Pre-mature Ejaculation

[stuntcock]

Have any other males out there experienced this? I'm a 19 year old male, and in the last few months I've been cumming sooner during intercourse. It started out with me only being able to last for 5-10 minutes, then on average 3-4, and now sometimes I lose it even sooner. There was some tension between my girlfriend (of two years!) and I a few months ago that has given us some growing pains and a bit of stress, which I thought at first might be the reason for my oversensitivity. I'm not sure, I was wondering if anyone might have some advice on how to last longer!

Thanks

 

[Ms_Lilith]

Condoms. Jerk off before you have sex. Stop thinking about it. Think about her pleasure. Make sure that you make her cum AT LEAST 5 times before you start the actual sex. That way, generally, she's swinging from the chandelier whether you last 30 seconds or 30 minutes.

 

[Bobmi357]

Condoms. Jerk off before you have sex. Stop thinking about it. Think about her pleasure. Make sure that you make her cum AT LEAST 5 times before you start the actual sex. That way, generally, she's swinging from the chandelier whether you last 30 seconds or 30 minutes.

LOL! I couldn't have said it any better.

 

[lilnymph28]

Condoms. Jerk off before you have sex. Stop thinking about it. Think about her pleasure. Make sure that you make her cum AT LEAST 5 times before you start the actual sex. That way, generally, she's swinging from the chandelier whether you last 30 seconds or 30 minutes.

exactly what she said

 

[deaflepperd]

There are numbing gels you can use to deaden the sensation. That will make you last longer. Rub a little on the tip of your penis and wait about 5 minutes.
Don't let her get it in her mouth (the gel, I mean). It will numb her mouth.

 

[beadsforthebear]

How about trying a cock ring? I think those are supposed to keep you harder for a longer time. Or right as you are about to cum - stop. I think your girl will appreciate this also because it will help her build up to a bigger orgasm.

 

[FastFastr]

Think of your fattest ugliest neighbor or teacher nude, or quote baseball stats in your head while fucking....

JUST DON'T TELL YOUR PARTNER WHATS IN YOUR MIND AT THE TIME!

 

[Ms_Lilith]

MARGARET THATCHER NAKED ON A COLD DAY!

MARGARET THATCHER NAKED ON A COLD DAY!

 

[Jaybird3]

Geeze vixenshe, he just wants to prolong the experience, not lost the erection altogether.

These are all great suggestions. I would also recommend maybe a good checkup to make sure that there isn't a physical reason for this to be happening.

 

[Chuckwrox]

Think of your fattest ugliest neighbor or teacher nude, or quote baseball stats in your head while fucking....

JUST DON'T TELL YOUR PARTNER WHATS IN YOUR MIND AT THE TIME!

See, that just doesn't sound like any fun. Sex is supposed to be fun, isn't it?

Now, thinking about her pleasure is fun. That's a lot of fun. That's so much fun, in fact that I always cum too fast thinking about her pleasure.

Seems like a toss up, eh? Either think about that fat neighbor or pop too soon and the fun's over, anyway.

 

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[Mary Hall]

MARGARET THATCHER NAKED ON A COLD DAY!

I have gone blind.

 

[daedalos]

Pre mature ejaculation is a very common "problem," but there are several things that need to be said about this.

Notice I put problem in quotes. I wonder if men and their partners are expecting too much. For example, if a guy says, "I was thrusting and grinding constantly for fifteen minutes and finally could not hold back anymore," my reaction is to suggest that sounds normal.

Second, the amount of time to ejaculation will vary from experience to experience and position to position. This is natural. Personally, I find it more difficult to hold out for a long time when doing it "doggy style;" it is a lot easier for me to stay in control when doing it "missionary male superior" style (who invented that term I wonder?)

Having said that, there are things that can be done to prevent true pre mature ejaculation. And let me hasten to add that there is no excuse for a guy to do nothing to try to last as long as his partner needs him to last.

First, someone mentioned condoms. They do help a lot and can be used while you learn better control (besides all their other advantages).

Second, there are exercises you can do to strengthen the muscles that control erections and orgasm. This will enable you not only to maintain an erection longer but also to hold off ejaculation. Can you stop yourself from peeing in mid stream? Can you make your penis bob up and down without touching it? If you answer yes to these questions then you know exactly the muscle that needs to be exercised. There are plenty of sites on the web that can tell you exercises to do.

Third, the general health of the penis is, no surprise, directly related to cardio health and blood flow to the region. In fact, since the vessels that serve the male genitals branch from a major artery that serves the thighs, a cardio program that exercisese the quadriceps also does the penis and the muscles surounding it a world of good.

So take courage, face the problem to the extent that you do have a problem, and conquer it.

 

[zorrro69]

some advices

Suck, lick, finger. Don't hurry with intercourse. Enter her only after she begins to implore you to do it. Second, more important - don't stop the frictions after ejaculation. Your dick is able to fuck more than a minute. And third, most important - don't smoke and drink very much. I wish you sucsess!

 

[Ms_Kat]

stunt,

P.E. is more common than most think. My husband had problems with it early in our marriage. We heard all the advice that you are hearing in this thread, too. Some of it helped, most of it didn't.

PE comes either from a physical sensitivity, which is usually taken care of with condoms (sometimes doubling them) or numbing creams, or from psychological reasons. I'm not saying your crazy, I'm saying that what goes on in your head takes you so close to orgasm that it only takes a little bit to send you over.

First, a couple of exercises that can help.

Try spreading your legs during sex - during ejaculation, most men squeeze their thighs to help contract their prostate. Spreading the legs makes this more difficult to do reflexively and also allows you to focus on what you are doing without losing focus on what you are doing (if you follow).

Practice breath control. Most people start breathing faster and shallower before they cum. Take slow and deep breaths.

Stop moving and get more eye contact. Talk to her (not about baseball, about her). This is a good time to take a few deep breaths, open your legs a bit, stroke her body with your hands as you lie inside her.

Just relax. Let her set the rhythm.

Hugs,


Kat

 

[N8Dreams]

There are numbing gels you can use to deaden the sensation. That will make you last longer. Rub a little on the tip of your penis and wait about 5 minutes.
Don't let her get it in her mouth (the gel, I mean). It will numb her mouth.

while using a numbing gel you have to use a condom too. Without a condom her vagina gets numb too!!!!!!!!!!!
Another way might be the "sqeezing technique"
Tell your gf if you are before cumming. Slip out. She has to squeeze your penis' head hard till your urge to cum vanishs.
This can be trained.
Another remedy might be to masturbate before intercourse.

 

[mgouker]

Something that will work

First off, you are certainly not alone. When you're 19, it is very common to suffer from premature ejaculation. At that age you also have the natural benefit of being ready again almost as soon as the act ends and the second time (or even the third time) you will likely not have the problem. So if at first you don't succeed, try try again.

However, if you _really_ want to solve the problem this is how you do it. You need her help. The best way to enlist her assistance is to explain to her that she makes you so hot that once you are inside her tight, luscious warmth that she so excites you that you have no choice but to surrender to the urgent beckoning of her lusty passion. Um, well, you can say, "Babe, you are so fucking hot, I just can't help it." Either way, you will both enhance her self-esteem (which is always good) and gain an ally, because you should follow this up with... "It's just maddening for me, because I know I could please you so much more (and myself as well) if I could last longer." Then explain to her that fortunately there is a way, but you need her help. Women love to help.

The reason you need to nicely ask for her help is because you really will need her help.

Many here have commented that you can masturbate yourself out of the problem, but unless your hand feels like her delectable cunt (my guess is it doesn't, right? ;^) you won't solve it that way. But the idea that you can accustom your penis to be surrounded by that soft, moist warmth is valid. You can train yourself to thrust vigorously into her even as she climaxes and you feel the liberated pulsing of her throes of passion and lust... yes, it can be practiced, but you need to do it over and over... without cumming. Which means that you need to start slowly and stop well in time (you should probably learn first where your point of no return is and stray well away from it). Then start all over and go a little longer and then pull out. This will be really terrible for her, but if she is really encouraged to help you, she will put up with it for long enough for you to resolve the problem. Again and again and again. Always pulling out before it is too late (you have to be rigorous here) and starting over from a relaxed state. If you go down on her in the meantime, I doubt if you will be able to last long, because just her lovely taste and scent will set you off, so you should do something like discuss something you both find interesting (very difficult under the circumstances). If you do this for about an hour for a few lovemaking sessions, you will soon be able to go at least 20 minutes or so. At that point you can have sex more naturally again, but there is another very important step.

Namely, to become a great partner you need to externalize the act of sex so that while you are penetrating her, you are not feeling your sensations, but hers. It's a little hard to explain, but once you are concentrating on what she is feeling, your need to ejaculate diminishes as you realize what your erection is doing to her. Trust me that if you _FOCUS_ on her you will get it and eventually you will fuck until you are cumming out of your entire body.

If none of the above works, just have her flog you if you cum too fast.



Anyway, best of fuck to you!