Possibly my first threesome

[Pearljwah]

ok, not sure if i should do it. Now obviously in the moment it will be incredible, and leading up to it...well ive already jacked off thinking about it numerous times. i Have a girlfriend, we are extremely in love. we are both mid 20's. She is not bi, well maybe she might be...but she doesnt have any interest in making this an everyday thing! nor does she want a relationship witha woman. she loves sex. she loves pleasure and she loves turning me on and it was mainly her idea. she thinks it would be EXTREMELY HOT and sexy. Now the person we might do it with is one of my best girl-friends. we"dated" back in high school, like when kissing was about as exciting as it got!for a couple months..but have remained good friends, she is gorgeous...and she IS BI and has had relationships with women. She would be in to it. My feeling is if we all were hangin out, drinking..one thing would lead to another. Now me and my girl have had a serious converstaion about it and she thinks it would be really fun and extremely sexy, but she says she wouldnt..and couldnt allow me to do anything with the other girl becasue she'd get so jealous...but she'd love to fool around with her and me...

not sure i should do it and am worried it might ruin our relationship...but fuck these two women...WOW....

 

[Chynas Dick]

She'll get jealous of you and the other girl or you'll get jealous because she and the other girl will pay no attention to you. Do it if you want your relationship to wither away and die bleeding and screaming in front of your blood-shot, weeping eyes.

 

[ntp]

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[bytor2112]

fuckin do it...you only live once and there is plenty of time to fall in love again if your chick gets all weird about it...

 

[SwEeT_LiL_LadY]

fuckin do it...you only live once and there is plenty of time to fall in love again if your chick gets all weird about it...

^ he/she does have a point...but i think the other person might get jelous

 

[SweetErika]

ok, not sure if i should do it. Now obviously in the moment it will be incredible, and leading up to it...well ive already jacked off thinking about it numerous times. i Have a girlfriend, we are extremely in love. we are both mid 20's. She is not bi, well maybe she might be...but she doesnt have any interest in making this an everyday thing! nor does she want a relationship witha woman. she loves sex. she loves pleasure and she loves turning me on and it was mainly her idea. she thinks it would be EXTREMELY HOT and sexy. Now the person we might do it with is one of my best girl-friends. we"dated" back in high school, like when kissing was about as exciting as it got!for a couple months..but have remained good friends, she is gorgeous...and she IS BI and has had relationships with women. She would be in to it. My feeling is if we all were hangin out, drinking..one thing would lead to another. Now me and my girl have had a serious converstaion about it and she thinks it would be really fun and extremely sexy, but she says she wouldnt..and couldnt allow me to do anything with the other girl becasue she'd get so jealous...but she'd love to fool around with her and me...

not sure i should do it and am worried it might ruin our relationship...but fuck these two women...WOW....

One serious conversation about it is not anywhere near enough, IMO. You need to talk about all of the possible problems and boundaries.
What if she doesn't like it when she gets into it?
What if she starts to feel jealous? What if you do?
How would you diffuse the situation?
What are you going to do about potential feelings and problems after?
What safety precautions will you take?
What if the other girl gets attached to one or both of you?
Will using alcohol cause errors in judgement in the heat of the moment?
Will anyone need the alcohol (or other substances) to do this?
What if your gf doesn't want you to see the other girl anymore after?
Are you willing to risk that friendship?

Until you figure all of that and more out in a series of non-bedroom conversations and make sure the other girl is on the same page in terms of expectations, you can think more seriously about this. However, some things are better left as fantasies.

 

[sexy_dancer]

Big Problem

There are two big threesome NO NO's that you are making here.
1. The other girl is an ex of yours
2. Shes bi...
that means that she can and probably will get attached to one of you and your girl will get jealous because she is YOUR ex!!!!! Personally I wouldnt go there...just for a good fuck. If she really wants to do a threesome you need to find a girl who has nothing to do with either of you two. Trust me I know what I'm talking about...dont go there. Not with a bi ex girlfriend.

 

[Eilan]

my current girlfriend of 2 years i absolutely love and could see myself marrying her once we both mature....but fuck, i want to break up with her just so i can have sex with many many beautiful women. im so fucking horny at all times...i cant get married unless i brak up with her and have sex with many women, i feel like its just something i NEED.

there are a few of my friends that i just need to have sex with, and random girls.

I'm quoting some previous posts that you've made in other threads (and I didn't even get into the threads you've started on the Personals board).

Be honest here. You want the chance to fuck other women under the guise of having a threesome, which would be a more acceptable option than cheating on your girlfriend (or breaking up with her to "sow your wild oats").

Pay attention to SweetErika's advice, particularly the very last sentence. I don't think you two are ready to do this.

 

[Pearljwah]

I'm quoting some previous posts that you've made in other threads (and I didn't even get into the threads you've started on the Personals board).

Be honest here. You want the chance to fuck other women under the guise of having a threesome, which would be a more acceptable option than cheating on your girlfriend (or breaking up with her to "sow your wild oats").

Pay attention to SweetErika's advice, particularly the very last sentence. I don't think you two are ready to do this.

im more mature than yout ake me as.

its not like we were all hot and horny and talked about it. we have discussed it a few times, and i KNOW FOR SURE i would not have sex with the other girl. I DO love my girlfriend and would want to be extremely careful, im more adament about not doing than she is. She really wants to try it. we know we arent ready to do it now, but we have been discussing it, i wsa just looking for your advice...and most likely it will not happen, as bad as i want it to..she is not worth losing, but yes...it is a fantasy, of course...it MIGTH have to stay that way unfortunately unless we really could comet oa mutual understanding and plan about getting through it...

 

[SweetErika]

im more mature than yout ake me as.

its not like we were all hot and horny and talked about it. we have discussed it a few times, and i KNOW FOR SURE i would not have sex with the other girl. I DO love my girlfriend and would want to be extremely careful, im more adament about not doing than she is. She really wants to try it. we know we arent ready to do it now, but we have been discussing it, i wsa just looking for your advice...and most likely it will not happen, as bad as i want it to..she is not worth losing, but yes...it is a fantasy, of course...it MIGTH have to stay that way unfortunately unless we really could comet oa mutual understanding and plan about getting through it...

Perhaps you're more mature than you seem, but after looking at your post history, I have to agree with Eilan. In addition, you're saying conflicting things your posts in this very thread. Why does she want to do this? Why do you? Would you be as enthusiastic if it was some random woman she chose? Why haven't you been able to come to a mutual understanding with her about a threesome/which "rules" of hers are you not willing to accept?

I'm taking a wild guess your gf doesn't know you're here, which is certainly your decision, but the fact that you can't share something as simple as a website you enjoy or that you're unhappy with your sex life and have been trolling for other women doesn't bode well for you two. I'd be surprised if your relationship could handle any challenge, muchless a threesome.

 

[Pearljwah]

Perhaps you're more mature than you seem, but after looking at your post history, I have to agree with Eilan. In addition, you're saying conflicting things your posts in this very thread. Why does she want to do this? Why do you? Would you be as enthusiastic if it was some random woman she chose? Why haven't you been able to come to a mutual understanding with her about a threesome/which "rules" of hers are you not willing to accept?

I'm taking a wild guess your gf doesn't know you're here, which is certainly your decision, but the fact that you can't share something as simple as a website you enjoy or that you're unhappy with your sex life and have been trolling for other women doesn't bode well for you two. I'd be surprised if your relationship could handle any challenge, muchless a threesome.

i think you should stop judging me, i believe that shows your maturity as well. Just something to think about.

We havent come to a decision we are discussing it, this isnt something that cane be discussed and decided on over one conversation. its a process, and all i did was come here asking for advice and i get berated and judged...

so thanks for all the advice. really.

now im guessing youll say "youre just mad because you didnt hear what you wanted to hear"

which isnt the case. im mad because you have now judged my entire relationship with my girlfriend. all i did was ask for adivce, and you gave me some good advice..and kind of REINFORCED MY THOUGHTS ON IT THAT I DONT THINK ITS A GOOD IDEA...along with the advice you have torn me down as a human being, a guy, and a boyfriend...

so thanks

 

[Eilan]

im more mature than yout ake me as.

I wasn't necessarily questioning your maturity. I was questioning your readiness to do something that could potentially damage your relationship, and, because you've expressed an interest in fucking other women at the expense of your current relationship, I was questioning your motives.

 

[Pearljwah]

I wasn't necessarily questioning your maturity. I was questioning your readiness to do something that could potentially damage your relationship, and, because you've expressed an interest in fucking other women at the expense of your current relationship, I was questioning your motives.

i wouldnt have posted and asked for advice to discuss it if i wasn't ready. Im obviosuyl not ready, thats why i asked advice, and am discussing things with my girlfriend if we truly want to. Which we dont know, i am and have been leaning towards no from day one...

And about"at the expense of my relationship" ...

i was discussing my urges to just want every girl i see...which is completely normal...and if you read through those posts ive stated that i know in the end its not worth what i have with my girlfriend

 

[Eilan]

i think you should stop judging me, i believe that shows your maturity as well. Just something to think about.

We don't know you; we DO, however, know what you've been posting. YOU are the one who's mentioned that you'd like to break up with your girlfriend to fuck other women; whether you're truly serious about it or not, I don't know, but you were serious enough to start a thread. YOU are the one who has personal ads on here looking for phone sex. If your girlfriend doesn't know that you're here, and she'd be upset if she did know, then that's a problem. But it's YOUR problem.

I don't think that pointing out inconsistencies in your argument means we're passing judgment. You've been registered here for the better part of a year, and if you've been hanging around this board with any regularity, you'd know that, for the most part, the people here are open-minded, tolerant, and damn good at giving advice. You got some good advice in this thread, particularly from one of the people that you've accused of judging you.

If you don't want your post history used against you, then think carefully before you hit the "Submit Reply" button.

 

[SweetErika]

i think you should stop judging me, i believe that shows your maturity as well. Just something to think about.

We havent come to a decision we are discussing it, this isnt something that cane be discussed and decided on over one conversation. its a process, and all i did was come here asking for advice and i get berated and judged...

so thanks for all the advice. really.

now im guessing youll say "youre just mad because you didnt hear what you wanted to hear"

which isnt the case. im mad because you have now judged my entire relationship with my girlfriend. all i did was ask for adivce, and you gave me some good advice..and kind of REINFORCED MY THOUGHTS ON IT THAT I DONT THINK ITS A GOOD IDEA...along with the advice you have torn me down as a human being, a guy, and a boyfriend...

so thanks

I'm not judging or tearing you down as a person at all, pearl. I'm simply giving you my advice and opinion on topics you've asked about, and you're welcome to take it or leave it. In my experience, a lack of honesty, communication, and shared ideas is indicative of a weak relationship. From what you've posted, it sounds like yours may be in that category, and it's great that you don't think a threesome is a good idea at this point. I sincerely hope you and your gf find ways to strengthen it and continue if that's what you want. Best of luck to you.

 

[Pearljwah]

i do appreciate all the advice, but i dont appreciate you all taking my posts on a message board and playing therapist on me and pinholing my relationship like you did. Instead of reading into me being so damn horny(which is completely human) rathe ryou should have maybe read into me THINKING and ASKING for advice about the threesome and the things i said about not thinking its right etc...and in the process of discussing..and asking for help in"getting over my urges!!" because in the end i know any sex would not be worth not having my girlfriend...

anyways. thanks.

 

[Maxell46]

Who do you wanna fuck right now?
Views: 13,011 Posted By Pearljwah
my ex girlfriend. i want to take her ass so bad...

my ex girlfriend. i want to take her ass so bad right now. fuck. unfortuantely i only get to fuck my current girlfriend no i shouldnt say that, she's gorgeus an amazing. but my ex...i want right...



Your sad!And need to mature a whole bunch!

 

[Mary Hall]

Go hump a fucking leg for christ sake if your that horny

 

[josephanthony69]

3 somes

So tell me - why all the chat about MWW and not MWM - is it not right for a woman to have 2 men?

 

[sexy_dancer]

purely my opinion

So this is my opinion dont get offended. Whatever one person thinks in his or her own mind is his or her own buisness. If he doesnt want to tell his girl whats going on he doesnt have to and its no ones place to try to make him. Ultimatley he is going to have pay for whatever choices he makes. As far as posting...its called the first amendment and no one can mess with it. I may not agree with everyting that someone says but I'm not going to judge them. If you want my advice here it is. If you want to stay with your girlfriend then you need to leave the ex behind forever and never look back. If you cant do that you need to break up with your girlfriend and go back to your ex. It sounds to me like you want the ex more anyway. No offense, as I said this is purely my opinion. No hard feelings I hope.

 

[Pearljwah]

So this is my opinion dont get offended. Whatever one person thinks in his or her own mind is his or her own buisness. If he doesnt want to tell his girl whats going on he doesnt have to and its no ones place to try to make him. Ultimatley he is going to have pay for whatever choices he makes. As far as posting...its called the first amendment and no one can mess with it. I may not agree with everyting that someone says but I'm not going to judge them. If you want my advice here it is. If you want to stay with your girlfriend then you need to leave the ex behind forever and never look back. If you cant do that you need to break up with your girlfriend and go back to your ex. It sounds to me like you want the ex more anyway. No offense, as I said this is purely my opinion. No hard feelings I hope.

i think theres some confusion here. The "Ex" that was posted in a horny rage was my ex of 3 years, that i have nothing to do with now and only sometimes fantasize about sexually. and i wont apologize for that as its completely natural to do so and i know im not the only male or person that does so.

The "ex" in the possibly/actually not going to happen cause i/and my current girlfriend DONT WANT TO...was a girl i "dated" in high school for 3 months...and i think we kissed maybe twice! ok?

i do appreciate the advice...but we are not going to have the threesome, our relationship means to much to us...

 

[sexy_dancer]

Ok

I wasnt trying to be rude or anything...as I said it was only my opinion. So dont be mad. Im glad that you decided not to. Its good that you two could talk about it and agree on what should or shouldnt be done.