Polyamory Questions

[alaskabibear]

A Literotica on-line friend suggested that my wife and I might want to look into Polyamory and gave us a couple of web sites. From the bit that we have read, this in fact seems to be much more along the lines that we are looking for. In all of our conversations with others we express right up front that we would only want to bring another person into our own relationship if that person were someone that we both had come to love first. It seems that very few people on the GLBT forum here on Lit. find that to be something they are looking for. It seems that most are wanting a quick hook-up with no commitment (which just sounds horrible to us).

So, we were wondering if anyone knows of a Polyamory site that has a good Forum like the one here on Lit. It would be nice to find a place to chat with other people who also desire a loving relationship first and maybe sex later. Other than these type of Forums, we have no idea how to meet other like-minded people to even talk about bisexuality and committed friendships with. Any suggestions?

 

[Chicklet]

I know kink related sites with Poly themes, but it doesn't sound like you're into D/s.

I want to comment that no matter where you go, the vast majority are going to want to 1) keep it online and 2) keep it to unemotional hook-ups. It's just the online way.

Wish you luck

 

[Bandit58]

There's a thread in the BDSM forum on poly, although it's from a BDSM perspective it may give you some advice.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=561580

 

[SweetErika]

You might try:
http://www.lovemore.com/links.shtm

http://polyamory.meetup.com/cities/ (meet others in your area)

and googling 'polyamory nearest_city'

It looks like the AK yahoo group is defunct, but meetup shows there are poly people in AK, so you do have a shot at meeting locals if you're not in the middle of nowhere or willing to travel a bit.

I suggest looking for locals in conjunction with online groups because you're more likely to find real people. We go to a potluck that's held every other month, and while we've not met anyone we're interested in there, it's great to discuss issues with people who have done this successfully for decades. If you can't find anything in your area, maybe you could organize something.

 

[alaskabibear]

Thanks to all!

I figured if anyone would have any advice it would be here.
I looked at the "meet-up", and it appears that it is a "meet-up" in the formation phase but not yet established. May be the best option though in order to at least get in touch with others of a like mind. (unfortunately, Alaska is pretty limited due to the small population. Seems to be a lot of "Craig's List" types who want to do quickie / anonymous hook-ups. But trying to find people who actually desire to know and care about the person they are having sex with seems to be quite the challenge.)

I was hoping to find an on-line discussion group. But, there must not be one or I'm sure you guy's (opps -gal's) would know about it. Anyway, thanks for the input.

 

[alaskabibear]

You might try:
http://www.lovemore.com/links.shtm

Erica,

I just took a quick look at this site and it looks like what we were asking about. It seems to be a small group, but at least there is a forum to talk to others there - thanks again for taking the time to do the research and give your input.

 

[alaskabibear]

There's a thread in the BDSM forum on poly, although it's from a BDSM perspective it may give you some advice.

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=561580

Bandit, This looks good too. (I swear that I did a search here on Lit BEFORE I posted my question - I must not do very good searches -LOL). But, thanks again to you - I think this will be a good place to start learning.

 

[SweetErika]

There's also a Poly forum on CollarMe.com. It's a BDSM site and I've never found the forums to be as fun or friendly as Lit, but that specific forum is less BDSM-focused and there have been some good discussions and advice there in the past.
http://www.collarchat.com/default.asp you don't have to sign up to browse, IIRC.

You could also join or start a poly thread here, then put a link in your sig to try to get participation. Heck, you could even post your questions in this thread (maybe add them to your OP as well)!

 

[alaskabibear]

There's also a Poly forum on CollarMe.com. It's a BDSM site and I've never found the forums to be as fun or friendly as Lit, but that specific forum is less BDSM-focused and there have been some good discussions and advice there in the past.
http://www.collarchat.com/default.asp you don't have to sign up to browse, IIRC.

You could also join or start a poly thread here, then put a link in your sig to try to get participation. Heck, you could even post your questions in this thread (maybe add them to your OP as well)!

Thanks again Erika,

In case anyone else is interested in this subject, we found a link on the "lovemore" site you suggested for another site, http://www.polymatchmaker.com
The Forums on this site appear to be a bit more active than the other.

And as to your suggestion to start a "poly thread"; Well if anyone has anything to ask or say on the subject I suppose here would be a good place - so anyone else interested should feel free to jump in. We don't really have any specific questions about this (yet), but find the concept intriguing.