Premature Ejaculation

[simon222]

To put things bluntly - I arrive too early pretty much every time we have sex, and it sucks for both of us.

Does anybody have any advice on how to go about prolonging things? tricks we can try, is there any point going to see a doctor? etc.

I'm keen to hear from both men and women - it would certainly help to get my head around how to approach things with my girl and get our sex life back on track.

Thank you thank you thank you!

 

[SashaGaga999]

What about more foreplay?

I've been with a number of guys that could only last a couple of minutes once we got down to the serious fucking. Why dont you try spending more time just playing with eachother, and use the fucking as a big finale?

Also, have you experimented much with multiple orgasms?

 

[Dimples62]

Sasha has a very good point. If you are getting to worked up in foreplay maybe cut it back a little or just like she said extend the foreplay snd finish with a bang. If you give your partner a orgasm durning foreplay that is even better and if you can give them more then one even better. Had a friend that would have multiple ones and almost did not want the penetration.

 

[sunandshadow]

PE advice page:
http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/magnificent-cure-for-premature-ejaculation-in-emergencies

A comment on cock rings, since there are different kinds. The type most commonly recommended for this is something like a leather band with a snap that fits around the base of the penis. Should be worn less than 20 mins at a time and removed before ejaculation. Some people instead wear a similar ring right behind the head of the penis (and under a condom) to block the extra-sensitive spot on the underside of where the head meets the shaft. Some people recommend a band to hold the balls down instead, as it's similar to the "gently tug the balls downward when near orgasm to loosen the spermatic cords" technique. Again, it can be damaging to orgasm while wearing one. A different non-hazardous option is a sensation blocking sleeve which is worn beneath a condom, when even heavy duty condoms provide too much sensation.

 

[Privates1stClass]

To put things bluntly - I arrive too early pretty much every time we have sex, and it sucks for both of us.

Does anybody have any advice on how to go about prolonging things? tricks we can try, is there any point going to see a doctor? etc.

Have you considered having your partner give you a hand job or blow job as part of your foreplay? After your first ejaculation, your staying power will increase later, because you'll have emptied your prostate and the urge to ejaculate quickly will be reduced.

It worked for me. Good luck.

 

[suckonsimon]

To add to what's already been said - and especially I support the suggestion of plenty of foreplay:

When you go for penetration, don't think 'fucking', just think 'joining'. Ever so slowly take your time, gently pressing a little further while at the same time in and out in order to spread her honey lube around her lips and along your length. And then once you are balls deep, be still down there for a while. Go back to a focus on your kissing each other, fondling her breasts, hand clasps and caressing - anything at all except thrusting! And then, in due time, get into your own butt and hips action with a slow build to thrusting - but then pause all over again. And again. keep moving the focus from your pleasure in her vagina to the sensations of being with her head to toe.

A thing I used to have to do when a lot younger: put on a condom as an ejaculation delayer mid way through love making. Mind, doing that too late and it actually causes the cumming - damn! But, judge the right time to come out of her, wipe dry, and condom on, and you might have a whole other long straight of fuck before you get near to ejaculation.

 

[ToPleaseHim]

I don't know many women who'd want to be fucked (PIV thrusting) for an hour. Extending foreplay, lots of oral, kissing, and caressing for both, then finish with a bang. That sounds like a great time to me.

Extending your staying power with a pre-game O could work (especially if you're younger, in my experience), and cock rings aren't a bad idea, either.

Have you spoken with her to find out what she wants?

 

[Heavenlybodiesa]

I want a good hard fuck

That is why a strap on never cums too soon, lasts as long as we do, gee no wonder I have grown to prefer a woman's touch instead of a quick fuck and apology, very disgusting...

 

[MayorReynolds]

Practicing with masturbation and edging also helps. Work on building to the point of no return and then backing off. There might be some issues with precum during these sessions so be sure to keep tissues handy.

In fact, as someone who has experienced this problem in the past, that's always the 'fun' part of dealing with premature ejaculation. Not only does it actually increase my staying power with my wife, it gives me the excuse that I'm having a lot of my own fun for someone else's benefit.

Also: during actual sex, think about something non-sexual during penetration and thrusting. I like to focus on words that go with each letter of the alphabet. Lately I've been thinking about Star Wars too. Aside from the Slave Leia outfit, that's a pretty nonerotic subject.

 

[PleasePeesMe]

I would guess

you're fairly young, which means you recharge pretty quickly. If that's the case, try masturbating to orgasm a couple of hours before you fuck. Unload, relax, maybe have a drink and by the time your girlfriend is ready for you, you'll be ready to go again, but without that pressure. Good luck.

 

[Sammael Bard]

That is why a strap on never cums too soon, lasts as long as we do, gee no wonder I have grown to prefer a woman's touch instead of a quick fuck and apology, very disgusting...

Why don't you marry a sybian? They'll last as long as their batteries and/or until you pass out.

Pretty soon you'll grow to prefer the touch of a machine.

To put things bluntly - I arrive too early pretty much every time we have sex, and it sucks for both of us.

Does anybody have any advice on how to go about prolonging things? tricks we can try, is there any point going to see a doctor? etc.

I'm keen to hear from both men and women - it would certainly help to get my head around how to approach things with my girl and get our sex life back on track.

Thank you thank you thank you!

Exercise those PC (pubo-coccygeous) muscles. They're the muscles that help you stop peeing in the middle of peeing (I hope I'm making sense here). Just do a Google search. There's a lot of information on the internet. Those exercises will help you restrain yourself and (hopefully) you'll last longer.

Other tricks include breathing and toning down your excitement (main reason for premat ejac) and tons of foreplay. The foreplay is for her, not you. The more excited she is before sex, the quickly you'll be able to get her off. Do a little more research here (kissing, oral etc) and I think you'll do just fine.

Good luck.

 

[awired50]

To put things bluntly - I arrive too early pretty much every time we have sex, and it sucks for both of us.

Does anybody have any advice on how to go about prolonging things? tricks we can try, is there any point going to see a doctor? etc.

I'm keen to hear from both men and women - it would certainly help to get my head around how to approach things with my girl and get our sex life back on track.

Thank you thank you thank you!

Purchase an Aneros or some similar type of prostate massage product. Learn how to control your orgasms, even experience dry orgasms through prostate massage. This will definitely improve your stamina.

An added bonus is that these orgasms can be 10 X as powerful as a normal ejaculation.

There is a ton of user info and advice in the Aneros forum section.

Best of luck to you and you will be glad you tried this !

 

[YouCanCallMeDaddy]

A silicone cock ring can help decrease sensation enough to make you last longer without hurting the enjoyment of a good, old fashioned fucking. I like them for that reason, since they keep me in the game as long as I'd like. It's kind of a quick fix and some people do describe feeling a pinching sensation when they cum. I don't have that issue at all.

Also, kegels for men seem to help in the longer term. I've not done them but more than one of my friends have had positive experiences, though not always super transformative last all night stamina.

I'd be happy to elaborate more on either point if this has been any help at all.

 

[awired50]

A silicone cock ring can help decrease sensation enough to make you last longer without hurting the enjoyment of a good, old fashioned fucking. I like them for that reason, since they keep me in the game as long as I'd like. It's kind of a quick fix and some people do describe feeling a pinching sensation when they cum. I don't have that issue at all.

Also, kegels for men seem to help in the longer term. I've not done them but more than one of my friends have had positive experiences, though not always super transformative last all night stamina.

I'd be happy to elaborate more on either point if this has been any help at all.

Kegels will definitely improve your control. These are used with Aneros use as well causing it to move and gently massage the prostate. It can take over and become involuntary almost like an autofucking motion. Very pleasurable.

 

[bibi1949]

premature ejacuaktion

To put things bluntly - I arrive too early pretty much every time we have sex, and it sucks for both of us.

Does anybody have any advice on how to go about prolonging things? tricks we can try, is there any point going to see a doctor? etc.

I'm keen to hear from both men and women - it would certainly help to get my head around how to approach things with my girl and get our sex life back on track.

Thank you thank you thank you!

SSRI anti-depressants are used to prolong things. They increase seratonin and decrease dopamine (puttign things very simply). you need dopamine to orgasm. simple.

they come with a health warning, sexual side effect - anorgasmia and delayed orgasming. It's not a side effect, its an effect imo. Ask your doctor.

 

[awired50]

SSRI anti-depressants are used to prolong things. They increase seratonin and decrease dopamine (puttign things very simply). you need dopamine to orgasm. simple.

they come with a health warning, sexual side effect - anorgasmia and delayed orgasming. It's not a side effect, its an effect imo. Ask your doctor.

I agree with Ask your Doctor but I would look for a natural solution first. JMHO.

 

[bibi1949]

I agree with Ask your Doctor but I would look for a natural solution first. JMHO.

agree

 

[awired50]

Prostate control is the key I believe.