Problems giving oral

[amwoman75]

Ok, surely I'm not the only one out there that has gag issues and a strong sense of smell. How do you get past stuff like that to give oral?

I've been with my husband for 18 years, and fortunately he's more than happy to be the one doing the pleasuring, because in all those years the times I have tried to give him bj's have been very few. I thought it would be different for me with women, but after finally being with a woman last year after years of curiosity, I had issues then too. I want to do it, and I want to enjoy it, especially the idea of giving a woman oral is a total turn on for me.

Here's the problem, I'm I guess you could call obsessed when it comes to personal hygiene. I don't sweat, I never have, yet I still often find the need to shower more than once a day because I just feel gross. So, I'm not one of those people turned on by sweaty bodies, for me it's kind of eww LOL. Then to top all that back when I had my kids I was sick every single day of my pregnancies and ever since I gag easily and have an incredibly strong sense of smell. One little whiff of a smell my body doesn't like and I want to be sick.

Which means, my face positioned at a part of the body that tends to get sweaty and give off odors, is not a good thing for me. But I do really want to find a way to get past that. Like I said, my husband is more than happy doing the pleasuring, and since I'm the one worrying and taking care of everyone all the time, I have no problems letting someone else take care of me in bed.....the woman I was with was the same way, she got off just pleasuring me and watching me. But I really want to be able to reciprocate and not only with my hands, but with my mouth too.

Anyone have any suggestions for me? I have tried using flavored condoms on my husband, and it does help, but only slightly. And with my lady friend I tried whipped cream, but it didn't really help.

 

[infinity706]

Well, you should be using whipped cream on her pussy to begin with. Sugary things have a nasty way of causing yeast infections.

Now, as for going down on someone and not liking the smell, you could always try doing it in the shower. That way there should be no smell or taste at all.

 

[cfuhrer]

You might try a quick swipe of something like Vics Vaporub or Mentholatum, either just under your nose or up inside the nostrils.
It's used a lot in morgues (sp) and when I was growing up we used it on animals to limit their sense of smell.

 

[amwoman75]

Infinity.... I'm assuming you meant to say "shouldn't" be using whipped cream? It was actually her idea, and she is a total medical fanatic LOL, so I'm sure she wasn't concerned about it or she wouldn't have suggested it. Fortunately yeast infections seem to be one of those you're either prone to it or your not kind of things, I myself am not, so hopefully she isn't either LOL.

The shower is a good idea, but difficult as I'm a bigger girl and my husband is a bigger guy, and this girlfriend is bigger than I am. I'm sure we could make it work, but it definitely wouldn't be overly comfortable for any parties LOL. Thanks for the suggestion!

cfuhrer.....that is one I have actually never thought of! It might work....as long as I didn't transfer it LOL, I think vapo rub down there might burn a tad LOL. But maybe I can think of something along those lines that would definitely be safe should it transfer....I'll have to give that idea some thought! Thanks!

 

[cfuhrer]

I think vapo rub down there might burn a tad LOL.

I will be honest- it does get warm but I find it quite pleasant.

 

[amwoman75]

I will be honest- it does get warm but I find it quite pleasant.

LOL, I'm sure I wouldn't mind it so much if it was me....not sure my hubby would like the feeling though. I do think I could figure something out from your idea though....thinking, thinking, thinking....LOL

 

[infinity706]

Well, if you have trouble fitting in the shower, you could just have your partner take one whenever you want to do oral. It's just more fun if you take the shower with them.

 

[storyreader84]

I like the shower idea, we really enjoy beginning to get it on in the shower and cleaning each other, she feels more comfortable and confident about herself also. So if the shower is too difficult you should consider incorporating cleaning each other (or just one of you) in to it with some soft clothes or something...?

 

[cryforme1v]

I use to be the same way!
After i had my son i couldnt even be in the same room as raw meat because it made me gag, so you can just imagine how it was giving head - i just could not do it.
Then a friend suggested Menthos.
I tried it - he loved the sensation and the taste / smell wasnt nearly as potent to me.
After a while of sucking on menthos as i suck him it paid off. I no longer have to use menthos.
There are also cream like things that you can put a dab in your mouth and it changes the taste. can get them from most adult stores but i suggest ordering from a Passion Party consultant. Because they can give a sample before buying. Some taste really good and some taste really bad - so see if you can get a tiny sample before buying.

Good Luck and i hope this helped.

 

[mercuryfrost]

I do like my the woman I am pleasuring to be nice and clean. So often we will have a shower and then go down on each other. That way everything is clean and fresh before we start. AS for the spur of the moment type thing you could always start it off with a nice sensual sponge bath!

 

[sunandshadow]

If you have problems with the vaporub, try something like cherry chapstick instead.

 

[infinity706]

If you have problems with the vaporub, try something like cherry chapstick instead.

Don't mention cherry chapstick. That always makes my brother sing "I kissed a girl and I liked it." Of course, that might not be much of an issue seeing as a lot of women here like kissing other women.

 

[DriveSouth]

Good grief. Suck it up babe. No pun intended.

Sometimes you just gotta do things because you love them.

 

[amwoman75]

Thank you so much all for the suggestions! I definitely love the Menthos suggestion, thanks so much cryforme! I think I will try that!


DriveSouth, your ignorant comment was not necessary. Think of a food you can't stand the taste of, just the thought of that food makes your gag reflex act up, and grab a handful of it and shove it in your mouth(make sure you've got enough in there that it will go back to your throat too) and keep it there for about 15 minutes.....then come back and make such a comment.....only after you have done this at least 3 or 4 times a week for a while. Giving a BJ or not has nothing to do with love, I've been with my husband for more than 18 years, I think that's proof enough. He is not even asking for this, it's something I'm trying to see if I can find a way to do, he is perfectly happy pleasuring me.....see I have a GOOD man, not one that bases our love on something so minor.