Proud to be BI

[Stefani]

Straight men rule the world. The think they're the Masters of the Universe.

Gays and lesbians are coming into their own... making steps forward... gaining some rights... getting married on TV... every other week Ellen D. has a new girlfriend... gays have become a part of daily news.

Bisexuals are still deeply in the closet. With good reason. They take a lot of crap.
"Bisexuals are confused."
"Bisexuals don't know what they want."
"You'll leave me because you'll want d*ck."
"You'll leave me because you want p*ssy."

I've always been bisexual and NONE of those stereotypes are true... at least not for me. I'm not confused. When I fall in love - I fall in love with a PERSON, not with their crotch. What's in their head and their heart matters to me more than what's in a person's pants.

BIsexuals need to get out, and get proud.

Bisexuals have a lot to celebrate. Twice as many fish in the sea to hook up with. Double the choices. Double the fun. Bisexuals are more open-minded. Less prejudiced about gender.

BIsexuals just should be a bit more open and honest. We should celebrate our feelings, not hide them.

 

[Mari J]

every other week Ellen D. has a new girlfriend

Oh, so that's why this line is moving so fast.

 

[webshooter69]

Straight men rule the world. The think they're the Masters of the Universe.

Gays and lesbians are coming into their own... making steps forward... gaining some rights... getting married on TV... every other week Ellen D. has a new girlfriend... gays have become a part of daily news.

Bisexuals are still deeply in the closet. With good reason. They take a lot of crap.
"Bisexuals are confused."
"Bisexuals don't know what they want."
"You'll leave me because you'll want d*ck."
"You'll leave me because you want p*ssy."

I've always been bisexual and NONE of those stereotypes are true... at least not for me. I'm not confused. When I fall in love - I fall in love with a PERSON, not with their crotch. What's in their head and their heart matters to me more than what's in a person's pants.

BIsexuals need to get out, and get proud.

Bisexuals have a lot to celebrate. Twice as many fish in the sea to hook up with. Double the choices. Double the fun. Bisexuals are more open-minded. Less prejudiced about gender.

BIsexuals just should be a bit more open and honest. We should celebrate our feelings, not hide them.

For a few years there I "celibated" bi-sexually, but now I agree with you and celebrate it!

 

[Tymeless]

i'm not sexually attracted to men but i agree with your statement here goodluck in your quest.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Yeeeeah!Let's celebrate!
Then everyone can know we're bi and spread it and the ignorant and homophobic ridiculous people can just stay away from us!
Yaaaaay!!


I'm bi and proud of it too, but until I get to tell my parents, I won't get out of the closet.My parents have the key XD

 

[Half-Cat]

"Being bisexual doubles your chance of a date on Saturday night." -Woody Allen

Sounds like we got lucky and everyone else is jealous .

 

[Wolfman1982]

Hey Stef how are you ? And your girlfriend doing ?

 

[zartol]

I don't really know where to start with this... except to say that Stef, I am sure that you have been through a lot and that what you have done was/is not easy. It has not been my path so that is the caveat here. I am either blissfully ignorant or just to blind to see but I have never had a problem with being Bi. Also, my life is not in the everyday world (I am a musician) and for the most part, such things don't come up. If asked about my sexuality I usually say something like I'm quadraphonic... and leave it at that (it's like giving them the middle finger without having to be rude). I have been seen in public with men and women and men dressed like women and with women who would rather be men, blah blah blah... all at once sometimes. Looks and names... you get a few but they are rather meaningless as I tend to be very comfortable with myself.

I celebrate my freedom almost every night through my music... and encourage others to choose and celebrate their freedom... whatever that is. The final card to be played is the one that trumps all: honesty.

Perhaps I am lucky... wait, I know I am lucky. I am far from becoming militant about my sexuality. But I agree... we should all celebrate our uniqueness... and with others as often as possible.

Sorry for the rambling.

Go out and conguer your day in your world.

 

[M-Y-Erotica]

The Stefani Manifesto

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[Swordplay]

You've said it, Stefani! There's a lot to celebrate and be thankful for (sorry for that turn of phrase, it's Thanksgiving up here in Canada this weekend ) despite the stereotypes and other challenges.

 

[Samuelx]

Lately, I've become the arrogant bisexual guy who pisses off both sexes. I don't know why. I feel a lot of anger coming out of my soul. Also, I feel
stronger both emotionally and physically. I feel like I'm not afraid of anything. I've finally figured out my place in the world.



Wanna know what I did yesterday morning ? I saw a young black female walking in my neighborhood. I whistled. She turned around. I smiled and waved. She smiled, waved back and kept walking. Ain't that funny ? What did I do yesterday night ? I was talking to my supposedly heterosexual "best friend". He said something negative about queers. I said : " Guess what ? I'm fucking bi and loving it ! I light the candle at both ends ! I take it any way I can get it ! He went silent, then asked me if that was a true statement.



I said : "You got it." I laughed. A demonic laugh if there ever was one. He started saying something negative. I told him that the devil's got nothing on me and that I was perfectly willing to smash anything in my way. Anyone messes with me and he, she or it is gonna end up regretting it. I finished that sentence with : " Any questions ?" He didn't say anything. I hung up and felt proud of myself.


I feel like I can do anything !!!

 

[Stefani]

Wow Samuel, that was quite a reply. Bi and militant! Love it!

I've lived with men, women, and other transsexuals, so i've always been completely open about my preferences.

It just amazes me that when anyone here asks for a general introduction from people, a large number of people identify as bisexual... but I'm willing to bet that 90% of them are in the closet, and their own friends & family don't know.

Doesn't it seem weird that a fairly sizeable % of the population is embarrassed to admit the truth about who they are?

Maybe if we were more open about it, like Zartol, and just took it as "normal" behavior, the rest of the world would slowly come to accept us.

 

[lastingpassion]

hidden bisexuals

It is sad that so many bisexuals are "in the closet".
It is much worse to realize that our sexual nature is suppressed
more than it is enjoyed.

 

[Samuelx]

I know. I think it's harder for non-caucasian gays and bisexuals. The Black community is 1000 times more homophobic than the white community.
The Asians and Indians and Muslims are also deeply homophobic. It's really hard for GLBT people of color to come out of the closet as gay or bisexual.
Basically, their communities will make them outcasts. Most non-white glbt I've met have told me that they will only come out when they have money and don't need assistance of any kind from family or friends. They are certain that they will be rejected.

 

[Stefani]

I had a black boyfriend for 5 years. His family was always really nice to me. I went to many a function where i was the only white face in the crowd.

Because I am a TS, and he was obviously the "top" in the relationship, and I was sorta like a white woman... for those reasons I'm guessing I was less objectionable than if he was dating another guy.

It used to kill me that my family did not accept me - but that his family did. *sigh*

 

[RazorSplitClit]

I never had a chance to be "in the closet." My sister and mother were convinced I was bi before I knew it myself.

 

[BDisaster]

i wish my parents would just be like "hunny you're bi..we know..." that would make it so much easier on me haha

 

[Stefani]

I never had a chance to be "in the closet." My sister and mother were convinced I was bi before I knew it myself.

Must be nice to have open-minded parents like that. My parents are Bible-thumping "born againers."

They found out i was on hormones and dating a black guy from a friend who I had a fight with. She called my parents and told them what i was doing. My parents immediately called me and started reading me Bible verses over the phone... like it was going to magically save me.

 

[FurryFury]

Straight men rule the world. The think they're the Masters of the Universe.

Gays and lesbians are coming into their own... making steps forward... gaining some rights... getting married on TV... every other week Ellen D. has a new girlfriend... gays have become a part of daily news.

Bisexuals are still deeply in the closet. With good reason. They take a lot of crap.
"Bisexuals are confused."
"Bisexuals don't know what they want."
"You'll leave me because you'll want d*ck."
"You'll leave me because you want p*ssy."

I've always been bisexual and NONE of those stereotypes are true... at least not for me. I'm not confused. When I fall in love - I fall in love with a PERSON, not with their crotch. What's in their head and their heart matters to me more than what's in a person's pants.

BIsexuals need to get out, and get proud.

Bisexuals have a lot to celebrate. Twice as many fish in the sea to hook up with. Double the choices. Double the fun. Bisexuals are more open-minded. Less prejudiced about gender.

BIsexuals just should be a bit more open and honest. We should celebrate our feelings, not hide them.

Damn right!

That is just what I told one of my kids too who thinks they may be Bi!

I said hell everyone thinks about it. Most are too scared of it to admit it and therefore try to make it something terrible!

I am somewhat Bi or at least Bi curious.

I told my kid, that just means you have more people you can love if you are Bi. Dad and I don't care just be happy.

Fury

 

[RazorSplitClit]

Must be nice to have open-minded parents like that. My parents are Bible-thumping "born againers."

They found out i was on hormones and dating a black guy from a friend who I had a fight with. She called my parents and told them what i was doing. My parents immediately called me and started reading me Bible verses over the phone... like it was going to magically save me.

It is nice, and I know my mother gets criticized a lot by other people because of it.

 

[Stefani]

It is nice, and I know my mother gets criticized a lot by other people because of it.

Whenever you stand outside of society's accepted norm, you get criticized. I admire your mom and your sister for having the courage to be vocal about what they believe in.

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

The only reason I'm not 'entirely' out are my parents.
I would very well like to be free about admitted my sexuality to anyone who asks, but what if they learn it from somebody else??..
I'd really like to tell them, but currently we aren't on very good terms and I sometimes feel that it'd be better if I at least had a job in case anything serious happened..who do you think I should tell first?my mother or father?...
Or both?..I'm a little afraid of the outcome...

 

[John Doe]

Straight men rule the world. The think they're the Masters of the Universe.

Heh, I wish. All I'd have to do is not think about cock and I'd be set for life.

 

[SweetErika]

It just amazes me that when anyone here asks for a general introduction from people, a large number of people identify as bisexual... but I'm willing to bet that 90% of them are in the closet, and their own friends & family don't know.

Doesn't it seem weird that a fairly sizeable % of the population is embarrassed to admit the truth about who they are?

Maybe if we were more open about it, like Zartol, and just took it as "normal" behavior, the rest of the world would slowly come to accept us.

Great points, Stefani.

I was at a Bi Women's group meeting a few months ago, and the discussion topic was "Coming Out." About half of the women were out to longtime friends and family, but I was one of the ones who wasn't, and commented on feeling guilty about not doing my part to promote acceptance and equality in the community. I would be out if I wasn't married to a man, and I likely will when I'm seriously involved with a woman, but right now, I feel the "cheating" factor would really hurt especially my mom, even though she'd completely accept and support my sexuality. I don't share that I'm polyamorous for the same reason. All of the women who were out, and very active in the community, said it was a personal decision, and there's no obligation to come out before you're ready, or even at all if you don't feel it's right for you. I was really impressed and comforted by that thought.

I'm not embarrassed to admit I'm bi, and do so freely when someone inquires or it comes up. I feel I can do my part to promote openness and equal rights whether I'm out to family or not (mainly because the people I haven't told would love and support me either way), and it's not absolutely necessary to disclose what I do with my husband, other men or women in the bedroom. For my family and friends to know I have close relationships with others is enough.

 

[Ayan23]

good post

The only reason I'm not 'entirely' out are my parents.
I would very well like to be free about admitted my sexuality to anyone who asks, but what if they learn it from somebody else??..
I'd really like to tell them, but currently we aren't on very good terms and I sometimes feel that it'd be better if I at least had a job in case anything serious happened..who do you think I should tell first?my mother or father?...
Or both?..I'm a little afraid of the outcome...

I don't know, that's a good question. Send me a PM if you want somebody to talk to about it. I'm very open minded about my bisexuality and I've helped friends come out before. And even though I'm mostly attracted to women sometimes I like to act gay when i'm hanging out with gay friends, and sometimes I like a little sex with men, especially if there are women there.

I think one of the keys is to realize that it's not a big deal. Everybody is attracted to different sorts of people, and some tend to be more attracted to women, some tend to be more attracted to men, some like both equally or only one, it don't matter. Some people like fat people some like really petite, some like kinky fetishes some only want old fashioned sex behind closed doors and all these desires are basically equally good and equally valid. Also, bisexuality among women is becoming very much more mainstream, and the men are starting to follow. I think it's the perfect time to be exploring these feelings.

You seem cool. PM me if you wanna talk more about it

Ayan