Polyamory

[autymn]

Hi everyone, was just curious if anyone here is involved in a polyamourous relationship, if so how are the dynamics of the relationship defined in each specific relationship.

 

[Bandit58]

Hi autymn,
There are several threads on the BDSM forum discussing poly, here's one to get you started:

Polyamory - click me

 

[KokopelliRises]

To give a quick answer--yes there are people here involved in poly relationships. And: each relationship is different and dynamics are something the people within the relationship work out for themselves.

Bandit suggested a good link.

 

[CWatson]

I think this is the most nonspecific question I've ever seen.

I'm not in a poly relationship, but--having done a couple of mono relationships in my time (is that even the right term?)--I can tell you that each one is different. Add more people in... Well, author Orson Scott Card put it best:

Characters, as most writers understand, are truly developed through their relationships with others. If there are only two significant characters, then there is only ONE relationship to be explored. If there are three characters, however, there are FOUR relationships: Between A and B, between B and C, between C and A, and finally the relationship when all three are together.

Long story short: every poly relationship on the planet will have a different answer to your question. Why? Because they're each composed of different people. And every time a person forms a relationship with someone else, they have to come to their own adjustments and understandings. And, as OSC pointed out, these relationships only multiply when you add more people in. (A fourth member would create ten bonds, in case you were wondering.)

Why do you wish to know? If you can be more specific with your question, maybe we can give you a meaningful answer.

 

[autymn]

I guess I wasn't aware the "relationship" had a name until someone pointed it out. I was also not aware that there were others in the same type of relationship. I guess ignorance can be bliss on occassion but now it has my curiousity piqued??? I wanted to know other people in the same type of relationship and how they view it. Thanks for the link checking it out now.

 

[VelvetDarkness]

There's a useful forum dedicated solely to polyamory here. Although there are Litsters in poly relationships, those that I know of are in a power exchange, D/s dynamic of some kind, which may make their experience less relevant to you. Bandit's link is about the best thread I know of on poly relationships.

 

[KokopelliRises]

In addition to the forum that VelvetDarkness suggested, I have another suggestion of my own: this one
I've found it very helpful and informative and the people there are just as friendly as you could ask for.