Prostate Cancer, Angels, and Life

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

How to write like a fool and enjoy it.

I felt I had to add this comment to my very first story. Yes, I commented on my own comments. It's #1 on our story list, Living Our Fantasies. If it saves one life or encourages one couple to read a few of our stories and try some of the games the embarrassment and negative feedback is worth it all.
Within days of joining Literotica I nearly deleted because there are members without a heart and their brains are up their asses. Still, in time, we both realized most members are fun lovin, sincere, and willing to share intimate stories and comments. Nothing except the owners can make us leave now.

So here is my personal comment on my own personal first story.

Prostate Cancer, Angels, and Life

I didn't mention my angels yet. After complications with two new hips my feet swelled and the fluids went up around my rib cage and heart. To keep it simple I had heart failure and was classified as dead.

When I lived I was told I'd have permanent heart damage. After weeks in intensive care I was told I have the heart of a 21 year old.

Just about a year ago, like a fool, I stopped taking my meds. and had heart failure again. Within days of returning home our oldest son and wife came down to Florida and forced us to move back to the home we'd bought over the internet Oct 2014.
Yes we owned it but refused to leave Florida, our final resting place.

Now back in the mid-west, I found I have prostate cancer. The reason for no longer getting erections. The end of my world! With short term dementia my wife needs me.

Well don't give up! There are radiation treatments to kill the cancer and other things to create erections again. The radiation is no more painful than a simple CT X-ray.
Don't put off being checked and get it done if you have prostate cancer.

Our true stores are for entertainment. But more so to encourage and warn you that life can be beautiful and life can be short! Believe the parts you want. Just try living your own fantasies and enjoy your angels. If you don't get out and try it can never happen.

Sitting home reading porn and calling writers liars won't make your own sexual dreams come true. You have to be in the right places at the right times.

Right now my angels don't have wings. They are human nurses and doctors helping old men live.

 

[Iamsubmissive]

Thanks for posting such a personal story. It sounds like you've had many challenges but I admire your positive attitude. I've known several people with prostate cancer (they had some kind of radiation 'seeds' implanted in them) and they all pulled through great...years cancer free now. Keep your spirits up and good luck to you and your family.

 

[LIVINRFANTASIES]

Denny

Thanks for posting such a personal story. It sounds like you've had many challenges but I admire your positive attitude. I've known several people with prostate cancer (they had some kind of radiation 'seeds' implanted in them) and they all pulled through great...years cancer free now. Keep your spirits up and good luck to you and your family.

The things I've had wrong are minor compared to what some go through just to survive.
Yes they planted three gold seeds in the prostate. Doctor told me I get to keep them when finished. I did worry they'd want to dig them back out. I'm sure there's not much real gold in them thar hills.

I only posted because my own brother, two years younger, had his prostate removed before these modern ways were figured out. He nearly died and suffered for years after.
I have friends who are afraid to be treated. I hope just one man reads my simple comment and has the radiation. I didn't want or expect pity. After all, most men will have prostate cancer in their lifetime.

I ask a lot of questions. Where I go there are 22 or more men passing thru the machine every 15 minutes for 45 week days. The two main hospitals also have a machine each with 22 or 23 men being radiated daily weekdays. Imagine every large city and every machine passing 22 men a day for treatment.

This doesn't count the endless men who have no idea they have prostate cancer and those who won't be treated. To me and the guys I've talked to the time it takes is well worth the piece of mind. Remember, this is painless.

Maybe not something to post on a porn forum but without a hard penis and live men there wouldn't be as much porn.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Thank you for sharing, Denny. My grandpa fought a long battle with prostate cancer and became devoted to encouraging the men in our family to get tested. Maybe your story encourages other men to get tested.

Lots of love to you and Dollie

 

[BuckyDuckman]

Thank you. I'm living in fear of prostate cancer. I'm high risk. My dad had it. Both of my older brothers have had their prostates removed. Hell, even my best buddy from high school lost his prostate.

As for me - I can't help but think, "Fuck it. Something's going to get me." I haven't had my prostate checked in several years. With all the BS in the news about whether PSA's or digital checks are even worthwhile, I'm living in fear and choosing ignorance over knowledge. Doctors kill people, you know?

Okay, not really, but damn - doctors have to give out the bad news all the time.

So, thanks.

 

[UltimateHomeBody]

As far as cancers go prostate cancer is normally a nice slow growing one. Saying that it is crap to be disgnosed with it. Had mine out last year, the old fashoined way, but with nerve saving..got to keep the right ones.

 

[nyc1975]

The whole area surrounding prostate cancer has become highly controversial. Because in most men it is slow growing, there is view among many physicians that "watchful waiting" is the best practice. Their view is that something else will likely kill the patient before the cancer does. That is probably valid for men over 70.

In my case, I was 65 when diagnosed. The idea of living with cancer was not appealing to me. Also not appealing was the necessity of being biopsied more than once. If you have been through it, you know what I am talking about. I reviewed the options and opted for robotic surgery to remove the prostate. Unfortunately, the mass was located close to the nerve that controls erectile function, and in the process of cleaning up the "margins", the surgeon touched the nerve. That was it for naturally occurring erections for this boy.

Two years after the surgery, follow up PSA tests indicated that the cancer had not been completely removed. I then underwent hormone deprivation therapy combined with beam radiation. The hormone treatment is a bitch, literally. It eliminates all your testosterone for up to a year. Then you find out what women go through in menopause.

Were I to make the decision again, I would take my chances with beam radiation the first time. Taking chances means that if the radiation doesn't work, you cannot then have surgery. You probably cannot have radiation again either due to limits on lifetime exposure.

A final word on "seeds" because there is a lot of confusion. Men choosing beam radiation will have up to 12 markers implanted in their prostate. These are used by the radiation therapist to precisely locate the organ. Seed therapy (brachytherapy), on the other hand, involves the insertion of around 100 radioactive seeds in the prostate. Over time the low level radiation produced by these seeds kill the cancer cells. However, you will have the seeds forever, and they will produce enough radiation that you will be prohibited from holding infants and small children in your lap. As a grandfather, that option was out from the get-go.

For those who have professed a choice for ignorance over knowledge, I urge you to reconsider. One of the phrases I have determined I never want to gear from a physician is, "I wish you had seen me sooner about this. We could have done something then."

My two cents, thanks for reading.

 

[gracie920101]

I'm happy to see this discussion whether it's here on Lit or anywhere.

My brother in law was diagnosed when he was 58 and managed to collect 4 SS checks before he succumbed to prostate cancer. My sister followed him 1 year and 5 days later because she couldn't stand living without him so I basically blame prostate cancer for the loss of my family.

J and I have had our scare with it and we at the point where he now goes every 6 months for a check.
I consider us lucky.

So if any of these posts convinces even one guy to go thru the nuisance of being checked and catching it early...great! Job well done.