power of the kiss

[woodnymph_O]

why is it in many relationships after time, people no longer kiss like they used to. I mean kisses end with a peck on the lips and an I'll see you after work. I thought this had only happened in my life until recent conversations with friends. Has this happen with any of you out there? Does it happen in same sex relationships as much.

I still love a deep passionate kiss and to be honest it would get me more in the mood than all the forplay in the world. Just a rant and a ponderance, but really why does it happen?
Don't you say breath either lol , I brush and have mints
And most of the time in straight relationships it seems to be the man that withdraws from kissing, if you know why please tell me.

A story was related to me recently:
A man cheats a few times, and gets caught. He then tells his other that he is sorry he got caught up in it all. That the woman he cheated with was kissing him and it made him feel like the old days with his wife and how kissing her used to exite him.

The wife answers that she does understand missing that feeling, but he had not tried to kiss her that way in a few years. How did he know he would not have had that feeling at home if he had not avoided kissing his wife.

He looks shocked and says he didn't think he had to kiss her. "Thats what you do when things are new".
The wife comments "Well if you want it to feel new you're willing to kiss someone you don't care about? But you're unwilling to kiss the woman you love?"

It made alot of sense and ended a year or so later after the wife looked for some newness of her own.

Nymphy

 

[Guest]

Good kissing takes time and concentrated intent. We become too busy after a while to concentrate on something that can be pleasurable and communicative.

Of course sometimes one just wants to get to the fuck.

Perdita

 

[woodnymph_O]

Good kissing takes time and concentrated intent. We become too busy after a while to concentrate on something that can be pleasurable and communicative.

Of course sometimes one just wants to get to the fuck.

Perdita

lol I know what you're saying there. I have my times of get to the fuck too.
But a long kiss is a good promise of "we'll get to the fuck later
Nymphy

 

[English Lady]

Hubby and I kiss lots. In the morning,through the day, out in public, before bed and part of more intense foreplay...we love kissing and there is something really special about it.

 

[TheEarl]

I love kissing. It was a problem between myself and my former Lady; she would only kiss 'properly' when it was going to lead to something. It's something I love doing even if it wasn't going to progress into something more.

The Earl

 

[Guest]

It's something I love doing even if it wasn't going to progress into something more.

Agreed, I love kissing for kissing alone. P.

 

[sweetnpetite]

In my case, my guy just dosen't seem to enjoy kissing for kissings sake

For some guys it's like forplay, it just falls away when they get to be able to do the part they really like. (not all guys, so sorry, but some, indeed)

I love kissing.

 

[sweetnpetite]

I love kissing. It was a problem between myself and my former Lady; she would only kiss 'properly' when it was going to lead to something. It's something I love doing even if it wasn't going to progress into something more.

The Earl

I hate that!

But even worse is when you don't even get 'proper' kisses then. But only every once in a while, like a rare treat.

 

[FiascoNo9]

I think gradual withdrawal from kissing is universal. And perhaps as well... most people, I DON'T want to see doing it, much as I may like them.

I know there are writers here who like to write about the magic of a long-established relationship, but they are swimming against the stream; the overwhelming mass of literature is about new relationships. Certainly, the thrill of the chase, the wild gamble on an unknown partner, and all the energy that gives, is gone.

Most of us settle into relationships that are periodically sexless. Some of the most devoted elderly couples I know have some kind of medical reason to forego sex. But they peck each other on the cheek with joy and dignity.

If you are lucky enough to smooch lustfully into middle age, good luck to you; if I were as fortunate as you, I wouldn't be here...

 

[yui]

I love kissing. The one guy I really remember as the "best kisser" I've been with was a half-hottie/half-geek scientist. I was in college and he was a pharmacology PhD who was doing cancer research in The Triangle. He had the softest lips. They were meaty and I wanted to just chew on his lower lip. He loved to kiss. I loved to kiss him. We used to make love, face to face, eyes open, our lips just touching. Those were sweet days.

Thank you for the thread, Nymph, it seems there is memory in a kiss, too.

Luck,

Yui

 

[tolyk]

I was with my ex for around 4 years, give or take a few months, and to my knowledge we never lost that spark/passion for kissing. I've always enjoyed kissing, even if it leads to nothing else it is a very enjoyable act.

My ex has told me I'm still the best kisser she's ever kissed, but I think that has something to do with more emotions involved, etc. Though, she isn't the only woman who has told me I'm a good kisser *shrug*

 

[LadyJeanne]

There's nothing quite like meeting someone whose kissing style matches your own. You can just get lost in it for hours when that happens.

Whenever this subject comes up, though, I always laugh because the 'best' kisser I've kissed is one of my gay friends. We discovered this a couple years ago while we were on the dance floor one night. We were having a really good time and just leaned in for a lip smooch which led to a full kiss and then we couldn't stop.

No, we still haven't heard the last of it from our friends, he more than me...how could you kiss a girl?!

 

[Boota]

I love to kiss my girlfriend and then catch her before she hits the ground.

 

[woodnymph_O]

I was off all night due to video games

No I wasn't the one playing them either,
thanks so much for all the responses, I think it is an important thing in any relationship. To those of you who are still passionately kissing, I hope it always stays that way. For those of us who are not,I'm not giving up hope damn it .
Hugs and love to you all , and I discovered last night, I hate when I can't check in every few hours or so. I miss this place lol
Nymphy

 

[sweetnpetite]

There's nothing quite like meeting someone whose kissing style matches your own. You can just get lost in it for hours when that happens.

Whenever this subject comes up, though, I always laugh because the 'best' kisser I've kissed is one of my gay friends. We discovered this a couple years ago while we were on the dance floor one night. We were having a really good time and just leaned in for a lip smooch which led to a full kiss and then we couldn't stop.

No, we still haven't heard the last of it from our friends, he more than me...how could you kiss a girl?!

damn! I wonder how he is in bed! lol

 

[Belegon]

I love to kiss....

yes, I am orally fixated in many ways, but still...

I love making out. I love it all, but I really miss making out. Just let the kiss be the promise fulfilled instead of making it be only a promise. enjoy it. get enraptured in it.

 

[cloudy]

I love to kiss....

yes, I am orally fixated in many ways, but still...

I love making out. I love it all, but I really miss making out. Just let the kiss be the promise fulfilled instead of making it be only a promise. enjoy it. get enraptured in it.

Many moons ago, I dated a guy that was probably the best kisser I've ever known. We'd kiss for hours, make out on the couch like teenagers, and I was in heaven.

Unfortunately, that was the extent of his skills.

 

[Belegon]

Unfortunately, that was the extent of his skills.

Luckily for me, I learned to apply those skills lower...

 

[cloudy]

Luckily for me, I learned to apply those skills lower...

He was kinda dense that way....but he could kiss!

 

[Belegon]

He was kinda dense that way....but he could kiss!

there is a simple kind of joy in it...not exactly an innocence, as I certainly know some who can make a kiss anything but innocent, but a pure kind of attention. The willingness and ability to do it well and not force yourself to move quickly past it.


I love the romanticism of it too...I remember some first kisses much better than first time making love. Two especially stand out, but I won't mention them here for fear of offending anyone who doesn't make the list....

 

[Guest]

why is it in many relationships after time, people no longer kiss like they used to. I mean kisses end with a peck on the lips and an I'll see you after work. I thought this had only happened in my life until recent conversations with friends. Has this happen with any of you out there? Does it happen in same sex relationships as much.

I still love a deep passionate kiss and to be honest it would get me more in the mood than all the forplay in the world. Just a rant and a ponderance, but really why does it happen?
Don't you say breath either lol , I brush and have mints
And most of the time in straight relationships it seems to be the man that withdraws from kissing, if you know why please tell me.

A story was related to me recently:
A man cheats a few times, and gets caught. He then tells his other that he is sorry he got caught up in it all. That the woman he cheated with was kissing him and it made him feel like the old days with his wife and how kissing her used to exite him.

The wife answers that she does understand missing that feeling, but he had not tried to kiss her that way in a few years. How did he know he would not have had that feeling at home if he had not avoided kissing his wife.

He looks shocked and says he didn't think he had to kiss her. "Thats what you do when things are new".
The wife comments "Well if you want it to feel new you're willing to kiss someone you don't care about? But you're unwilling to kiss the woman you love?"

It made alot of sense and ended a year or so later after the wife looked for some newness of her own.

Nymphy

I'd have to say that if the kissing stops, no matter how long you're in the relationship, there's definitely something wrong. Could possibly be a sign. Passion should never die!!

 

[neonlyte]

The goodbye kiss, it lingers and waits to welcome my return.