"Punctuality"

[East of Eden]

I would have posted this in the general section, but that seems to be a bunch of random threads. Sorry to those who believe this posting to be in the wrong section.

I'm 19 and have been having sex since I was 17. However, I usually seem to arrive at my "destination" sooner than I plan to. I don't end immediately after penetration, but have trouble lasting more than a couple-few minutes. My girlfriend has no problem with this, and I am able to please her through other methods in addition to intercourse. However, I am concerned about my "untimeliness." Could this be due to the fact that I'm young? Or are these classic symptoms of premature ejaculation? How can I deal with it? Thanks.

Thank you for your time.

 

[Gilly Bean]

One way a lot of guys deal with it, is to get a cock ring. It cuts off a majority of the blood supply, causing it to take longer, and for you to feel harder while doing it.

Also, try thinking of other things while inside, take a deep breath, and just hold still for a moment to get your 'bearings'. Go slow, and even, don't speed up until you want to cum.


Good luck

 

[Psia]

You might want to try this (either with her or in masturbation): When you feel like you are going to have an orgasm pull out or stop stimulation and cuddle or fondle her for a minute until you feel it's "subsided." The upshot (hehe) is that you'll not only have longer total intercourse time but you should have a more intense orgasm.
Psia

P.S.
Age will help with that, too.

 

[Bobmi357]

Try masturbating a couple hours before you plan on having sex. That will not only take the edge off, but it should empty the tank somewhat.

Also, some women like to have fast and furious sex, if your gal is like that then you need to start adding some lube to decrease the friction.

Try teasing her (and yourself while you're at it). Pull yourself completely out and slowly re-enter, pause for a moment or two while you're just starting to re-enter.

 

[Quint]

If you use condoms, I advise trying Trojan's "Extended Pleasure" brand...however, I have to add the disclaimer: if you have any trouble maintaining an erection without lots of stimulation, do NOT try this condom. It has this numbing gel on the inside. You will last forever, provided that you don't go completely soft. For some, this works terrific. T (my lover) lasted a really long time at a furious pounding pace. However, when he flipped me onto my stomach and resumed thrusting, he wasn't even inside me. And didn't notice. I would have been extremely irate except that I knew he just felt nothing, period. So it's largely for her pleasure, and if she really has no problem with your current duration, perhaps this is not the option for you.

Agree with the "taking a temporary break" suggestion. And it is something that gets better with age and practice.

 

[lost5pints]

all great suggestions here......Lube is wonderful but if you feel that your about to lose it changing positions also is a good way to take a breather......and also kegels are not just for women.....I'm sure you can do a search on the archive and find at least 20 threads on doing them......they help big time

 

[lovinanalandy]

First of all, you're posting in the absolutely correct area. Don't worry about that. As for your question...

I've got a friend who faced this issue (I swear it wasn't me, really...) when we were young and he would always think of baseball players when he feared he was getting close. He'd mentally recite the line-up for the 1977 Yankees. Think of sports, think of homework, think of old nuns (unless you're into that sort of thing). If that fails you can always follow Austin Power's suggestion to visualize Margaret Thatcher naked on a cold day. (Be careful with that one, though. It might make you go limp altogether.) Good luck!