Preferences-fixed or a continuum?

[Amfig]

I sexual preference fixed or a slippery sucker? I've always thought of myself as "straight." I still think of myself as straight, on the grounds that I have never had sex with another male.

Now I'm thinking that sexuality may be more slippery than that. I've enjoyed a little cross dressing for the wife. She and I have enjoyed strapon play, and I sure do enjoy getting anal. I enjoy giving anal and PIV sex, but I do enjoy getting anal from her.

I've been to a couple of man in panties type sites and I'm finding that I get aroused by looking at hard cocks in panties. I'll look at one and go "gee-pretty." Or maybe even "Never have thought about sucking one, but that one sure does look delicious." I have the feeling that I might decide that the pretty dick was connected to an asshole, but I'm getting turned on.

Oh, I'm married, for the third time, true blue, and I'm over 40, too.

So am I really "straight" or am I going bi-curious, bi, haded for gay here in the second half of life? I feel more confused than I think I should.

 

[white_mage_goddess]

Don't stress yourself. Lots of "straight" guys have bi tendencies. As you obviously enjoy sex with your wife, you're certainly not turning "gay". You sound a lot like my b/f. He WAS with a guy one time, but that doesn't make him GAY. He was just curious and wanting to experiment. Yes, he'd probably experiment again if the opportunity came up, but overall he's happy with me doing anal stuff to him.

I myself know where you're coming from. I consider myself "straight" because I've never been with another girl, however I'm *very* curious about doing so and would love the opportunity. Does that make me gay because women turn me on and I'd like to have sex with one? No, I don't think it does. I don't even think it makes me bi. I think it means I'm "straight with bi-tendencies."

That's just my opinion. It sounds like to me that you still prefer women and you just want to experiment a bit, which is totally acceptable.

You might post this in the GBLT forum and get more answers.

 

[wicked woman]

The more I'm around Lit the more I think it's a slippery slope.

 

[midwestyankee]

The more I'm around Lit the more I think it's a slippery slope.

I'm not so sure I buy the "slippery slope" image, though I do believe that we all exist at various points on the preferences continuum. Probably we move around on that continuum over time - most likely further along it than we realize at times - as we grow, experience different things and encounter different opportunities.

Though, to nod once in WW's direction, there is something to be said for the power of the principle of social proof. We tend to accept the judgments of those we believe are like us. This is why, for instance, your 4 year old might be deathly afraid of swimming when you are around but once in the company of other 4-year olds who are swimming will jump in the water without hesitation. That said, if you spend enough time in the Literotica threads and encounter people you like and who happen to reside somewhere on that continuum that you haven't been before, it would be that much easier to slide down that way yourself to give something new a try.

 

[Guest]

I sexual preference fixed or a slippery sucker? I've always thought of myself as "straight." I still think of myself as straight, on the grounds that I have never had sex with another male.

Now I'm thinking that sexuality may be more slippery than that. I've enjoyed a little cross dressing for the wife. She and I have enjoyed strapon play, and I sure do enjoy getting anal. I enjoy giving anal and PIV sex, but I do enjoy getting anal from her.

I've been to a couple of man in panties type sites and I'm finding that I get aroused by looking at hard cocks in panties. I'll look at one and go "gee-pretty." Or maybe even "Never have thought about sucking one, but that one sure does look delicious." I have the feeling that I might decide that the pretty dick was connected to an asshole, but I'm getting turned on.

Oh, I'm married, for the third time, true blue, and I'm over 40, too.

So am I really "straight" or am I going bi-curious, bi, haded for gay here in the second half of life? I feel more confused than I think I should.

Just open the closet door and come out dude

 

[Amfig]

Maybe not a slippery slope. Just a continuum that one can slide around on, depending on circumstances. The "true blue" part will keep me that way unless the wife approved/encouraged.

 

[Noor]

I think people have different sexual interests and various times of their lives depending on their current relationships.

For myself, I don't believe in labels such as straight, gay, bi. I look at sex as an initimate form of communication chosen and self defined by the people involved.

You are in a relationship where you feel safe exploring outside your previous norm that is all, I don't think it makes you anything different or that you are sliding down any more slippery slope than any serious initimate relationship has a tendency to do.

 

[Bobmi357]

The more I'm around Lit the more I think it's a slippery slope.

They'd only be a slippery slope when some baby oil is applied....

But seriously, I have to admit I am firmly in the hetero camp. Men have never interested me and because I wasn't breast fed as a child, I am fascinated with boobs.

 

[PinkOrchid]