Question about erections

[Fluttering_Pink]

Long story short, I ended up in bed with two girls and a guy. The guy claimed that this had always been his fantasy, to be with a group and everyone do everything to everyone. Now we didn't actually go all the way, but there was some kissing and fondling and whatnot.

We were in there for hours, but the guy did not seem to be fully erect, although he was very enthusiastic in other ways. Now, I understand it's not possible to sustain an erection for so many hours, but I would have thought at least during the juicy parts... no?

Can anyone shed any light on this?

 

[ExtacyCouple]

I would have been erect from start to finish and probably came on myself a couple of times..........But that is just me.

 

[Fluttering_Pink]

Even if there was just only a tiny bit of kissing and PG rubbing?

 

[ExtacyCouple]

I was kinda joking a bit, but I would probably have an erection at some point with two girls in my bed.......no matter what was going on. All guys are very different though so just because he didn't have a full erection doesn't mean he wasn't excited.

 

[looking4fun]

Hell the thought of being with 2 women got me semi hard, being with 2 would have me at full attention until it was taken care of...

But maybe I am just a prevert

 

[Fluttering_Pink]

THREE girls, lol. I guess I can't be completely sure because I didn't see it the whole time, but at times I was like, hmmm.

 

[angela146]

Been there a few times.

Hubby and some other guys have had semi erections at times, mostly because of being nervous. When you're alone with your normal lover you're a lot more relaxed.

Of course, if the lady or ladies give it a little effort, most of the time it's pretty easy to calm his nerves and re-focus his attention.

 

[DevilishTexan]

I'm gonna admit something that's very fucking embarassing but if it helps, fuck it! The first mff 3 some I had was very unexpected. The woman I was supposed to do, I wasn't really into because her bf I knew, and he lived about a 2 min walk from me! And plus, it was late, I had been drinking, and was tired. And these 2 women all of a sudden wanted me to perform. Ok, well, thats my excuse for not gettin it up lol! A fucking crane wouldn't have gotten me up. But I think more than anything it was performance anxiety. It happens. I wanted to just bang these beauties so damn bad and leave em drooling, I sabatoged myself! I'm human, oh well. I've had other times where it was not a problem at all. But it happens on occassion. Just depends on the situation. Usually, one on one is best of all, especially if it's someone your comfortable with.

 

[dpakman91]

the whole situation sounds like complete insanity (not to say it's not true, by any means).

 

[Parklife]

yep, despite his fantasy, he may been more nervous than he admitted. That could have effected him. Also, despite our reputation as wanting to fuck any thing that moves and at anytimes, sometimes guys can't get instantly hard without some direct involvement with his cock.

If alchohol was used, that could be a reason (or any other drug). And hell, he may have been so damn surprised with what was happening to him, he had performance anxiety.

 

[DevilishTexan]

yep, despite his fantasy, he may been more nervous than he admitted. That could have effected him. Also, despite our reputation as wanting to fuck any thing that moves and at anytimes, sometimes guys can't get instantly hard without some direct involvement with his cock.

If alchohol was used, that could be a reason (or any other drug). And hell, he may have been so damn surprised with what was happening to him, he had performance anxiety.

Um YEAHHH, that's what I just said!!! And when her girlfriend says "fuck her" and your not exactly ready, even after ya made em both just cum from an extensive tounge lashing, it can be a tad overwhelming!!!

 

[Erotisphere]

Another thing that people have overlooked is certain health problems like diabetes and heart disease can sometimes cause temporary impotence. I myself have in the past experienced this. If I take care of myself it happens rarely, but can still happen now and again. Just another possiblity.

 

[SummerMorning]

Nerves. Nerves can really soften a guy up. And sometimes fantasies aren't really the kind of thing you're expecting to happen for real...

...now, could any of us other guys arrange for that kinda 4some?

 

[Erotisphere]

Nerves. Nerves can really soften a guy up. And sometimes fantasies aren't really the kind of thing you're expecting to happen for real...

...now, could any of us other guys arrange for that kinda 4some?

No. Not yet and I am 42. I have a brother who is 4 years younger than I and when he was in his 20's lived with a girl who had a girlfriend of hers over and when he came home from work one day....well, you figure it out. Blew his mind!

Guess not every guy can be that lucky, huh?

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Maybe he didn't tell you that the 'group' he wanted to be in bed with was the football team, rather than the cheerleaders.

 

[sheath]

I think it's probably normal for a guy to be 'not so erect' during something like that. Especially over the span of hours. All the men I have been with, without exception, went through cycles. He could be hard as a rock for a while, then not so hard...then hard again...it all depended on the stimulation, on what was going on in his head, on what we were doing and how he felt about it.

So...if you are asking if it is normal, I would say, oh hell yeah.



S.

 

[SlowGuy]

Having to keep up with three women would make any guy nervous. Especially if you've never done group sex before.

Thinking about it from his perspective, it must have been kinda odd, too.

Here you got three women and things are looking good, you're making out with them, but at some point, say by hour two, you realize this is going to be more of a cuddling event than a thrust-fest. So you wonder about this and everybody's motivation and strategies to get them out of their clothes, all while you're groping away.

Given that situation, I'd still be enthusiastic and hopeful, but I wouldn't be throbbing.

A guy would get a serious case of blue balls, anyway, staying rock-hard for hours.

 

[serpentofthefog]

The same thing happened to a guy I was with. It was me and another girl fooling around in bed, and he joined in. He couldn't even get a semi! Then again, he had a lot to drink that night, and i think he was suffering from a sever case of wiskey dick. Poor, poor thing. Oh well, me and the other girl had fun without his penis.

 

[Alphasarge]

Long story short, I ended up in bed with two girls and a guy. The guy claimed that this had always been his fantasy, to be with a group and everyone do everything to everyone. Now we didn't actually go all the way, but there was some kissing and fondling and whatnot.

We were in there for hours, but the guy did not seem to be fully erect, although he was very enthusiastic in other ways. Now, I understand it's not possible to sustain an erection for so many hours, but I would have thought at least during the juicy parts... no?

Can anyone shed any light on this?

Nope. I was lucky enought to be in that position and not only got rock hard several times but screwed till I was raw. Not get hard w/ 3 chicks? Craziness....were you even touching him?

 

[jupiter lilly]

here's a question along these lines...I'm in need of some advice. Figured this might be a good place to go, right?

Anyways...last week I was having sex with my boyfriend and I could sort of tell from the get go go wasn't rock hard as usual. We paused momentarily to switch positions and *poof*--sayonara hard-on. He was really embarrassed...I tried to be as comforting as I could in the situation.

What's the best thing for a gal to do in that situation? I was very careful not to say anything insensitive, or that might bruise his ego further.

And also...could stress be an attribute? I know he's very aware of how things are for me...he's extrememly attentive, which is obviously s big plus. I guess I am just curious as to whether the stress of day to day life (he's been kinda down lately) and the pressure to perform can affect things. As far as I know, his day had been substance free as far as drugs or alcohol go.

Thanks in advance for any advice for this newbie.

 

[English Lady]

hello Jupiter Lilly..I have been in the same position with my hubby on a couple of occassions. The best thing to do is not make too much of a fuss about it. Just go back to some foreplay, fondling, kissing etc nothing that actually includes his penis for a while and I am sure it will come back to its erect state eventually. If it doesn't hug and snuggle and don't make a big thing of it. That will only make it worse.


It might be stress,especially if you've notice him being a bit down but then it might simply be one of those things...a mans body and mind not being 100% in sync with each other....it happens!


I say don't worry and you did the best thing being sensitive and being careful not to say anything that might bruise his ego.

oh and welcome to lit and he how to board

 

[thickspear]

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[freddyandeddy]

My guess is that he actually came right away either in his pants or into the sheets out of sight (probably just seeing you three made him lose it immediately) and was in "recovery" phase for awhile.

 

[jupiter lilly]

thanks for the advice...and for the welcome English Lady.

 

[ABN_Ranger]

I think it's called performance anxiety or something like that... guy gets all excited he's gonna be with two or three girls... and than BAMMO!!! Junior doesn't wanna play. Yeah happened to me once... Next night we tried again... I was more relaxed and everything worked out great.

J