Polyamorous Relationships
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I was referring to mostly offline. Polyamorous is being in "exclusive" relationships with more than one person. For example, the guy I'm seeing is married. His wife knows me and knows about our relationship. She also sees someone occasionally, yet they are very much in love and will remain married. It's not cheating or sleeping around...it's having feelings for and seeing more than one person and not hiding it from the other.
Svedish_Chef
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I wish I could have one actually ...
The understanding and everything to have one however makes it so rare
The understanding and everything to have one however makes it so rare
Svedish_Chef
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Merelan said:
If I could have one I would... but I think the women tend to love me too much to share...
And it isn't the sex I am after at all, I just need that sort of support and caring
No, society doesn't get it. Shit, my own family wouldn't get it and wouldn't even try to. I don't expect everyone to champion the idea, all I ask is that they respect my right to decide what works for me, and this works. It's as though it's expected that once you slip that ring on your finger and say "I do" you're to stop having feelings and being human...that's something I've never understood, personally.
Still, most days, I feel like the luckiest person alive. I wouldn't change a thing.
Still, most days, I feel like the luckiest person alive. I wouldn't change a thing.
hi Iris,
well - such relationships have always interested me. I have never had one, and couldn't imagine one ever working - so it interests me that you are in one that does.
Something always happens between me and guys in relationships - and it is not good. As a consequence I am determinedly single and promiscuous. Its the only thing that works for me. And since doing it i have developed some great friendships with guys. They know that I am not available for the "relationship" thing - so our friendships manages to be largely free of some of the baggage that male/female intereactions usually come with.
But I still haven't got into any kind of committed partnership with a guy where we would have sex with others. I don't think i would want it - I'm not sure.
Love Sze
well - such relationships have always interested me. I have never had one, and couldn't imagine one ever working - so it interests me that you are in one that does.
Something always happens between me and guys in relationships - and it is not good. As a consequence I am determinedly single and promiscuous. Its the only thing that works for me. And since doing it i have developed some great friendships with guys. They know that I am not available for the "relationship" thing - so our friendships manages to be largely free of some of the baggage that male/female intereactions usually come with.
But I still haven't got into any kind of committed partnership with a guy where we would have sex with others. I don't think i would want it - I'm not sure.
Love Sze
teresafannin
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I don't share well, so a polyamorous relationship would never work for me. I do, however, have a friend who is seriously involved with 2 men, not anyone at this site. They live together & are very happy. I would never condemn anyone's relationship, there are too many unhappy people in the world as it is. I hope everything works out for you, Iris, it is too bad that people aren't more understanding. Merelan, you know how much I like & respect you & you have my best wishes always.
Nope, haven't head the pleasure of meeting Rosebud, Havoc or Nicole yet, at least not personally.
I don't really care how people react. If someone has questions and wants to talk about it, fine. Even if they don't agree with my outlook I'm willing to disagree with them as long as it stays civil. If their only intention is to insult and talk shit, I just don't listen. There's a difference between disagreement and judgement.
Everyone is happy...there's no anger, jealousy, distrust or possessiveness like in many monogomous relationships because everything is out in the open. I have never felt more loved or cherished in my life as I do with this man, and that's what matters to me. I've also gained a friend in his wife. I have to admit it was a little awkward at first when we were introduced, but now everything's fine...she's a very sweet woman that I care for like a sister.
I don't really care how people react. If someone has questions and wants to talk about it, fine. Even if they don't agree with my outlook I'm willing to disagree with them as long as it stays civil. If their only intention is to insult and talk shit, I just don't listen. There's a difference between disagreement and judgement.
Everyone is happy...there's no anger, jealousy, distrust or possessiveness like in many monogomous relationships because everything is out in the open. I have never felt more loved or cherished in my life as I do with this man, and that's what matters to me. I've also gained a friend in his wife. I have to admit it was a little awkward at first when we were introduced, but now everything's fine...she's a very sweet woman that I care for like a sister.
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I was in a relationship like that for about a year, though with a woman who lived some distance away. I visited her home a couple of times and met her husband for breakfast one day. We also spoke on the phone occasionally. The two of them had an open relationship for years before I met the woman and had come to terms with it quite well. I really loved the woman and couldn't handle the situation. She was even willing to be sexually monogamous with me, but the distance and unconventionality of it ultimately did us in. I wonder how it would have been had we lived in the same city? I'm glad to hear things are going well for you.
