Predicament on Libido

[KittyKida]

I'm sorry if this exists elsewhere, my time on the internet is limited. If the thread already exists, kindly direct me to it, if not, any advice you might have would be very much appreciated.

My libido is much higher than any other female I have ever met, and has been higher than all of my partners. I've been going to therapy to deal with this issue and have brought it down to a manageable level. My current partner and I were wondering if there are any ways that we can bring his libido up so that it's comparable with mine?
He has a history of anger and aggression issues, although has come to a place where he manages them very very well, so anything that would also effect these things would be a second choice.

Testosterone was a thought, but the above issue was a concern. Any homeopathic substances?

Thanks all!

 

[amofiga]

I'm sorry if this exists elsewhere, my time on the internet is limited. If the thread already exists, kindly direct me to it, if not, any advice you might have would be very much appreciated.

My libido is much higher than any other female I have ever met, and has been higher than all of my partners. I've been going to therapy to deal with this issue and have brought it down to a manageable level. My current partner and I were wondering if there are any ways that we can bring his libido up so that it's comparable with mine?
He has a history of anger and aggression issues, although has come to a place where he manages them very very well, so anything that would also effect these things would be a second choice.

Testosterone was a thought, but the above issue was a concern. Any homeopathic substances?

Thanks all!

Direct testosterone infusion is NOT recommended unless he has had blood tests that show he is truly below normal. Simple testosterone replacement can cause upset of pitituary function and eventually complete atrophy of the testicles. The only way to prevent this is testosterone replacement along with HCG replacement and use of an aromatase ihibitor to prevent conversion of testosterone to estrogen. If the body senses an overload of testosterone (such as with hormone replacement or steroids) it will begin converting excess testosterone to estrogen and certain female characteristics can emerge, like gynecomastia (development of female nipples and breasts in men). Years back, when body builders and athletes thought that simply spiking their system with testosterone would help them, they found that it could hurt them. Any testosterone replacement should be done under the guidance of a doctor and should include cycling with HCG and an aromatase inhibitor.

Now, to be more practical, assuming that he is indeed in the normal range of testosterone (and he needs a blood test for this which should include serum testosterone as well as "free" testosterone) he can generally increase serum testosterone to some level with weight lifting and resistance exercise. He can also improve the ratio of free testosterone to estradiol with a natural aromatase inhibitor such as mushrooms. Yes, clinical studies have shown that mushrooms, even the common supermarket button variety, are a fairly good natural aromatase inhibitor and have even been studied by the Bergman Institute (part of the City of Hope Cancer treatment center in LA) as an adjunct to chemical treatment for breast cancer and ovarian cancer because it keeps estrogen down. Also, certain foods like brussel sprouts and mustard greens reduce estrogen. Bullcrap pills like Tribulus Terrestris, Horny Goat Weed, and crysin have generally NOT shown clinical evidence of working unless testosterone levels are super low. However, this is American and you're free to try what you want.

HOWEVER, libido is NOT simply a hormonal thing. A lot of libido comes from sexual attitude and overal desire for sexual involvement that is more than just a function of hormones. Scientific studies have shown that desire with the same partner tends to get lower unless they do something to keep it cranked. Find out what truly turns him on....what sort of scenes or fetishes. Does he like dirty talking, BDSM, porno movies, group sex, etc. In my personal case, I found that a woman with the right attitude and setting the right scene is a more powerful aphrodisiac than hormones per se. A good filthy talking woman in true need of horny sex was always something that perked my interest. If you want to get him hot, you need to learn what gets HIM hot and and not just you. You have to accept and participate in what gets his motor running. Are you willing to be what he needs to turn his crank? Too often, wives and girlfriends don't know what their guy really wants and if they do, they are often reluctant to do it because it's out of their comfort zone. THe fact that you said that you have a high libido implies that you're willing to think outside the box (no pun intended) and aren't too inhibited.

Good luck.

 

[silverwhisper]

kittykida queried:
my current partner and i were wondering if there are any ways that we can bring his libido up so that it's comparable with mine?

xaviera hollander is famous for having said that the largest sex organ is the brain. if you're thinking sexual thoughts, sexual action will follow a lot more readily. the question then for your partner is how to start thinking more sexually.

maybe you can share sexy texts or e-mails during the day, or perhaps create a sexual bucket list for your relationship: things you both want to try together, or would be open to trying together that maybe you haven't previously. maybe you make a game of finding some new wrinkle to add to your sexual encounters from time to time: bondage, a little dom/sub play, props/costumes, etc?

ed

 

[Mr.G]

Mismatched libidos

Good sex IS mostly in the brain and can be enhanced if you're both on the same page there even if the physical side is lacking with one partner.

Providing there is nothing physically wrong with him resulting in a low libido then the next question would be about you. Do you orgasm during sex? Do you orgasm a LOT during sex? Is the problem than he can't keep up with the amount of intercourse you want or need or is it that you want more orgasms??

If you are orgasming OK but want more have you read my TRY THIS thread. If this works for you he will be able to give you orgasms until you pass out. The down side of this is that it is likely to make you even hornier however if it IS indeed a orgasm deficit we're discussing her the "TECHNIQUE" should cure that. After 50 or 100 giant G-Gasms MOST women are quite content to snuggle, relax and make their partner feel as loved and taken care of as they do .... until they are horny again.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=70892

 

[KittyKida]

All Very Good Suggestions!

Generally, I orgasm once durins intercourse. Sometimes if he masturbates me before hand I'll orgasm twice. I have to stimulate myself during sex to orgasm, I've never actually orgasmed from intercourse alone.
Mr. G- I've read your thread. We have tried that technique. It seems, however, that I can't relax enough to orgasm that way regularly. I have had what I believe are "g-gasms", the most I can have in a sitting are five or so. Each time I come, it becomes more difficult to achieve again.

The desire would simply be for sex more often, one orgasm per coitus is fine, but I usually want sex again a few hours later. We're going to try a new workout routine and incorporating more mushrooms in our diet.

As far as figuring out what gets him going, we've been together for almost two years. All he ever really says is that he's very traditional. He's willing to be exploratory, for me, but generally its tits, ass, and pussy. Pretty typical. I'm the one who wants to try new things, having a third (or fourth or fifth) partner, food play, bondage, sub/dom, reluctance roleplay, dress up, the "meeting for the first time" game, there's a ton of stuff we do. It just seems that I'm always the one that initiates sex, and he usually isn't horny.

We talk about it but neither one of us can really figure out what to do.