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You really do not need an enema. A nice shower to clean the area, lots of lube and a patient partner will do just fine. Just remember, slow and easy and you will open up and let him in. My first few times, I was amazed at the size that I got in me........some over 7 inches around. Just be clean and well lubed
You really do not need an enema. A nice shower to clean the area, lots of lube and a patient partner will do just fine. Just remember, slow and easy and you will open up and let him in. My first few times, I was amazed at the size that I got in me........some over 7 inches around. Just be clean and well lubed
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While an enema may not be required, I suggest you first play with a dildo/vibrator. If it doesn't come out clean, then you do need to do something. My partner used to use a douch simply because they sell those in small sizes.
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As evidenced by my low post count I'm much more of a reader than poster here, but I remember when I first became interested in anal play I couldn't find any good, real advice so... I offer my experiences to help anyone who was in a similar position to me a few years ago...
Over time I have learned to love anal play but it needs to be as clean as humanly possible. For me there is nothing sexual about poop, the sight and smell of it pretty much ruins my sexual mood. So what should someone like me do, someone who enjoys anal play but doesn't want to deal with poop...
These are the things that have worked very well for me but, as they say, your mileage may very...
1) Diet - I haven't changed my diet but I do usually eat a good amount of fiber around mid-day of any night were anal play will be involved. Usually mid-day fiber gets me pretty cleaned out by early evening.
2) Preparation - I use a warm water enema around an hour before anal play. There is always some waste that needs to be flushed out and I've found a warm water enema to be the best way to get clean inside. Depending on how clean I am afterward I might use a second warm water enema. Either way, when I finish an enema I look for the expelled water to be about 99.9% clean afterward. Usually one or two warm water enemas do the trick.
Following those two directions plus the normal soap and water external cleaning that occurs, I've been very, very successful at enjoying clean anal play.
One other point to make, anything that is inserted into the anus should not be inserted anywhere else (mouth, vagina, etc...).
Hope this helps.
Over time I have learned to love anal play but it needs to be as clean as humanly possible. For me there is nothing sexual about poop, the sight and smell of it pretty much ruins my sexual mood. So what should someone like me do, someone who enjoys anal play but doesn't want to deal with poop...
These are the things that have worked very well for me but, as they say, your mileage may very...
1) Diet - I haven't changed my diet but I do usually eat a good amount of fiber around mid-day of any night were anal play will be involved. Usually mid-day fiber gets me pretty cleaned out by early evening.
2) Preparation - I use a warm water enema around an hour before anal play. There is always some waste that needs to be flushed out and I've found a warm water enema to be the best way to get clean inside. Depending on how clean I am afterward I might use a second warm water enema. Either way, when I finish an enema I look for the expelled water to be about 99.9% clean afterward. Usually one or two warm water enemas do the trick.
Following those two directions plus the normal soap and water external cleaning that occurs, I've been very, very successful at enjoying clean anal play.
One other point to make, anything that is inserted into the anus should not be inserted anywhere else (mouth, vagina, etc...).
Hope this helps.
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I have heard that too frequent an enema can negatively affect the bacterial flora. I think it is great if you do an enema several hours before any activity. I just wonder how many people plan their future sexual activities. When I and my partner were fairly new, he would always shower before bed. I know it was to get cleaned out. Just that shower alone would get me hard because I knew it meant he was wanting me inside him. However, over the years, that behavior stopped. If I want to fuck him I have to accept that. Luckily he isn't a real dirty person.
Now years ago I had a fuck buddy who was always clean. I'll never understand it. He was a regular meat & potatoes kind of guy, but every time I stuck something up his ass, it was clean. He didn't deliberately go to the bathroom befor sex, so I don't know how it was the case. I figured it must be partially genetic.
Now years ago I had a fuck buddy who was always clean. I'll never understand it. He was a regular meat & potatoes kind of guy, but every time I stuck something up his ass, it was clean. He didn't deliberately go to the bathroom befor sex, so I don't know how it was the case. I figured it must be partially genetic.
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Using an enema is something I do maybe once or twice a month and it's never, ever been a problem. Again, I offer what works for me...
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I should add as a married couple with young children most of our time alone has to be planned around sports, school, projects, job, etc... so... the pre-planning aspect doesn't really have an impact...
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I can see your point that with kids in the picture you and your wife have to deliberately make plans to have intimate time for yourselves. Given that I'm gay and childless, you'd think I'd have all the time in the world for continual, spontaneous sexual releases with my partner. However, the last few years my drive had calmed a bit. While I still masturbate somewhat regularly (not usually multiple times a day like I used to do), my partner and I fuck maybe every few weeks. (I had a treat earlier this week in that I got to do fuck him two nights in a row! It wasn't even my birthday -- nor his.)
I think the big difference for me personally is that fucking ass is my "meat & potatoes" kind of sex. Mutual masturbation and oral sex may be pleasant, but so is riding in a convertible car with the top down. While pleasant, none of those things are orgasmic (for me).
So when I'm in the mood I just hope he's in the mood AND clean. Being a gentleman, I don't push it if he isn't in the mood. As to the cleanliness, I used to be a clean freak. However, anymore I don't know if he is tired or what, but if I really want to insure that he is clean I have to include that as part of the foreplay. I'm surprised that he doesn't make a bigger effort towards that. I know he loved it when I rimmed him. However, I absolutely, positively will not budge there. If he isn't 100% clean down there, that activity is totally out of the question.
When you are monogamous and anal sex is your meat and potatoes, you just know you'll get lucky if your partner actually is completely clean. I do know that if my sex drive was what it was a few years back, I'm not sure what we would do. I refuse to have sex with someone else -- not because of the fear of diseases but because I don't believe in stepping out (even if he were one to allow that). Likewise, I think it would be very unhealthy for him to have an enema every day. Thus, I think I would just force myself to masturbate to space out the fucking.
(A bit off topic but still an important lesson for anal newbies... I almost got to have a couple of fuck sessions with my guy about two weeks ago. Unfortunately, I had also been in the mood to cook Mexican food earlier that evening. Well when I fingered his ass, to prepare him, he got really hot -- (pun intended and in a bad away). Moral of the story: If you cook something spicy hot, WASH your hands thoroughly and maybe even multiple times. Also before you go to putting your finger up someone's ass, touch your cock first. If you experience any burning sensation, then you will know you haven't washed enough. Spicy foods and anal sex simply don't mix well.)
I think the big difference for me personally is that fucking ass is my "meat & potatoes" kind of sex. Mutual masturbation and oral sex may be pleasant, but so is riding in a convertible car with the top down. While pleasant, none of those things are orgasmic (for me).
So when I'm in the mood I just hope he's in the mood AND clean. Being a gentleman, I don't push it if he isn't in the mood. As to the cleanliness, I used to be a clean freak. However, anymore I don't know if he is tired or what, but if I really want to insure that he is clean I have to include that as part of the foreplay. I'm surprised that he doesn't make a bigger effort towards that. I know he loved it when I rimmed him. However, I absolutely, positively will not budge there. If he isn't 100% clean down there, that activity is totally out of the question.
When you are monogamous and anal sex is your meat and potatoes, you just know you'll get lucky if your partner actually is completely clean. I do know that if my sex drive was what it was a few years back, I'm not sure what we would do. I refuse to have sex with someone else -- not because of the fear of diseases but because I don't believe in stepping out (even if he were one to allow that). Likewise, I think it would be very unhealthy for him to have an enema every day. Thus, I think I would just force myself to masturbate to space out the fucking.
(A bit off topic but still an important lesson for anal newbies... I almost got to have a couple of fuck sessions with my guy about two weeks ago. Unfortunately, I had also been in the mood to cook Mexican food earlier that evening. Well when I fingered his ass, to prepare him, he got really hot -- (pun intended and in a bad away). Moral of the story: If you cook something spicy hot, WASH your hands thoroughly and maybe even multiple times. Also before you go to putting your finger up someone's ass, touch your cock first. If you experience any burning sensation, then you will know you haven't washed enough. Spicy foods and anal sex simply don't mix well.)
Here is what I do to prepare for strap on fucking. Buy a Fleet Enema and empty the laxative solution that it is filled with-rinse with water and refill with warm water. Use half of the water-expel and then use the other half of the water. Shower and you should be squeaky clean.
The laxative solution may be what is causing problems with your GI tract.
I always use the enema before we go to bed to fuck. We may not always do anal, but I try to be ready for anal play-strap on and prostate massage.
We love all types of fucking. PM me if you would like details of our anal fucking.
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I am one of those fortunate guys that when I take a dump I empty my complete lower GI track. So a couple of squirts of my shower enema wand gets me squeaky clean. I use to meet once a week with a friend who it took three or four enemas to get him cleaned out. We laughed that we seemed to spend more time on enemas then we did doing each other. I have to say that was kind of fun giving each other enemas although that is certainly a different kind of anal play.
Part of the situation is what you eat but more importantly is how your stomach muscles contract when you are taking a shit. What is most important is to find out what works for you. Certainly for most of us anal play is more fun when you are clean. I have also tried piss enemas and beer enemas but that is probably best discussed as a private message or on another thread.
Just keep trying, it is all good.
Part of the situation is what you eat but more importantly is how your stomach muscles contract when you are taking a shit. What is most important is to find out what works for you. Certainly for most of us anal play is more fun when you are clean. I have also tried piss enemas and beer enemas but that is probably best discussed as a private message or on another thread.
Just keep trying, it is all good.
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Good advise.
I clean out a couple times a week, and it doesn't really bother me, you get used to it.
on the other hand, it is anal sex, and well #@it happens...just learn to live with it.
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The same here, then you save yourself from buying an enema bag.
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I have a lot of anal sex, and I've never had any problems despite not once having an enema. The whole idea of them seems rather medical, clunky, and not terribly pleasant - but each to their own.
The problem with preparations, it strikes me, is spontaneity. Sometimes I know in advance that I want anal sex, and that we're going to do it. But more often it's in the heat of the moment: we're making love, and getting aroused, and it's just the way our desires take us.
I think that if you want to fully enjoy anal sex, you can't be too squeamish about poo, or the occasional smelly moment.
Personally, I usually find that it's preparation enough to just have a really good wash around the area beforehand, maybe gently popping a finger inside too. I can definitely recommend the shower head - sorry to be crude, but I find the sensation of a hard jet of water on my bumhole really rather pleasurable...
The problem with preparations, it strikes me, is spontaneity. Sometimes I know in advance that I want anal sex, and that we're going to do it. But more often it's in the heat of the moment: we're making love, and getting aroused, and it's just the way our desires take us.
I think that if you want to fully enjoy anal sex, you can't be too squeamish about poo, or the occasional smelly moment.
Personally, I usually find that it's preparation enough to just have a really good wash around the area beforehand, maybe gently popping a finger inside too. I can definitely recommend the shower head - sorry to be crude, but I find the sensation of a hard jet of water on my bumhole really rather pleasurable...
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