Professional Male Doms

[sinfulsimon]

I've recently joined the world of professional Domination (mostly in double sessions with a female Dominant and some distance training). I've seen a few listings and websites for other pro male Doms, but not much. I think there is probably a smaller market for this sort of thing.

Does anyone know of any websites, books, material on pro male Doms? I'll take anything.

Thanks

 

[FurryFury]

This might help:

https://forum.literotica.com/archive/index.php/t-70371.html

Good luck finding whatever you are looking for.

Fury

 

[Netzach]

I think when you find that you need a resource and it doesn't exist, it's often the sound of a great opportunity whistling in that vacuum, for traffic to your sites, networking, and visibility.

I know of no such forum. Most of the professional Domme forums emphasize FemDom to the exclusion of other facets of the industry, personally I think we lose out on networking by doing that. But there should be a boys club of some kind for males in the fetish industry other than clients, I think. I'd think about emailing some people you find on a list like maxfisch or something (male Doms are listed there) and see what you come up with.

 

[Marquis]

I would fucking love to be a professional het male Dom.

 

[Netzach]

I would fucking love to be a professional het male Dom.

You are one of the only people I could imagine maybe picking up a client or two who throws that out. Gay for pay and you'd be rolling in it.

 

[Marquis]

You are one of the only people I could imagine maybe picking up a client or two who throws that out. Gay for pay and you'd be rolling in it.

I imagine myself having a lot of married professional women as clientele.

 

[sincerely_helene]

I've recently joined the world of professional Domination (mostly in double sessions with a female Dominant and some distance training). I've seen a few listings and websites for other pro male Doms, but not much. I think there is probably a smaller market for this sort of thing.

Does anyone know of any websites, books, material on pro male Doms? I'll take anything.

Thanks

I would so use that service if it was availible in my area. But, your right- just not enough of a market for it. I could state a few reasons why, though not without sounding really sexist.

 

[Marquis]

I would so use that service if it was availible in my area. But, your right- just not enough of a market for it. I could state a few reasons why, though not without sounding really sexist.

A foxy dame like yourself could have her pick of quality Doms for sessions consisting of whatever the fuck you wanted without having to pay a red cent, that's why.

 

[sincerely_helene]

A foxy dame like yourself could have her pick of quality Doms for sessions consisting of whatever the fuck you wanted without having to pay a red cent, that's why.

That's not really true (well, the foxy part might be .) I'm not sure what it's like in other areas of the world, but where I live we have one local group and it consists purely of horny swingers using the cover of BDSM as a way to get laid. We have no fetish nights at any of our nightclubs, and there are no professional Dommes, let alone Doms. Surprising, considering it is a pretty big town.

Datingwise, you might get a little light spanking foreplay but that is the extent of it. The lack of kink doen't really bother me, though, as I'm not much into the physical BDSM aspect anyway. What does bother me is how wimpy, insecure and submissive most of the men here are. The mental plays a big role in my arousal factor, so it is a really huge turn off if the man can't even master himself, let alone me.

I'm such a prude that even if I were to pay a professional it would be to satisfy my emotional needs. I wouldn't care if he never laid a hand on me, and in fact I'd probably prefer it. I can't speak for other women, but maybe part of the reason there is not much of a market for male prostitutes and dominants is just that we are not as sexually driven as men?

 

[Marquis]

That's not really true (well, the foxy part might be .) I'm not sure what it's like in other areas of the world, but where I live we have one local group and it consists purely of horny swingers using the cover of BDSM as a way to get laid. We have no fetish nights at any of our nightclubs, and there are no professional Dommes, let alone Doms. Surprising, considering it is a pretty big town.

Wow.

Where I live the horny swingers have their own clubs (several) although there is some crossover with the BDSM crowd.

Datingwise, you might get a little light spanking foreplay but that is the extent of it. The lack of kink doen't really bother me, though, as I'm not much into the physical BDSM aspect anyway. What does bother me is how wimpy, insecure and submissive most of the men here are. The mental plays a big role in my arousal factor, so it is a really huge turn off if the man can't even master himself, let alone me.

I hear this type of thing a lot and I always have a hard time believing it. There are too many abusive relationships out there for there to be so few dominant men. I guess the abusers don't go for the challenge of a woman with a brain. My suggestion is to find an abusive guy and convince him he's capable of abusing you if he puts the effort in.

I'm such a prude that even if I were to pay a professional it would be to satisfy my emotional needs. I wouldn't care if he never laid a hand on me, and in fact I'd probably prefer it. I can't speak for other women, but maybe part of the reason there is not much of a market for male prostitutes and dominants is just that we are not as sexually driven as men?

I think to say that women are not as sexually driven is totally false, I just think your sexuality is skewed towards different areas of importance. It's also different for every woman of course. I do think that women want to be romanced a lot more than men though, if that's what you're getting at.

 

[sincerely_helene]

I hear this type of thing a lot and I always have a hard time believing it. There are too many abusive relationships out there for there to be so few dominant men. I guess the abusers don't go for the challenge of a woman with a brain. My suggestion is to find an abusive guy and convince him he's capable of abusing you if he puts the effort in.

Willing to bet that statement will attract a few responses. I'm not touching it with a ten foot pole, though.

To some degree I agree with your last paragraph. I don't know about the romance part. I think that can be pushed a little too far and have the opposite effect then intended.

 

[FurryFury]

I always wanted a professional.

In one of my "perfect" visions about how my life would end up that I had when I was 18. I thought I would have a professional male who I could call to come over and more importantly, tell to leave, at my whim.

I was going to be rich too. LOL.

I think I'm very sexually driven though.

I've been thinking a lot more about pro Dom's and Dommes, lately too. Given what I want it seems to be a possible solution, if I didn't worry it would hurt my husband I'd have gone to some type of Dom already.

Most recently however I've been quite happy with my husband's efforts. He's pretty incredible.

Fury

 

[Marquis]

Willing to bet that statement will attract a few responses. I'm not touching it with a ten foot pole, though.

To some degree I agree with your last paragraph. I don't know about the romance part. I think that can be pushed a little too far and have the opposite effect then intended.

Maybe next zeitgeist.

 

[John Doe]

Given the current climate of American culture, this sort of thing doesn't really have any kind of significant demand, and unfortunately I dont think it'll be easy to create such demand.

 

[Quint]

I imagine myself having a lot of married professional women as clientele.

I'd sure as hell be one of them!

In a way, I think I'd feel safer with another dominant male besides T if there were an exchange of money involved. I wonder what that says. Though I don't know if I'd consider it more humiliating and fun if T explicitly paid them in front of me to do X unspeakable deeds, or if he watched me pay to have them done.

 

[Marquis]

I'd sure as hell be one of them!

In a way, I think I'd feel safer with another dominant male besides T if there were an exchange of money involved. I wonder what that says. Though I don't know if I'd consider it more humiliating and fun if T explicitly paid them in front of me to do X unspeakable deeds, or if he watched me pay to have them done.

Yes, exchanging money makes everything better.

 

[s'lara]

Not sure i agree money adds a positive spice.

i think being hooked out as a professional painslut/no holes barred submissive without getting one dime is humiliation on a level that says ... *derisive laugh* "Whore, you're not worth a greenback." Digs under that pride of "at least my tail is worth something" and husks it out coldly.

Not bad, but rough.

As for hiring a professional male Dom, i don't know of one masosub, in the raw state betwixt sessions, where the idea of a 'pain for pay session' is not only appealing, but slaps the hunger out of his/her mouth.

lara

 

[Marquis]

You are one of the only people I could imagine maybe picking up a client or two who throws that out. Gay for pay and you'd be rolling in it.

You know, ever since you said this I've considered the possibility of non-sexual BDSM play with sub men, ala the pro-Dommes.

I might just be comfortable enough with myself to do that.

 

[Thrall_67]

i'm with Helene on this one.......... As a single professional woman chasing a career with rapid advancement and with little time for a relationship, finding a play partner isn't easy. BDSM groups are great but most players are paired off and in relationships themselves (other female subs are reluctant to share their Doms periodically - yes they do have choices - illusion is a wonderful thing ) and i have no interest in being owned at the moment.

The need to be asswhipped and put in my place is strong but alas, there are so very few Who can do so with skill and the agreement that W/we play, W/we cum, W/we leave eachother alone till the next time.

i too would be more than happy to spend a few G's a year for this service (? er, i mean, opportunity.....). Been trying the "monk" thing but beating oneself isn't as fun as it sounds (and i always wimp out before i reach the good part..... )

Ps - Helene - your posts are fab - never, ever stop yourself from being sexist - you make us all laugh

 

[catalina_francisco]

Not sure i agree money adds a positive spice.

i think being hooked out as a professional painslut/no holes barred submissive without getting one dime is humiliation on a level that says ... *derisive laugh* "Whore, you're not worth a greenback." Digs under that pride of "at least my tail is worth something" and husks it out coldly.

Not bad, but rough.

As for hiring a professional male Dom, i don't know of one masosub, in the raw state betwixt sessions, where the idea of a 'pain for pay session' is not only appealing, but slaps the hunger out of his/her mouth.

lara

Think as with many things it depends on the mindset you can be brought into. One angle is that you can be bought and sold, and whereas without cash and similar circumstances you might be expected to perform above and beyond what many would consider acceptable, where cash is involved there can be a lot more pressure applied to fulfil that expectation regardless of how you feel or what you are capable of. In some ways it can provide an even more deeply felt feeling of humiliation and worthlessness if the Dominant/s in question have the ability to take you there.

Catalina

 

[Marquis]

i'm with Helene on this one.......... As a single professional woman chasing a career with rapid advancement and with little time for a relationship, finding a play partner isn't easy. BDSM groups are great but most players are paired off and in relationships themselves (other female subs are reluctant to share their Doms periodically - yes they do have choices - illusion is a wonderful thing ) and i have no interest in being owned at the moment.

The need to be asswhipped and put in my place is strong but alas, there are so very few Who can do so with skill and the agreement that W/we play, W/we cum, W/we leave eachother alone till the next time.

i too would be more than happy to spend a few G's a year for this service (? er, i mean, opportunity.....). Been trying the "monk" thing but beating oneself isn't as fun as it sounds (and i always wimp out before i reach the good part..... )

Ps - Helene - your posts are fab - never, ever stop yourself from being sexist - you make us all laugh

A few more posts like this and I have a career.

 

[Thrall_67]

A few more posts like this and I have a career.

Perhaps, but will You do housecalls?? ......... Ya'know for those BDSM emergencies??