Pregnant at 50?

[Mephistophelily]

My mother believes she's pregnant. 2 home tests say faint yes, 1 strong no.
She has gone to the dr, and says she has "all the symptoms"... No period this month, queasy, tenderness, memory issues, etc.

She has yet to get her tests back, but I'm thinking she's experiencing menopause, not a baby...

I'm not quite sure what to say or how to react to this.
If she is, I'll have a sibling younger than my own children...
Not to mention how screwed up things are in our family right now.. She's separated from my dad, the father is a different guy.

Do I bring up the menopause thing? She wants some type of support on this, but the whole thing is overwhelming and confusing to me. I don't want to offend her with the menopause suggestion, but... She's 50. It seems the more likely thing than baby-!

 

[erotica_n_s]

You could suggest she should go see a doctor, they can review things and explain/discuss the possibilities perhaps a little more comfortably than you might be able to?

 

[Mephistophelily]

You could suggest she should go see a doctor, they can review things and explain/discuss the possibilities perhaps a little more comfortably than you might be able to?

She has.
They gave her a test there as well, and have yet to get results.

 

[SactoRN]

My mother believes she's pregnant. 2 home tests say faint yes, 1 strong no.
She has gone to the dr, and says she has "all the symptoms"... No period this month, queasy, tenderness, memory issues, etc.

She has yet to get her tests back, but I'm thinking she's experiencing menopause, not a baby...

I'm not quite sure what to say or how to react to this.
If she is, I'll have a sibling younger than my own children...
Not to mention how screwed up things are in our family right now.. She's separated from my dad, the father is a different guy.

Do I bring up the menopause thing? She wants some type of support on this, but the whole thing is overwhelming and confusing to me. I don't want to offend her with the menopause suggestion, but... She's 50. It seems the more likely thing than baby-!

I would suggest she consider whether it is menopause, although it is not unheard of for a 50 yr old woman to get pregnant. It isn't common. I actually work in the women's and children's area. How "late" is she? Blood work should come back within a few hours to let her know of she's pregnant.

 

[Mephistophelily]

I would suggest she consider whether it is menopause, although it is not unheard of for a 50 yr old woman to get pregnant. It isn't common. I actually work in the women's and children's area. How "late" is she? Blood work should come back within a few hours to let her know of she's pregnant.

She says about 3 weeks.
Doctor's appointment was 2 hrs ago... Says she's still waiting on results now.

 

[SactoRN]

She says about 3 weeks.
Doctor's appointment was 2 hrs ago... Says she's still waiting on results now.

3 weeks late should make a glaringly obvious positive over the counter test. I suspect if the test comes back negative the doctors office will talk with her about menopause being likely.

Maybe this doesn't matter but is she hoping the test is positive? If I were 50 I would be praying for menopause vs pregnancy!

 

[Mephistophelily]

I'm not really sure? She seems shocked but excited.... Even though they gave her split odds on a baby surviving if she is. I don't know how to read her right now, it's all very weird.

 

[SactoRN]

I'm not really sure? She seems shocked but excited.... Even though they gave her split odds on a baby surviving if she is. I don't know how to read her right now, it's all very weird.

I can imagine. Hang in there!

 

[njlauren]

I am not an MD, but from what I know that could be a false positive, I seem to recall that when women go into menopause their hormones go nuts and I suspect that could cause a false positive with the home tests. The other thing is that periods can fluctuate during perio menopause....

If she is pregnant it also is likely it won't last. My wife recently, at 49, had her period happen several weeks after it should have, then had her next period a only a few weeks later. We suspect she may have gotten pregnant and it didn't last, a likely scenario at that age, and then her normal cycle took over.

Whatever happens, I wish you well.

 

[unsureofherself]

3 weeks late should make a glaringly obvious positive over the counter test. !

Not always.... I was 5 weeks gone and had a maybe result, followed by a positive a few days later. Mind you am only 34 not 50 so not sure if that's a hormone thing? My mum was born as a result of her mother thinking she was in the menopause and 'safe' at the age of 48, it happens.

either way wish the OP all the best. Difficult one.

 

[AudioFilly]

Don't leave us hanging...what did she find out?

 

[Mephistophelily]

A late response because I thought, with no word from her, that it was a false alarm.
Thanks to random facebook posts from her friends, I found out that she is indeed.. Just never bothered to tell me.

 

[Goey]

Personally if I was 50 and got pregnant I'd abort it.
Don't start ranting about abortion I know it's a touchy subject but it's what I'd personally do.


Also her not telling you seems like an incredibly cold thing to do.

 

[PhilGarlic]

I think

I think your mum will need as much support as you can give, whatever she decides to do.

 

[TexasWife25]

Congrats on your future sibling

 

[AudioFilly]

Congratulations to your mom.

I know this will feel really weird for you but I'm hoping you will find a way to be as supportive as you can. Whether she shows it or not, underlying any excitement will be fear. There are a lot of risks with an older pregnancy that she won't be able to help thinking about.

I'm fast approaching fifty myself & would be thrilled & scared & awkward all at the same time if I turned up pregnant. But mostly I would really want my family to be in my corner for the journey.

Thanks for coming back to update us.

 

[bbw4youngercocks1]

Usually for menopause to kick in, periods have to be stopped for at least one year. Still, women at 50 can get pregnant, though the risks can be a bit higher. Thanks to modern medicine, any problems can be detected early.

 

[htobeme5]

still hot

hurray for her, she's still got one hot vaginia at 50. Wish there were more like her.

 

[Lord Pmann]

hurray for her, she's still got one hot vaginia at 50. Wish there were more like her.

I bet that's exactly what the original poster wanted to read

 

[Mephistophelily]

I bet that's exactly what the original poster wanted to read

I just convinced myself they meant Virginia...

 

[Lord Pmann]

I just convinced myself they meant Virginia...

Hahaha. I felt bad for you when I read what he wrote about your mother's Virginia. Because I knew you'd innocently look through this thread to see the replies and then you'd be hit with that ton of bricks. I know if that was me and someone wrote about my mother's Virginia, I'd gouge out my eyes in hopes I'd never see something so wicked again.

Best of luck recuperating.

 

[Vixandra]

A late response because I thought, with no word from her, that it was a false alarm.
Thanks to random facebook posts from her friends, I found out that she is indeed.. Just never bothered to tell me.

Wow. I would be livid with my maternal unit if I found this out this way.

Later age pregnancies are more viable now than they were fifty years ago but there is a huge risk of complications for mother and baby. Depending on her health, genetic make up and that of the father, there are so many possible outcomes. I don't think I could handle being pregnant at fifty (hell I'm not enjoying it at almost 30).

If she contacts you, give her the response that feels right to you. I wouldn't jump in and be super supportive but if you can spare teh time and energy, share this with her if she wants you to. If you have your own life pressures to deal with, let them take prescidence.

I can't imagine getting a new sibling at my age. When the kid graduates, mom will be 68 assuming everything works out. Most people won't believe it's her kid if they are seen in public. Grandkid yes but hers? Nope. Add in the separation and other issues and wow, that is a grand ole mess.

 

[warrior queen]

I'm going to be the dissenter here....
First, congrats to your mother! How exciting!
Next, you. Your post comes across as all selfish and mememe. What right do you have to put your own negative feelings onto your mothers situation?
Grow the fuck up

 

[SweetErika]

I'm going to be the dissenter here....
First, congrats to your mother! How exciting!
Next, you. Your post comes across as all selfish and mememe. What right do you have to put your own negative feelings onto your mothers situation?
Grow the fuck up

I think M is handling the news remarkably well given her entire situation and the insane amount of stress she's under. Trust me when I say she's an incredibly UNselfish woman who deserves your compassion and support.

 

[Goey]

I'm going to be the dissenter here....
First, congrats to your mother! How exciting!
Next, you. Your post comes across as all selfish and mememe. What right do you have to put your own negative feelings onto your mothers situation?
Grow the fuck up

Yes because a daughter being greatly concerned about her 50 year old mum should be all "WOW MA MUMS PREGORS AGIN WOOOOOOOOO" how DARE she actually be human.

(sarcasm)