Polyamory - Extending your family

[pipercatt]

Ok, this is a subject near and dear to my heart, and I am wondering if there are any other Lit people out there with a similar interest.

I am polyamorous. Polyamory, simply translated means, "Many Loves." My husband and I have been married for almost 13 years, and about 3 years ago, after much discussion, decided to open our marriage up to date and have relationships with other people. He found a lovely woman and is currently in a deeply loving relationship with her. She has become my best friend, though we are not, and do not plan to be, lovers ourselves. The poly community has a word for our relationship: Sister-wives.

I do not have anyone serious that I am involved with other than my husband. I do date a lot, but haven't found anyone (at this time) who is willing or able to handle the fact that I have a husband that I love, and would still want to be with other people. I am not complaining - just sharing this feature of my life. For the most part, I am pretty content, though it would be nice to find someone steady.

It is my hope that by starting this thread, I can meet and talk with other Poly-people. Tell stories, give advice, meet like minded folks willing to share this part of themselves.

Any takers? If not...thanks for listening!

 

[Jewelz]

*hugs my babydoll*.......Honey, I wish you the very best of luck finding that someone special. You so deserve it

 

[pipercatt]

*hugs my babydoll*.......Honey, I wish you the very best of luck finding that someone special. You so deserve it

Hi sweetie!

The purpose of this thread wasn't for me to find someone, although I wouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth (grin). But I thank you for the well wishes!

I was really just hoping to find people out there that thought like I do, or possilby have extended polyamorous families. I'd really like to talk with some...

 

[Angelofsex]

Hi sweetie!

The purpose of this thread wasn't for me to find someone, although I wouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth (grin). But I thank you for the well wishes!

I was really just hoping to find people out there that thought like I do, or possilby have extended polyamorous families. I'd really like to talk with some...

I have to say not yet, but I am working on it......Was always very intreresting in it.......adds what is missing from a marriage if there is. Will let you know when I am.

 

[Jewelz]

Hi sweetie!

The purpose of this thread wasn't for me to find someone, although I wouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth (grin). But I thank you for the well wishes!

I was really just hoping to find people out there that thought like I do, or possilby have extended polyamorous families. I'd really like to talk with some...

I know hon. and i didnt mean to suggest you were looking "here" for that.....I just meant in general...

 

[pipercatt]

I have to say not yet, but I am working on it......Was always very intreresting in it.......adds what is missing from a marriage if there is. Will let you know when I am.

Hi Angel,

Glad to see that you are interested in the lifestyle. If you are willing, talk to me more about what you desire? I'd love to learn more...

 

[pipercatt]

I know hon. and i didnt mean to suggest you were looking "here" for that.....I just meant in general...

Smoooooch, Jewelz...thank you sweetie!

Love ya!

 

[Raina]

A bump for you Pi!

I looked at the website you suggested, very good information. I think I will post it here for everyone...

http://www.lovemore.com

Thanks again!

 

[Raina]

Anyone who is in Southern California

I just heard that NBC4 is doing a feature on polyamory on the 11:00 news.

If anyone catches it, let us know how it was.

 

[toysrfun]

Hi Pipercatt,

I was the one who told Raina about the feature on LA's NBC station. I had not even heard of polyamory until I met her, then your thread came along and now it is prime time news! Well, at least late night news.

I saw the actual report last night. It was mostly an interview with this guy (his name was Akien) and his wife and g/f. She said that she has two other lovers besides him. They also had comments from a few people on the street responding to the idea but you know how those can be.

Over the years I have had a number of affairs with married women, none of whom were interested in leaving their spouse. They just needed something else, be it intellectual, romantic or sexual. I wish more people could be open minded to accept this. The worst part for me is/was not being able to be affectionate in public.

Thanks for starting this thread.

Toys

 

[pipercatt]

Hi there, Toys, welcome to the thread!

I would have loved to have seen that news report. I think that a lot of married folk that have relationships outside there marriage are probably poly, and don't know it. Or if they do, have just bought into society's claim that monogomy is the only correct way to go.

For people that get HBO, there is a show called Real Sex that show's poly segments quite often. In fact that's how I first heard the term Polyamory.

And then, for those science fiction lovers out there, Robert Heinlein wrote a lot of books that had polyamory, polyandry, and polygamy in them as an undercurrent theme. The most famous of which is Stranger in a Strange Land.

A friend of mine here on the Lit boards recommended a great book to me once by Robert (?) Rimmer, called the Harad Experiment. I just got it used from Amazon and read it. I really liked it.

I was really hoping to hear more from people on this thread. Thank you to Raina and Toys for keeping it dug out of the trenches.

 

[Raina]

You're welcome Pipercatt. I would love to hear more from other people too...we can't be the only ones on this board!

BTW, love your new av!

 

[pipercatt]

You're welcome Pipercatt. I would love to hear more from other people too...we can't be the only ones on this board!

BTW, love your new av!

Thank you sweetie! I love your new one, too! I think it's my favorite of yours so far...

 

[Raina]

my new avatar..

Thank you! It is my best friend's most recent art assignment. A cubist vision of the Mona Lisa. I like it so much that she told me she would do one that is actually me later.

 

[pipercatt]

Re: my new avatar..

Thank you! It is my best friend's most recent art assignment. A cubist vision of the Mona Lisa. I like it so much that she told me she would do one that is actually me later.

How cool! I hope you share that with us as well...your friend is very talented

 

[navarre]

Hi there, Toys, welcome to the thread!

I would have loved to have seen that news report. I think that a lot of married folk that have relationships outside there marriage are probably poly, and don't know it. Or if they do, have just bought into society's claim that monogomy is the only correct way to go.

For people that get HBO, there is a show called Real Sex that show's poly segments quite often. In fact that's how I first heard the term Polyamory.

And then, for those science fiction lovers out there, Robert Heinlein wrote a lot of books that had polyamory, polyandry, and polygamy in them as an undercurrent theme. The most famous of which is Stranger in a Strange Land.

A friend of mine here on the Lit boards recommended a great book to me once by Robert (?) Rimmer, called the Harad Experiment. I just got it used from Amazon and read it. I really liked it.

I was really hoping to hear more from people on this thread. Thank you to Raina and Toys for keeping it dug out of the trenches.

I read the Harrad Experiment in college. Interesting then. Interesting now...but viewed in a different context now.

 

[pipercatt]

I read the Harrad Experiment in college. Interesting then. Interesting now...but viewed in a different context now.

How so, Navarre? I'd be interested in getting your view of the book.

and BTW, welcome to the thread

 

[navarre]

Thanks Piper.
Let me think on it a bit.
I'll get back to you later.

 

[pipercatt]

Thanks Piper.
Let me think on it a bit.
I'll get back to you later.

Surely, Navarre...whenever you are ready.

In the meantime, I hope that others, even people just curious peek in here, and ask questions. I don't pretend to know all the answers, but I can give my own opinions, experiences, things like that....whatever.

This topic just really interests me.

 

[Raina]

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[jewel_GR]

Hello piper...my Master is poly and i have had alot of trouble reminding myself that He is not with others because i am lacking something. i don't know if i will ever become "excited" about His other relationships, although my heart aches alot less at the thought of being able to be involved. He has gone through great pains to reinforce the fact that it isn't "me" but is something He has always, just like D/s, had a natural tendancy for. i love Him dearly and want Him to be happy, so i do my best to cope, hoping to see the light He says is at the end of the tunnel. i just hope that its sooner rather than later.

 

[pipercatt]

Hi there, Jewel_GR. Thank you for sharing your story.

I don't know a lot about the D/s lifestyle, but I do know someone who does. Let me see if I can get them in here to talk with.

Hugs!

 

[Richard49]

I have to say not yet, but I am working on it......Was always very intreresting in it.......adds what is missing from a marriage if there is. Will let you know when I am.

I have always thought of poly as an extension of the love that is in a happy/fulfilling marrage or serious realtionship.

 

[Richard49]

And then, for those science fiction lovers out there, Robert Heinlein wrote a lot of books that had polyamory, polyandry, and polygamy in them as an undercurrent theme. The most famous of which is Stranger in a Strange Land.

A friend of mine here on the Lit boards recommended a great book to me once by Robert (?) Rimmer, called the Harad Experiment. I just got it used from Amazon and read it. I really liked it.

hey baby...U can use my name here

Robert Rimmer wrote several books on poly.
He covered so many aspects of it that .... well he did not miss any angel of it.....most of his works are interesting fiction but realistic....

During the 70s he was the poly guru
Why?
Well we did not know ... we just loved his work

It turn out that even though he was a successful...high profile business man he was living the life.....

He and three others were married to each other and lived a corporate marrage

Heinlein, to the best of my knowledge, did not live poly buit many of his books have poly, in a positive light, in them.

 

[Richard49]

Harad Experiment

At all cost avoid the movie
It may have Don johnson and what's her name in it
but it is nothing and I mean nothing
like the book.

Also the book has a great biblography in it