Question about punishment

[FurryFury]

Figging is when raw ginger (that hasn't been rinsed) is put up your ass. It burns for about 20 minutes. I find it to be quite a turn on. Makes me want anal sex big time. Or should I say more than usual?

Some have also put ginger in their urethra, vaginal and on nipples. I've found the vaginal has too many natural fluids to create much of a burn. Nipples wise I feel a slight burn.

FF

 

[Loverskitten]

Figging is when raw ginger (that hasn't been rinsed) is put up your ass. It burns for about 20 minutes. I find it to be quite a turn on. Makes me want anal sex big time. Or should I say more than usual?

Some have also put ginger in their urethra, vaginal and on nipples. I've found the vaginal has too many natural fluids to create much of a burn. Nipples wise I feel a slight burn.

FF

Ok thanks for the info. Ever since my "kitten" google search I'm scared to look up some things.

 

[Stella_Omega]

Either the OP has a huge imagination or "master" has gone overboard. Seems unrealistic to me. That's all I'm saying.

There's def. an atmosphere of "hold my beer and watch this" about it, yeah... boys will be boys!

 

[satindesire]

Just because a person overshares, perhaps, about the details of sex -- which is absolutely a legitimate part of BDSM after all-- doesn't mean you're being manipulated for wank fodder.

OP did not ask us to tell anything except the pertinent information; "Has anyone else experienced this? Will this damaged me? How long will it last?"

I'm not accusing the OP of asking for wank fodder, so don't assume I am. I am solely addressing your false dichotomy that people that don't like being manipulated for the purpose of masturbation are prudes.

 

[FurryFury]

I don't blame you. May I suggest Love Meow as a new fav. web site if you love the kitties!

Ok thanks for the info. Ever since my "kitten" google search I'm scared to look up some things.

 

[FurryFury]

I agree.

False dichotomy much?

Just because a person doesn't like being manipulated for masturbation purposes does not mean we're prudes.

 

[FurryFury]

Yep.

There's def. an atmosphere of "hold my beer and watch this" about it, yeah... boys will be boys!

 

[countrygentdom]

Sounds like you are a "slave". Am I correct? The thing you should be asking yourself is if you are getting fulfillment from your punishment(s). First of all, I differentiate between "real" punishment, and "play" punishment. For play, if My sub shows any sign of disrespect, indifference, and/or fails to obey rules of play, this will earn them a good flogging, or time with My leather strap. However, for "real" punishment, this usually being ignored, or being deprived of My presence -this is for serious infractions that are known to both of U/us.
So, if all this "frigging", and Icy-Hot is something you feel you REALLY deserve, then trust Master to treat you in the correct manner. If not, perhaps you should find someone more suited to giving you what you need, want, and desire.
Just My take on this... IDK, I could be wrong?

 

[Stella_Omega]

I'm not accusing the OP of asking for wank fodder, so don't assume I am. I am solely addressing your false dichotomy that people that don't like being manipulated for the purpose of masturbation are prudes.

If nobody's accusing OP of manipulation, I don't know why the subject came up at all.

 

[markyV]

WOW...this created more drama that I thought it would. The explanation is that is was not "wank fodder". It was initially a simple question on which I was looking for more information/advice. I thought background info was needed in order to answer effectively--obviously that was/is not the case in this forum and for that I apologize.

In terms of the punishments; It's what we do, keeps things interesting and I have 100% trust in who I am together with--I am not afraid or terrified and I look forward to it. I had a great weekend and I eagerly await next weekend

Things often get more extreme/exciting on weekends as there is more free time available. I always come out unscathed--we are careful.

Overall, I am truly sorry if I annoyed/offended/bored or bothered anyone with my quest for info. I was not sure how extreme members of this group were or how accepting of what we enjoyed they would be. I have learned a great deal about the group from my posting.

Thanks to those who did offer the advice I initially requested!

 

[Loverskitten]

I don't blame you. May I suggest Love Meow as a new fav. web site if you love the kitties!

Awwwws that website makes me cry with happy.

 

[satindesire]

If nobody's accusing OP of manipulation, I don't know why the subject came up at all.

I didn't say no one was accusing him of wank fodder, I said -I- was not accusing him.

 

[submissive_fire]

WOW...this created more drama that I thought it would. The explanation is that is was not "wank fodder". It was initially a simple question on which I was looking for more information/advice. I thought background info was needed in order to answer effectively--obviously that was/is not the case in this forum and for that I apologize.

In terms of the punishments; It's what we do, keeps things interesting and I have 100% trust in who I am together with--I am not afraid or terrified and I look forward to it. I had a great weekend and I eagerly await next weekend

Things often get more extreme/exciting on weekends as there is more free time available. I always come out unscathed--we are careful.

Overall, I am truly sorry if I annoyed/offended/bored or bothered anyone with my quest for info. I was not sure how extreme members of this group were or how accepting of what we enjoyed they would be. I have learned a great deal about the group from my posting.

Thanks to those who did offer the advice I initially requested!

Yep, you learn fast around here. You have nothing to apologize for, you had a question and were looking for an answer. Thankfully, those with experience answered you truthfully and to the best of their ability ... others, not so much.

 

[Netzach]

I'm with Stella.

This board is incredibly hostile to male submissives, or else there would be more here. Why? Often because guys (majority of whom are bottom/sub) assume this is a place to hook up, so we point them to the personals, and who cares if they ever have anything else to say to anyone.

This board is totally irrelevant to men playing with men, or else there would be more here. Why? I generalize, but the gay leather guys I know often prioritize libido more than hetero leather people, and there's nothing here for them but the assumption that if they're a bottom with a question they're a girl.

One shows up, actually has a question pertinent to the safety of his asshole and since we can't grammar nazi him to death, we treat him like a wanker looking for a phone sex freebie? And believe me, I'm jaded, such wankers are my life. I, too, thought the question sounded exhibitionistic more than real, but just because I have years between me and my last bout of "punish me!" friskiness, doesn't mean other people aren't having more fun.

People DO actually play this way. I did at one juncture, Christ.

Only reason I didn't have much to say is that I've no way no where ever played with this much icy hot this prolonged. Other stuff more.

I'm cranky on this one because the whine of "but why won't they come to our munches and paaaarties" about gay men in the pansexual scene is answered by basically - this exact exchange. Pan leather is draining the raw sexuality out of kink right and left. Everyone has the expectation that male submissives and bottoms are just female submissives and bottoms with a dick - the universe does not work that way.

 

[seela]

I'd also like to apologize to the OP. I wasn't trying to label him as someone looking for wank fodder, but instead was responding to Stella's comment about how we're doing something wrong if some of the posts don't read like wank fodder. Lest there be misunderstandings.

 

[FurryFury]

I'm glad you enjoy it too.

Awwwws that website makes me cry with happy.

 

[markyV]

Thanks for replying everyone. After going back and reading the posts a second time I felt like maybe my question was too weird for here? Then I started reading other posts and thought maybe not?

I guess I am a bit confused about what is acceptable here and what isn't. Some people have Pm'd me and made me feel extremely welcome while others have done the complete opposite.

I can't help and will not apologize for what I enjoy--no matter how strange others find it . My goal here is to find people who share similar interests and are willing to share their experiences.

I have read a few posts about other's interests and, while I would not enjoy those things, I will not think negatively of the people that do.

I think I'll stay around a bit longer....this has the potential to be a place I will enjoy!

 

[serpentwrap]

You will enjoy this place... as long as you see this "glass" as half full. The board is quite a close replica of real life. Just like in real life, you'll find people with greatness, meanness, viciousness, indifference, extraordinary talent and knowledge as well as the vapid and the vacuous. There is as much kindness on this board as there's malice. There's as much wisdom on these threads as there's trivia.

And then there are the mods, of course...

 

[ultramarineblue]

Thanks for replying everyone. After going back and reading the posts a second time I felt like maybe my question was too weird for here? Then I started reading other posts and thought maybe not?

I guess I am a bit confused about what is acceptable here and what isn't. Some people have Pm'd me and made me feel extremely welcome while others have done the complete opposite.

I can't help and will not apologize for what I enjoy--no matter how strange others find it . My goal here is to find people who share similar interests and are willing to share their experiences.

I have read a few posts about other's interests and, while I would not enjoy those things, I will not think negatively of the people that do.

I think I'll stay around a bit longer....this has the potential to be a place I will enjoy!

I don't know that the question was too weird so much as the timing of it along with you being new. If you're around to stay and contribute, great but most of the people around here aren't much for people posting something and then disappearing. As far as the time thing, school's out and it is usually during school breaks that we get a lot of the people not interested in contributing so much as finding wank fodder.

Good luck and hope to see you contributing on other threads as well.

 

[Stella_Omega]

the question was pretty weird for some people, obviously. NOt so much to me...

But you know, when people show up asking what to do about their broken submissive heart, that seems pretty weird to me, so I prefer to let other folks answer them. Or anyway, I try

So it's a good thing that there are so many different kinds of people on this forum, yeah?

 

[Redkate]

I'm just glad I wasn't the only one who didn't know what figging is

 

[Beck31]

Punishment

Never heard of that either. The worst thing my mistress could do as a punishment is ignore me. The silent treatment really sucks. In some ways I would rather take a beating or a light beating I guess than that. Each Mistress is different I guess in the way that they handle their sub. If I have been really bad I have to wear a shock collar or I am leashed to say the bed and am not allowed to leave for x amount of time. When my Mistress is away and we talk on the phone its a whole different ballgame b/c then she is able to describe in
explicit detail the punishment. I can actually feel what she is doing even though she is not touching at that particular time.

 

[FurryFury]

Even though your original post didn't seem "real" to me, I'm very glad to hear that you will hang around and are not just some kid out of school.

Welcome.

Thanks for replying everyone. After going back and reading the posts a second time I felt like maybe my question was too weird for here? Then I started reading other posts and thought maybe not?

I guess I am a bit confused about what is acceptable here and what isn't. Some people have Pm'd me and made me feel extremely welcome while others have done the complete opposite.

I can't help and will not apologize for what I enjoy--no matter how strange others find it . My goal here is to find people who share similar interests and are willing to share their experiences.

I have read a few posts about other's interests and, while I would not enjoy those things, I will not think negatively of the people that do.

I think I'll stay around a bit longer....this has the potential to be a place I will enjoy!

 

[Sir_Winston54]

Thanks for replying everyone. After going back and reading the posts a second time I felt like maybe my question was too weird for here? Then I started reading other posts and thought maybe not?

I guess I am a bit confused about what is acceptable here and what isn't. Some people have Pm'd me and made me feel extremely welcome while others have done the complete opposite.

I can't help and will not apologize for what I enjoy--no matter how strange others find it . My goal here is to find people who share similar interests and are willing to share their experiences.

I have read a few posts about other's interests and, while I would not enjoy those things, I will not think negatively of the people that do.

I think I'll stay around a bit longer....this has the potential to be a place I will enjoy!

I have to admit that one reason I haven't previously responded in this thread is that I - like some others, apparently - had some doubts about the reality of the scenario posted. I wasn't ready to immediately write it off as a wank fodder thread, but at the same time, I didn't want to waste my time and the world's pixels if it *were* a "school's out; let's see who I can scam into providing me with mental jerkoff lube" thread.

Another reason for not responding was my low level of experience using the types of surface stimulants about which you posted for sexual stimulation (other than figging - light experience). Icy/Hot has been in my repertoire for years... unfortunately, not for sexual purposes, but to attempt to get some relief for a chronically aching bad back.

As for "too weird" for here... sorry, I had to take a few moments' break to stop laughing so I could get back to typing.

As for "too weird" for here, if you keep it within the bounds set by the forum rules, I don't think there IS anything too weird for here. I'm sorry you have some confusion about what's acceptable here; again, I'll point you at the forum rules, and simply add this as a guide: If it's honest, somewhat related to BDSM (Bondage & Discipline, Dominance & Submission, Sadism & Masochism, or any combination of those/point on the spectrum between them), and at least moderately literately and intelligently presented, it's likely going to be acceptable.

Please *don't* apologize for what you enjoy, nor for posting inquiries about some facets of it or means by which you can enhance the experience. That is, after all, why we're here. Those who can't wrap their minds around your experiences and inquiries can avoid the thread(s) or post(s), and those who can and feel they have something to contribute, can and will.

I hope you do stay around. There are some good, knowledgeable people here, and we can always use and enjoy the presence of another who can perhaps provide us with a viewpoint a few degrees different than our own, who might be able to help us reach a better understanding of ourselves and each other.

Welcome to the BDSM Talk and Café fora!

 

[markyV]

Today's responses made me smile. Just to clarify a few items:

1. My posts are definitely not 'school's out"--It is has been a while since I was in school--truth is I usually stick to the same sites (blogs, stories, etc) and just happen to come here--looked interesting to me.

2. I'm glad I am not too weird for here!!!!! I was starting to worry.......

3. I intend to be honest--my original post was honest....it was definitely a great experience that I enjoyed (course it was spread out over 3 days---it was a long weekend in Canada--I only posted on the last day)

4. I will be posting about BDSM or related items and the posts will be literate and presented in an intelligent fashion.

5..No more apologies!!

6.I fully intend to stick around.

All that being said.......I think I'm ready to let this thread die so I can move on to others