes

 

[infinity706]

Honestly, I woudn't worry too much about it right now. He might be as nervous and inexperienced as you are. I'd say give it a couple more tries before you worry about whether there's a problem.

As for the not being attracted to you, I doubt that. If he got off as fast as you describe, he very likely desires you. It's very normal for guys to cum fast and women to not get off at all on penetration. If you're worried about him lasting longer, it's possible, but now without sacrificing enjoyment on his part. Of course, even if you can get him to last for an hour, it's quite possible that you're still not going to get off since most women don't.

There are serveral ways around the issue, though. You could always get a vibrator if you're confortable introducing it to him. Of course, some guys get jealous of toys. You could get him to lick your pussy if you haven't already. That should get you all fired up and if done until you're right on the edge, he might even be able to get you off super fast with his cock. Just make sure to shower before sex.

 

[fgarvb1]

I would like to state that I do not have a lot of experience with the penis but certian things should make sense and they don't.

1. Can a guy truely not feel when they come? Or is that just a nice way to say I am done having sex with you and I am not that attracted to you?
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I have had orgasm's "sneak" up on me a few times, they are rare.

I can't figure how one would not know when he came. (muscles are involved!)

The more powerful they are the more out of control Physically I get and the closer to passing out I get also.
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2. What is the general rule for hardness? I ask because it seems that this person I know only gets to that semi-hard state where most other men I have seen are at after they have cum or before they are completely hard.

I don't know if it is just me or I was seeing a guy who had many issues. And yes I am insecure enough to think that it is mostly just me. it is what tends to happen with little experience.

Thank you for the time

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Unless he has some kind of problem physically or mentally or is at an advanced age he should get harder than that!

(I was eighteen before I found there wasn't a BONE in there! )

Unless you are a turn off to him I have no ideal...Has he always been like this with you?
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I recall the last time I was super turned on. I couldn't believe that thing really belong to me! I gained some extra diameter and length and I felt like it was hard enough to drive nails with it.

You really need to do some research on the NET , chances are it is not you.

 

[Eilan]

1. Can a guy truely not feel when they come? Or is that just a nice way to say I am done having sex with you and I am not that attracted to you?Translation: I am a loser and an asshole and to deflect attention from this fact, I will blame you for all my problems.

2. What is the general rule for hardness? I ask because it seems that this person I know only gets to that semi-hard state where most other men I have seen are at after they have cum or before they are completely hard.I think it can vary from man to man. Age might have something to do with it, as might other lifestyle issues.

A former (short-term) partner of mine had trouble getting/maintaining an erection, and when he did get one, it wasn't very hard. I think, for him, it was a nasty combination of BP medication, a high-stress job, too much alcohol to unwind from said high-stress job, and an extreme fear of pregnancy. YMMV, of course.

I don't know if it is just me or I was seeing a guy who had many issues. And yes I am insecure enough to think that it is mostly just me. it is what tends to happen with little experience.

This guy (I hope he's an ex) has issues, and if he's also playing on any insecurities or vulnerabilities you have, then he's absolutely not worth your time. Furthermore, if he's genuinely not attracted to you (and I seriously doubt this was the case), then why wouldn't he just be an adult about it and end the relationship?

P.s. I would love to help you get more experience

Classy.

Dude, if you're looking to hump women's e-legs, the Personals Board is down the hall. She wasn't asking for your brand of "help."

 

[WhimsyOne]

Honestly, I woudn't worry too much about it right now. He might be as nervous and inexperienced as you are. I'd say give it a couple more tries before you worry about whether there's a problem.

As for the not being attracted to you, I doubt that. If he got off as fast as you describe, he very likely desires you. It's very normal for guys to cum fast and women to not get off at all on penetration. If you're worried about him lasting longer, it's possible, but now without sacrificing enjoyment on his part. Of course, even if you can get him to last for an hour, it's quite possible that you're still not going to get off since most women don't.

There are serveral ways around the issue, though. You could always get a vibrator if you're confortable introducing it to him. Of course, some guys get jealous of toys. You could get him to lick your pussy if you haven't already. That should get you all fired up and if done until you're right on the edge, he might even be able to get you off super fast with his cock. Just make sure to shower before sex.

Well I have told him we are better off as friends because he has several ideas about who I should be and that is not me.

As for waiting a couple more times, it happened everytime. Which was not often or much, but that is the truth of it.

As for vibrators he is the extream example of Vanilla, not even interested in thinking about anything but woman on top. No going down on a woman, and heaven forbid I should own a vibrator, a woman should only be happy with the man.
And this is funny to me but he thought he was doing an awsome job. But I personally need a little more aggression then him poking me in the back with his semi hard on.

 

[Firebrain]

But I personally need a little more aggression then him poking me in the back with his semi hard on.

Waaaah. You so need to tell him that - preferably in public.

It doesn't sound like it's you; it sounds like he has serious issues about self esteem and masculinity. Funnily enough, men like this tend to pick very attractive women - so take it all as a compliment.

 

[Eilan]

As for vibrators he is the extream example of Vanilla, not even interested in thinking about anything but woman on top. No going down on a woman, and heaven forbid I should own a vibrator, a woman should only be happy with the man.

Definitely one for the trash heap! If you can remain friends with him, you're a much better person than I am.

You deserve much better, and I hope you find it.

 

[infinity706]

Well I have told him we are better off as friends because he has several ideas about who I should be and that is not me.

As for waiting a couple more times, it happened everytime. Which was not often or much, but that is the truth of it.

As for vibrators he is the extream example of Vanilla, not even interested in thinking about anything but woman on top. No going down on a woman, and heaven forbid I should own a vibrator, a woman should only be happy with the man.
And this is funny to me but he thought he was doing an awsome job. But I personally need a little more aggression then him poking me in the back with his semi hard on.

It would have been nice to have that in the first post. I assumed it might have been the first time.

 

[WhimsyOne]

Thank you Fire and Eilan. things happen for a reason if nothing other than to realize I need or deserve/desire something more.

Mostly I was just really confused about the whole not feeling when you come. That just sort of boggles my mind, but it sounds like it was something other then what I feared it might be.

Infinity, sorry that I didn't mention that I guess I didn't think about that part... silly huh. well I am just learning what is needed to make a conversation with questions complete. Thank you though also

Thank you to everyone.

 

[infinity706]

You're welcome. Sorry you had to scrape the bottom of the barrel for your first experience, though. Of course, that means it shouldn't be hard to find better.

 

[DarkBee]

What to do with the penis:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=69c6QlNWEKQ

 

[satindesire]

P.s. I would love to help you get more experience

Dude. Seriously. Grow up.

 

[CherryBomb24]

did he have any alcohol or any other substance in his system?
if so that could be a deciding factor.

also - how old is he? could also be a factor.
or blood pressure and such.

 

[swampydonkey]

these are weird questions man. I think you are kind of gay or you don't feel for girls so that you are saying those craps to us. stop it man try to have sex with a girl.

 

[Eilan]

these are weird questions man. I think you are kind of gay or you don't feel for girls so that you are saying those craps to us. stop it man try to have sex with a girl.

You make weird comments, man. I think you are kind of fucktarded or you don't have brains so you are spewing bullshit in hopes of sounding like you have two brain cells to rub together. Stop it, man. Try to go back to sex with your hand.

Jeebus. This one's going on Iggy.

ETA: Is swampydouche really just a lame spammer? Looks like there's an advertisement in its sig.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Dude, if you're looking to hump women's e-legs, the Personals Board is down the hall. She wasn't asking for your brand of "help."

Is that the third or the fourth door on the right, 'cause there's nothing like a good leg humping once in a while.

 

[viking3]

ARF ARF ARF!!!!

Anybody remember Pinkert and Bowden's "Don't pet the Dog"?

viking3

 

[Eilan]

Is that the third or the fourth door on the right, 'cause there's nothing like a good leg humping once in a while.

Depends on who's doing the humping.