Felix_Jones
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Meaning back door fisting. Any advice on the best ways to prepare beforehand?
Preparation for Handballing
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albertaboy
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Pitching or catching?
Seriously I don't know what you would do to prepare for that.
Seriously I don't know what you would do to prepare for that.
NippleMuncher
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SweetErika
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I've heard powdered J-Lube is the gold-standard in lubes for vaginal and anal fisting, if that helps.
And a lot of BDSM sites have good extra-large toys for stretching practice and such.
There's no shortage of threads on anal fisting/handballing in the BDSM forum and elsewhere, if you're willing to search (I'd suggest the Google method described in the FAQ sticky) and don't find what you're looking for here.
And a lot of BDSM sites have good extra-large toys for stretching practice and such.
There's no shortage of threads on anal fisting/handballing in the BDSM forum and elsewhere, if you're willing to search (I'd suggest the Google method described in the FAQ sticky) and don't find what you're looking for here.
RandomAssGuy
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Humm, never heard of this J-Lube before. 10 oz for about ~$10-$15 mixes to 8-10 GALLONS of lube!?!? 
Sounds like a good deal to me. haha
Also came across a website with giant vet thermometers that are 5" long for a couple bucks. I'm sure someone could find a way to have some fun with that. lol
Best advice I could give on the subject at hand (lol) is to make sure once they get in, GO SLOW and communicate what feels ok and when things aren't feeling right. Don't want them going by what they saw on some porno on the internet and having someone get hurt by going too fast too soon.
Sounds like a good deal to me. hahaAlso came across a website with giant vet thermometers that are 5" long for a couple bucks. I'm sure someone could find a way to have some fun with that. lol
Best advice I could give on the subject at hand (lol) is to make sure once they get in, GO SLOW and communicate what feels ok and when things aren't feeling right. Don't want them going by what they saw on some porno on the internet and having someone get hurt by going too fast too soon.
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Julie_in_the_north
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I have been anally fisted on a few occasions. I know that it sounds rather shocking and extreme, and slightly wanton, but in fact I really enjoyed it. While it's not for the faint hearted, if you're very patient and careful, and in the right mood, it's not quite as impossible as you might think.
For years before, I'd wanted to experience anal fisting - I was really intrigued by it, and I've always found anal penetration very pleasurable. But until last year, I'd either lacked the courage, or my girlfriend was squeamish about doing it to me - she was worried she'd hurt or damage me, and didn't really like the ideal of having her hand inside my bowels! When we got over that side of it, our first few attempts failed - she could get four fingers inside me, but the knuckles proved impossible.
The key to success is experience, patience and perseverance. I have a lot of anal sex, and my bottom is used to being penetrated by quite large objects - dildos, fingers, and when I was younger and slept with men, penises. So my anus was quite accustomed to opening up wide, and being stretched - and I've learnt, almost at will, to relax my sphincter. That can be hard to consciously do, but is an advantage, if you can get the knack.
So how did we do it? First we had vaginal sex, so I could have an orgasm, which I find usually helps loosen and relax my arsehole. Then my girlfriend began giving me some gentle anal penetration, just a finger or two, to help open things up and begin to acclimatise my bottom. I can take a finger straight it from the beginning, but if your responses are different, you might want to play with the anus gently from the outside first - fingering it, lubing it, carefully working in a fingertip only when the receiver is ready.
Then - and I suppose this is the distinctive part of how we've gone about this - she inserted a fairly large dildo, which we'd lubed, fully into my anus, and I kept it inside me for twenty minutes. Effectively, it was a butt plug, and it worked really well in encouraging my sphincter and rectum to dilate and relax. It felt very nice, too.
While we were waiting, I gave my girlfriend an orgasm - helped kill the time, but more importantly meant she was getting something out of the experience herself.
Twenty minutes is, of course, a pretty arbitrary length of time to pick - but it seemed to work for us.
By then, my girlfriend had washed her hand and arm, using gentle soap, and cut her nails short and smooth. This is very important! If the giver has a cut, or you have any question mark over each other's sexual and medical history, use a glove. She applied lube to her hand and forearm - unfortunately, I can't remember which type or brand, but as we've used different ones in each instance, it doesn't seem to make a difference, at least as far as we've concerned. But you certainly do need a good lube of some kind, and plenty of it.
So for the actual fisting, she slid the dildo out of my bottom, and entered me with four fingers. It's at this point that you need to take things really slowly and patiently. Do not push too hard, take it easy. Quite simply, she gently, gently, gently, pushed her knuckles forward, until, at length - and it took a while my sphincter opened up enough for her to begin passing through. At my end, I tried to take deep breaths and stay as relaxed as possible. That 'knuckles' moment feels amazing - I had never felt a sensation in my anus like that before. And, you have to believe me here, it didn't hurt.
Even when the knuckles are through, you must still take it very slowly and gently - nudging forward. The rest of the hand is still pretty wide, and above it, the rectum has a lot to accommodate.
So far, we've only ever gone as far as a couple of inches past the wrist, and I know that some people go a lot further. I'm a little hesitant about trying anything more extreme. This way, I know my girlfriend's hand goes into my rectum, but probably not much further.
Each time we've done it, my orgasms have been beautiful - incredibly strong and powerful. The feeling of being so full there, so stretched and stimulated, is unforgettable. It's quite an emotional experience - an extraordinarily intimate and trusting act for two lovers to share.
And afterwards - make sure they wash their hands!
For years before, I'd wanted to experience anal fisting - I was really intrigued by it, and I've always found anal penetration very pleasurable. But until last year, I'd either lacked the courage, or my girlfriend was squeamish about doing it to me - she was worried she'd hurt or damage me, and didn't really like the ideal of having her hand inside my bowels! When we got over that side of it, our first few attempts failed - she could get four fingers inside me, but the knuckles proved impossible.
The key to success is experience, patience and perseverance. I have a lot of anal sex, and my bottom is used to being penetrated by quite large objects - dildos, fingers, and when I was younger and slept with men, penises. So my anus was quite accustomed to opening up wide, and being stretched - and I've learnt, almost at will, to relax my sphincter. That can be hard to consciously do, but is an advantage, if you can get the knack.
So how did we do it? First we had vaginal sex, so I could have an orgasm, which I find usually helps loosen and relax my arsehole. Then my girlfriend began giving me some gentle anal penetration, just a finger or two, to help open things up and begin to acclimatise my bottom. I can take a finger straight it from the beginning, but if your responses are different, you might want to play with the anus gently from the outside first - fingering it, lubing it, carefully working in a fingertip only when the receiver is ready.
Then - and I suppose this is the distinctive part of how we've gone about this - she inserted a fairly large dildo, which we'd lubed, fully into my anus, and I kept it inside me for twenty minutes. Effectively, it was a butt plug, and it worked really well in encouraging my sphincter and rectum to dilate and relax. It felt very nice, too.
While we were waiting, I gave my girlfriend an orgasm - helped kill the time, but more importantly meant she was getting something out of the experience herself.
Twenty minutes is, of course, a pretty arbitrary length of time to pick - but it seemed to work for us.
By then, my girlfriend had washed her hand and arm, using gentle soap, and cut her nails short and smooth. This is very important! If the giver has a cut, or you have any question mark over each other's sexual and medical history, use a glove. She applied lube to her hand and forearm - unfortunately, I can't remember which type or brand, but as we've used different ones in each instance, it doesn't seem to make a difference, at least as far as we've concerned. But you certainly do need a good lube of some kind, and plenty of it.
So for the actual fisting, she slid the dildo out of my bottom, and entered me with four fingers. It's at this point that you need to take things really slowly and patiently. Do not push too hard, take it easy. Quite simply, she gently, gently, gently, pushed her knuckles forward, until, at length - and it took a while my sphincter opened up enough for her to begin passing through. At my end, I tried to take deep breaths and stay as relaxed as possible. That 'knuckles' moment feels amazing - I had never felt a sensation in my anus like that before. And, you have to believe me here, it didn't hurt.
Even when the knuckles are through, you must still take it very slowly and gently - nudging forward. The rest of the hand is still pretty wide, and above it, the rectum has a lot to accommodate.
So far, we've only ever gone as far as a couple of inches past the wrist, and I know that some people go a lot further. I'm a little hesitant about trying anything more extreme. This way, I know my girlfriend's hand goes into my rectum, but probably not much further.
Each time we've done it, my orgasms have been beautiful - incredibly strong and powerful. The feeling of being so full there, so stretched and stimulated, is unforgettable. It's quite an emotional experience - an extraordinarily intimate and trusting act for two lovers to share.
And afterwards - make sure they wash their hands!
I've recently had a male friend interested in this and so far we've only gotten 4 fingers in but he had prepared before I got there but in the three years we've known one another it's gone from just a simple prostate massage to larger and larger toys and now this. He loved it and wants to work out a time to try again soon!!!!
I've only been vaginally fisted but I enjoyed it immensely!!!! I think if I ever wanted to try anal fisting personally a woman's had would be much smaller!!!!
