Psychology of cumming in partner / partner cumming in you?

[SilentSorcerer]

I'm trying to avoid the answer from guys that yes, physically it feels better to cum inside someone than not.

This is more of a psychological question of why. Women, if you like your partner cumming inside you, why? Is it a thrill of the risk of pregnancy? Is it feeling like a woman? The sense of completing naturally? A feeling of attachment? Is it mostly because your partner wants it? Something else?

For men, is it the feeling of power or control? Or is it mostly a physical feeling rather than emotional?

 

[trion20001]

For me it has almost always been an emotional feeling of a bond with my partner. The feeling when we both climax together is very hard to explain but the closest I can get is saying that at that moment, it actually does feel like me and my partner are connected physically and emotionally.

Feeling her pussy pulsing, gripping and flowing as as she holds on tightly while you yourself are doing the same is simply electrifying.

 

[luv2chat4u]

For me it is the climax of that powerful combination of love and lust

I have always found making a woman climax such a turn on. When your with someone you adore then the feeling is often optimised.
I’ve always loved sex since my teens feeling her grip your cock as she nears climax. Getting in the zone, then after holding back for ages letting her cum as often as she desires, letting lust take control as you fuck faster and faster till you orgasm together fully ejaculating deep inside her and feeling he pussy gush with pleasure.
After that it’s creampie for me. I love giving tongue and licking my lady out and bringing her off with my tongue and fingers. It’s very empowering
It’s even better in a 3sum. Sharing your lady with another man. Lovely lovely

 

[quietlylooking]

I'm trying to avoid the answer from guys that yes, physically it feels better to cum inside someone than not.

This is more of a psychological question of why. Women, if you like your partner cumming inside you, why? Is it a thrill of the risk of pregnancy? Is it feeling like a woman? The sense of completing naturally? A feeling of attachment? Is it mostly because your partner wants it? Something else?

For men, is it the feeling of power or control? Or is it mostly a physical feeling rather than emotional?

From a woman's perspective (mine), I think it's a little bit of all that you say, at least at times. Also, a feeling of satisfaction of having pleased your partner, and a feeling of being claimed by him in some way, having been marked and taken as his.

 

[suckonsimon]

The only person I've cum inside is my wife, so that profoundly affects the psychology of it for me, I suppose. Therefore:

It's a celebration of union. It's at the very heart of our life together. It's us being mates in the technical sense: Before we made babies it was a pre-figuring of when we would be making babies. When we made babies it was supremely joyous and elational, not only the spurting ropes of potent sperm deep into her, but the holding together, rocking and french kissing immediately following as we wanted if possible to be joined at the moment of conception. For us this was profoundly what our marriage is.

And since I had the chop and then later my wife went through menopause, well we've become so damn good at achieving simultaneous or me shortly after her come-down from bliss and her puss is still clenching at me, that for me it way way the best sensation in which to ejaculate!

Just to note: when you posed the question, "is it about power or control?" I had nil, nil connection with such a notion. Perhaps for guys clocking up one-night-stands it's different.

 

[BrightShinyGirl]

Women, if you like your partner cumming inside you, why? Is it a thrill of the risk of pregnancy? Is it feeling like a woman? The sense of completing naturally? A feeling of attachment? Is it mostly because your partner wants it? Something else?

There's an animal rawness to it, particularly if you're not using any protection at all. Knowing that he's potent and you're fertile and that he's going to plant his seed in you is incredibly erotic. It's very intimate. He's marking you and leaving some of himself inside you in your most intimate place. Lying next to him afterwards and knowing that you're full of his cum is very, very satisfying. (For me at least.)

 

[Tiffany_Leggs]

There's an animal rawness to it, particularly if you're not using any protection at all. Knowing that he's potent and you're fertile and that he's going to plant his seed in you is incredibly erotic. It's very intimate. He's marking you and leaving some of himself inside you in your most intimate place. Lying next to him afterwards and knowing that you're full of his cum is very, very satisfying. (For me at least.)

Exactly! PLus feeling him swell and start to pulse trends to drive me over the edge.

 

[Lustful_Intentions]

There's an animal rawness to it, particularly if you're not using any protection at all. Knowing that he's potent and you're fertile and that he's going to plant his seed in you is incredibly erotic. It's very intimate. He's marking you and leaving some of himself inside you in your most intimate place. Lying next to him afterwards and knowing that you're full of his cum is very, very satisfying. (For me at least.)

There are times I wish this site had a little upvote button for things that are both well-articulated and that I agree with (though, from the other side of said equation). This is one of those times.

 

[DavidKim]

It's mostly emotional for me to let go in my woman. I especially enjoy hearing the words "breed me!"

Coming inside for this man is all about the feeling of closeness and passion. Honestly, the best orgasms I have are the ones where I pull out and use my hand to let go. I have better control and release this way.

I don't know why, but when it comes to letting go inside I prefer doggy style. I can plant it deepest in this position. Still, sometimes I can't resist the desire to paint an ass.

 

[Nezhul]

man here.

Personally, I don't think I have very much emotional overhead connected to cumming inside pussy. That time, for me it's mostly preference of physical feeling, as you said.

In the mouth, however, is different. I have those random thoughts of feeding her / her taking what I offer / obediently not wasting anything.
It's hard to put those in words because I never do. Those are mostly ideas, not words, and I feel that even what I tried to formulate is off the mark.

 

[SissySalina]

One of the best feelings ever is getting filled up inside. To feel that pulsing and expansion inside and gripping that rod with sissy mussel to milk every lushes drop of wonderful fluid out and into that eager empty space. No way to match that feeling.

 

[JuicyJessXX]

From a woman's perspective (mine), I think it's a little bit of all that you say, at least at times. Also, a feeling of satisfaction of having pleased your partner, and a feeling of being claimed by him in some way, having been marked and taken as his.

I agree, totally

 

[Ramone45]

I've never seen my wife happier or more loving than when her lover cums inside her. The only word I can use is elation, pure joy.She will shower him with kisses. She's told me that she loves the fact that she has given that man the ultimate pleasure. I also think she like the fact that she will forever be connected to this man and that she has given herself to be claimed by taking his semen.

 

[Ramone45]

Another huge psychological component for me as her spouse is seeing her in social situations with men I know she has had sex with. It could be anything. It could be any innocent, casual encounter at the supermarket or a school function or church or any random occasion. You can sense the intimate connection. Then, in my head, I envision them fucking. It's animal. She mates with multiple males who can protect her.

 

[mikendel]

I've never seen my wife happier or more loving than when her lover cums inside her. The only word I can use is elation, pure joy.She will shower him with kisses. She's told me that she loves the fact that she has given that man the ultimate pleasure. I also think she like the fact that she will forever be connected to this man and that she has given herself to be claimed by taking his semen.

and the look on her face as he fills her up with her cum. A look of satisfaction that she made him cum and used her body to please him.

 

[Ramone45]

and the look on her face as he fills her up with her cum. A look of satisfaction that she made him cum and used her body to please him.

She's always loved accepting her man's cum and the symbolism of being claimed by and bonded to him. She also told me that power of using her body to give pleasure is a huge turn on for her.

 

[Funnbrandy]

Hmmm

I'm trying to avoid the answer from guys that yes, physically it feels better to cum inside someone than not.

This is more of a psychological question of why. Women, if you like your partner cumming inside you, why? Is it a thrill of the risk of pregnancy? Is it feeling like a woman? The sense of completing naturally? A feeling of attachment? Is it mostly because your partner wants it? Something else?

For men, is it the feeling of power or control? Or is it mostly a physical feeling rather than emotional?

I think it's a little bit of everything you said, but deep down it's a primal urge, like on an evolutionary level I crave it....hard to explain but it's definitely more than just hot

 

[HeavyBalls]

I think it's a little bit of everything you said, but deep down it's a primal urge, like on an evolutionary level I crave it....hard to explain but it's definitely more than just hot

It's natural... Its what we're supposed to do.

 

[Asian_Flower]

Is there a more intimate thing than having the man you love release something from inside his body into yours? To feel his breath quicken knowing he is close, his thrusts strengthen, his back arch and to hear him groan as he climaxes, incredibly arousing as he empties himself inside you. Just this alone is often enough to push me over the edge also, mutual orgasms, mutually beneficial . To me it is all those things, the erotic nature of the sharing, the finale if you like of something so intimate.

 

[Scareltt]

I love it.. nothing better than that warm feeling

I love teasing him for a few days, winding him up and filling him up.. Then the warm gushing inside me.. then slowly rolling out of me as he cuddles with me.

 

[fit_sexual_male50]

I love teasing him for a few days, winding him up and filling him up.. Then the warm gushing inside me.. then slowly rolling out of me as he cuddles with me.

Sppprrronnggg!

 

[crashD]

I think it's a little bit of everything you said, but deep down it's a primal urge, like on an evolutionary level I crave it....hard to explain but it's definitely more than just hot

It’s the biological imperative to propogate the species. Our cave man brain still lives

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

when I was allowed to have intercourse I loved pulling out and shooting my cummies on her clitty then eating it like I was sucking a man. Sometimes she made me stay deep in her and I did not like that. The times I have been with a man I like them cumming deep in me because it just feels so good and lets they know they posses me. I love the submissive and possessed feeling one gets from a man being inside me and knowing how good it makes him feel.

 

[HayleyLuvsSex]

i think how primal it is is a big part of the appeal.

 

[SexiBexi84]

For me as a women its the physical sensation of it, no matter how good the sex was there is just nothing that can beat that feeling of when he cums inside you. The warmth, the involuntary pulsing, the feeling afterwards of still being full of cum is just so intensely pleasurable. Its the icing on the cake!

Somehow, using condoms or pulling out never feels like we've completed the full act.