Pretending to be a female on an SRP

TonyG

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NOTE:This thread was originally started by Lightman on the SRP board. I felt that it was a good topic for discussion here. The first few posts are also from the SRP board. What is your feeling?
Originally posted by Lightman
Although I am male, I have posted in a few threads on the SRP Board as a female character. These threads went fairly well, and I have quite enjoyed myself. However, I wonder if some might feel uncomfortable with this--that maybe some do not like the idea of interacting(even in RP) someone who is actually of the same gender.
I would really like to hear the general opinion on this...in order to know wether I should abstain from RP-ing as a female in future.
Originally posted by Merelan
Though I have never done this. There are several here that have. Not sure they have made it open so won't mention names. They have done well. It shows a great imagination to do so. Creativity a must.keep it up!!! Didn't really mean that pun, did I?
Originally posted by Amadeus
To be honest, I usually start out with a fear, or the assumption, that the girl is actually a pimply-faced adolescent guy and it is a nice surprise when I am wrong.I have no idea how often I have been completely fooled and gone to the end of a story line with someone who was actually a male. And it doesn't matter. The only times it was really offensive was when it became so pornographic and ugly and obvious that it was an unimaginative male pretending to be female. That makes it ugly and insulting and I always drop out of the story. No fun. I have played female roles myself occasionally, but only with women writing the other part. I enjoyed it very much and it was very erotic, sometimes quite beautiful. I felt a little guilty deceiving the other writer and that was uncomfortable, so I stopped doing it. That was easy because there are enough straightforward, honest female writers on the lit board to make for very great story telling and extremely good and sensual fantasy. God bless them, they are lovely, and I really love them. Thanks, Lit Ladies,
[Edited by Amadeus on 01-13-2001 at 06:37 PM]
Originally posted by Neale
I have played female characters in rpgs before, in fact I often do, as I generally play with a bunch of guys, and that is the only way to have any female characters at all. However, I don't think I would play a female in a Srpg thread, because it would be just a little weird, not to mention dishonest-if the other party did not know that I was doing so. The only way I can see that it would be 'right' is if my character was somehow transformed within the story. So long as it is in character, I would have no problems staying with the thread.
Originally posted by Phoenix
Actually I got my start in Lit as a cowriter for a female part. See my friend Asya who is the other Phoenix, got married in November of last year and as a result between planning her wedding and doing the deed she needed someone to fill in for her and naturally she chose me her roomie and best friend. Seeing the fact that I am a journalist major and actually wrote my first novel (well most of it at least), it was so obvious. Matter of fact in the superhero league thread me and Asya's style was so distinct that we decided to be two characters instead of one. As for the sexual stuff well at first it made uncomfortable but after a lil (or a lot of) research from various ladies in my life I think I can write sex for both genders. I may not do as well as others but I can be serviceable for either role. However usually I prefer to stay male though just out of the fact that well since I am male I must be used to it.
Originally posted by Hecate
I did play both, male and female roles and will continue doing so in the future... I really do not know what difference it makes since ANY character I am playing in a Role Play is unreal and not ME... so, since I can be whatever - whoever I like, I take the liberty of being a blonde, a brunette, a redhead, slim, athletic, busty - male or female...
The part in a SRP doesn't put me into any interaction with the author of any other character - it is a "writer's challenge" in my eyes, a release for my creativity, a playground for forbidden fantasies. For all I know about people I write with, the "handsome stud, age 32, dark wavy hair and piercing blue eyes" could have pimples and be just 18, or beer bellied and balding at age 75 ... as long as the writing is fun, why should I care??? It is all about taking advantage of the delightfull fantasies our minds can supply us with ...

I do admit though that it is a completely DIFFERENT MATTER to assume a knowingly fake identity when stepping out of the boundaries of the Role Play, when fiction does become a reality (or as much of it as it can be in Cyberspace) and trust is betrayed. Having said that , I would rather not "mix up" this particular topic between the role play and the general board ... there have been cases where "true identities" turned out to be fake, but hearts were broken in the process and a web of lies was spun that was not easily entagled, leave alone forgotten or forgiven.
 
I do not like SRPing with a male pretending to be a female.

When I role play I am responding to the character but I am working with the actor. I can not develop a sexual working relationship for a male actor. Also, while some males may be able to write very well as a female, I do not believe they can trully think as one.
 
I could never role play as a male. Why would I want to? When I role play, I get into my character. I feel what they feel (which can be quite a bit of fun at times!! ;)). I don't understand men in RL and that would certainly come across in an srp!
 
I have never posted on the SRP board. I read there almost daily but somehow always felt like an intruder when I started to "jump in". However, I will give my opinion. I think it depends on how the person writes and how they present themselves. As stated above, it is often quite clear when a man "pretends" to be a woman. However, if you have the rare man that can carry a female character with the grace and style of a true woman...I see no problem. You are, after all, interacting with a character someone has "made" himself or herself.

Along those same lines, I have written one work of erotic fiction (my best in my opinion) from a male point of view. It didn't start out that way, however when I read back over the outline I had written, I found that it almost begged to be written from the male character’s point of view. Was I trying to be deceitful and dishonest? Not at all. I had no desire for someone to think me something that I'm not. Simply put, the story led and I followed.

Just my opinion.

By the way, Tony...this is a great thread
 
Hmmmm... I don't know. I don't post on the SRP board. My imagination isn't that great to be able to describe things from a male point of view. If I write any kind of a scenario, it is really me writing about my own feelings. I don't know that I would do well on the SRP board, or even writing stories, since they'd all have to be from my limited point of view. That's why I'm a reader, not an author.
 
Just out of curiousity....

I have read (or think I read anyway) in quite a few of the above posts a little hesitance when a male writer takes on a female role, specially men seem to be touched by that aspect, feeling not too comfortable about interacting with another man ... is it any different the other way round (a female writing a male role)?
 
to Hecate

TO HECATE:
I do not have as much of a problem with women writing as men. I have found that the woman who does this style of writing usually has a very good knowledge of the male psyche. I wonder if it is because that is how they would want the male to act, especially with a female?

TO SIMPLYSOUTHERN:
Thank you for the complement.

TO COUNTESS:
I definitely agree about getting into the character. That is the only way to really write from the soul and I don't think opposite sexes can do that correctly.
 
Hey, c'mon....

If yer dick gets hard over - WORDS! Just words.

What does the source matter?

Faggot.
 
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