Pussy envy?

[Baskin Robbins]

I'm a marrried hetero male. I've been married for nearly 10 years, yet I want my wife to fuck me in the ass with her fingers, a strap-on or anything for that matter. I have no desire to be with a man, but the prostate massage gets me off like nothing else! I've done it for myself countless times, but she won't so much as touch my asshole. I've licked, fingered, fucked and sucked her's to the point that she is climbing the walls.

Is this just pussy envy? Wanting to be fucked by my wife? She gets off... Why shouldn't I? She tells me to just be patient, but it's been 10 years!

We have the toys, but she won't touch me. Rarely even a BJ.

Any advice would be VERY appreciated!

 

[John Doe]

I doubt it.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I hear you.

I was married for 20 years. He would get to do my butt, but I was never aloud to get anywhere near his. Though he did get bj's from me. I'm newly single and looking forward to finding someone here in New Zealand to explore with.

I have penis envy.....

 

[Frimost]

I have penis envy

Why, what would you like to do if you had a penis?

 

[Seduce]

I wouldnt like to hurt your feelings or insult your wife in any way........ but it sounds to me like she is a bit of an egoist........

 

[Baskin Robbins]

What do you mean Seduce? I'll take any info/advice I can get...

 

[Seduce]

You say:

I've licked, fingered, fucked and sucked her's to the point that she is climbing the walls.

And she would not give you the simple pleasure just to return the same thing.
And even

Rarely even a BJ.

So I think (just my opinion of course) that she is the kind that likes getting and not giving back...... in one word an egoist.
For what you want is really a normal and simple pleasure for man...... nothing much.
To me the problem seems to be in her, not in you.

 

[DevilsAngel369]

I'm a marrried hetero male. I've been married for nearly 10 years, yet I want my wife to fuck me in the ass with her fingers, a strap-on or anything for that matter. I have no desire to be with a man, but the prostate massage gets me off like nothing else! I've done it for myself countless times, but she won't so much as touch my asshole. I've licked, fingered, fucked and sucked her's to the point that she is climbing the walls.

Is this just pussy envy? Wanting to be fucked by my wife? She gets off... Why shouldn't I? She tells me to just be patient, but it's been 10 years!

We have the toys, but she won't touch me. Rarely even a BJ.

Any advice would be VERY appreciated!

Please dont think i'm being harsh, but looks like your wife is being a bit selfish here. Sex is a two way street. you do everything to make her enjoys ex, so she should reciprocate.

Open talks are a must. Tell her how you feel and that you need this not only for your but also so that you can feel sexual enough for her. If you are not getting what you want, it will catch up and that will hurt both of you.

 

[MCunnilinguist]

Well I wouldn't give her any ice cream

 

[Mikijl Dragon]

Talking is key. Make sure she understands your needs. The key point is to let her know how it is making you feel. Also find out why she wont. She may have a reason that she won't do the things you ask.

It could be something as simple taking a shower before hand. I know I will refuse to do anything in the lower regions on either a man or woman if there are any funky smells. This is not being an ass but rather the fact that I am very sensitive to smells as such I would gag a lot and possibly vomit so I wouldn't want to do something like that and she may have her reasons as well.

Talk and understnad each other....

 

[SweetErika]

Talking is key. Make sure she understands your needs. The key point is to let her know how it is making you feel. Also find out why she wont. She may have a reason that she won't do the things you ask.

It could be something as simple taking a shower before hand. I know I will refuse to do anything in the lower regions on either a man or woman if there are any funky smells. This is not being an ass but rather the fact that I am very sensitive to smells as such I would gag a lot and possibly vomit so I wouldn't want to do something like that and she may have her reasons as well.

Talk and understnad each other....

Well said, MD. A lot of people take issue with anal play. She might feel it's gross, unclean, makes her a certain type of woman, or is afraid of doing something wrong/hurting you. Communicate, and maybe you can debunk some of the myths she may believe.

Also, have YOU tried using the toys during sex? Like inserting a vibe or something when you're giving her oral, or playing with one while she's touching you? Maybe that'd be a good compromise and it'd help her to see how much you enjoy it. If nothing else, you'll be getting the stimulation you want and might not feel so unsatisfied about the situation.

 

[chrk1]

I hear you.

I was married for 20 years. He would get to do my butt, but I was never aloud to get anywhere near his. Though he did get bj's from me. I'm newly single and looking forward to finding someone here in New Zealand to explore with.

I have penis envy.....

wish i was in new zealand. i like to get poked by a woman with a strapon. and i have a submissive side i've never explored.