question about roomate etiquette

[taolanes]

OK so I'm going to be having my first dorm room. I really really want to sleep naked, but I'm not sure if it is strange. Do most people sleep naked in dorms or just with their underwear? Are you supposed to talk about sleeping arrangements first?

 

[dollface007]

You're a smart guy who just got into college...What do you think?

 

[Metal_Monkey]

Which college are you going to?

As for sleeping naked - warn your roommate; not everyone sleeps naked and not everyone will feel comfortable sleeping with a naked stranger in the room. If your roommate has a problem with it, they'll let you know.

Also, be prepared for everyone in the dorm to know you sleep naked. Stuff like that spreads.

 

[lilnymph28]

Much as I love sleeping nude (especially in clean sheets still warm from the dryer!), I don't really recommend starting off your college career as the strange naked guy. Not saying you can't, or that you shouldn't, just that you should gauge the personalities and reactions of your roommate, hallmates, and dormmates. I ended up having some very liberal roommates who didn't really mind, but you never know, and I never pushed it TOO far. By my junior year, I was living in an apartment with a good friend, and we spent half our time naked - not necessarily in a sexual way, just casual nudity that didn't offend either of us.

Good luck!

 

[blue112]

maybe for the first little while wait and get to know the guy and how liberal or un liberal they are. As for the news spreading, bet on it, almost as reliable as the drop your grades will suffer depending where you go. but definitly talk about sleepin arrangements, my first year roomate and I got our signals crossed one night when I walked into the room with him and a girl there, I left and he laid into me the next day for doing so...
good luck and remember most grad schools only look at third and fourth year marks so have fun

 

[Ms_Lilith]

you're having a dorm room with another person. I'm guessing .. just GUESSING... that you should keep your shorts on, unless they're spending the night out of the room (with friends, family, girlfriend, boyfriend, whatever).


Just keep covered. I've never shared a dorm room, but I've shared an apartment, and I know that when my roommates ran naked to the bathroom after sex, or when they had to pee, it was weird enough. I was glad to not have to share the room.

 

[John_Mira]

As a guy who has lived in Dorms and Barracks for the last 5 years of my life....NO NO NO NO NO NO NO DO NOT SLEEP NUDE! FOR THE LOVE OF GOD KEEP YOUR PANTS ON! I mean serriously, its going to make 99.99% of guys uncomfortable. Regardless of what your sexual orentation and your roommates are, just keep your pants on. My past roommates and I went to great lengths to keep from having to be in the room while the other was naked(always lock the door when you and your girlfriend are in the throws of passion, learned that one the hard way) Its a guy thing, mabye he wont mind that you sleep in the buff, but as a guy rule, asking that question makes you seem really weird, and may be construed as hitting on him. To make a long story short, keep the pants ON! Or just go and get a townhouse with your own room....took me 4 years but I did it. No more people waking in on me while I have my girlfriend tied to the bed....YEAH!

 

[Ghede]

I just finished my sophomore year of college, and my roommate slept naked every night on the top bunk. He always just wore shorts to bed, then took them off once he got up their, and I actually never say anything. It didn't bother me at all, but I also had met him from my freshmen year in college, so it wasnt that big of a shock to me. Depending on your roommate, he/she? may be weirded out by you even bringing it up, so I would get a feel for their personality, and then if they end up seeming like they might not care, then go ahead and ask. I think it really just depends on each person and how you approach (or dont approach if they are super uptight) the situation.

 

[H0wl]

Shorts

Pick the top bunk, wear shorts to bed and take em off after you're under the covers.

But not exposing yourself to your roomie unless you KNOW they don't care is generally a good idea.

That goes double for masturbation Wait until he's gone and you know he'll be gone for a while and make sure you lock the door.

Had someone at college walk in on me once while I was doing that. Luckily I was seated in a position that was shielded from the door but still...some people in a dorm just don't remember to knock on a closed door.

 

[tigerjen]

In my junior and senior years of college, I had a dorm single,
which was awesome because I didn't have to deal w/
roommates, and it also gave me the opportunity to sleep
in the buff!

Of course, I was ALWAYS prepared just in case some
dumbass pulled the fire alarm in the middle of the nite!
I always kept pjs or tshirt & sweatpants next to my
bed just in case......

My senior year of college I was an RA so I had the luxury of
a single room......I could just easily answer my door
in a robe w/ no problem

So my advice to you, you as a guy? Do see how your
roomie or roomies are......and definitely keep the shorts
or sweatpants on while up and about in the room. And
if you have the opportunity to choose a dorm single
for the following year, etc......go for it....it was one of the
best things I did.

Have fun and good luck!


tigerjen

 

[Lust Engine]

Seeing as how it's your first gig with having to have a roomie, I've always thought of it as a situation to compromise. Yeah, I know it probably isn't the answer you want to hear, but it is about giving in a little here.

Keep the shorts on. Why make someone POSSIBLY feel uncomfortable? I'd keep them on just for everyone else's sake. And once you get your own place and you're king of the domain, do what you want, but in the meantime... play it cool and keep the peace.

 

[kjken]

If your a bit out going then just ask the roomate. If they object then respect their opinion.