poll: how old were you before you could first admit that you masturbated?

[silverwhisper]

how old were you before you could first admit that you masturbated to someone else? for my part: i think i was either 16 or 17 but by that point had been doing it for years.

you?

ed

 

[rcuhljr]

uh 14 or 15? first time it came up.

 

[DrStein]

Uh... I think I was fifteen. Can't really remember.

 

[Little Bird]

Hm 15 sounds good for me, too... All these 13 to 14 year-old freaks where shaing storys all day and when they yelled over to me it would have been far more embrassing to deny it than to admit...

 

[bisexplicit]

I first remember my friends talking about it to eachother around fourteen or so, but I was totally embarassed and wouldn't admit that I did it. I can't remember exactly when I became comfortable talking about it - now we discuss techniques, etc - but I'm guessing it was around sixteen or seventeen.

 

[Pleasureboy2]

I don't know that I have ever admitted to it. So I guess this is true confessions time for me.

 

[Miss Trixie]

humm i think i was 22 before i finnaly admited it. thats also about when i started buying toys.

 

[EJFan]

as kids (teens, i mean) i remember we'd all vehemently deny it.

then something happens around the end of HS or beginning of college... whether you masturbate or not, you just go around saying you do. i think the tide of logic switches that if you talk about it constantly, people just assume your bullshitting and their estimates fall far below the actual amount of masturbating you do.

 

[SlyKitten]

Masturbation has been a part of me for as long as I can remember, and I never had any problems admitting doing it. But when I was about 10 my mom told me it was something to be done in private, so I stopped humping a pillow or roaming my fingers 'down there' when I was in the family room... well, when I wasn't alone.

A girlfriend of mine once 'admitted' she masturbated and told me beforehand "Don't hate me for what I'm about to tell you..." She was afraid I'd react negatively. I didn't understand why she was afraid of that and since masturbation was something I had been doing for a while and thought of it as natural and nomal, I took the news very well. We were 16.

 

[BedtimeStories]

How old were we when we were able to admit masturbating to another person?

Like, telling our friends "yes, I've masturbated...so what?" OR telling someone we like "I've masturbated to thoughts of you!"?

 

[silverwhisper]

the former. the latter, depending on the context, is either really sexy or kinda creepy. :>

ed

 

[BedtimeStories]

Well, hell, I don't remember. I remember Sophomore year in high school coming out to my friends as bisexual. But I can't even remember a masturbation conversation ever coming up. Not even with boyfriends during high school.

So, if I had to guess I'd say some point in my early 20s... When I had many male friends/fuck buddies/etc.

 

[sexy_baby1]

I was 25, engaged and confessed to fiance. but I had been doing it for years. Mother always told me it was bad and nice girls didnt do that.
maybe that is why im so fucked up.

 

[BedtimeStories]

I was 25, engaged and confessed to fiance. but I had been doing it for years. Mother always told me it was bad and nice girls didnt do that.
maybe that is why im so fucked up.

On that note... I had been doing it for many, many years as well... Hell, I doubt I even had a hymen by the time I actually had sex for the first time! lol

My mother had said the same thing to me growing up... Which is probably why I'm a slut.

 

[EJFan]

My mother had said the same thing to me growing up... Which is probably why I'm a slut.

i never got "the talk" or any warnings about masturbation from anyone growing up... and i'm screwed too. maybe we should all go to therapy together.

oh, nurse ratchett...

 

[BedtimeStories]

i never got "the talk" or any warnings about masturbation from anyone growing up... and i'm screwed too.

She never actually had "the talk" with me. My sex ed was a very stupid illustrated book called Where Did I Come From where the "married" mommy to be and daddy to be were very fat and unattractive , school sex ed classes (in both elementary and middle school!), and other kids my age/boyfriends, etc.

My mother's only input was simply things like "good girls didn't touch 'down there'" or that sex, masturbation, homosexuality, and so on, was all EVIL and BAD.

 

[Lynxie]

She never actually had "the talk" with me. My sex ed was a very stupid illustrated book called Where Did I Come From where the "married" mommy to be and daddy to be were very fat and unattractive , school sex ed classes (in both elementary and middle school!), and other kids my age/boyfriends, etc.

My mother's only input was simply things like "good girls didn't touch 'down there'" or that sex, masturbation, homosexuality, and so on, was all EVIL and BAD.

That sounds about like my upbringing. I think I was 18 or so when I first admitted to another person that I pleasure myself...and considerably longer before I was comfortable doing it in front of him.

 

[Etaski]

Well, I told my mom when I was 6 (I was asking her if it was okay to do it, she said "yes, in private", so I went my merry way!).

I got the point early on that it was "evil" in the town I lived in (80% Mormon), so I never bothered to mentioned it, until a male friend of mine gave me an opening to express my opinion on the matter:

I had mentioned to him that my brother had snitched one of my favorite erotic books, and he made some comment like my brother "shouldn't be doing that"; I got angry and said, "What? I do it, too! What's the matter, don't you?"
He got the most "scared rabbit" look on his face and denied it vehemently. I said, "Bullshit." (Otherwise how would my friend have known what my brother was using the book for, eh? ) We were 18, actually, in college, so I was more than ready to tell a few people how unnatural it was to deny themselves.

!Viva la masturbacion!

 

[EJFan]

!Viva la masturbacion!

LMAO!

is it just me or are some o' the kinkiest people on earth mormon? i don't mean this in ANY way to sound prejudiced or judgemental or categorical or anything like that... it just seems that there's a concentration of closet-kink in the mormon community.

 

[silverwhisper]

with that much repression, i think it's to be expected. sorta like catholic schoolkids gone wild, but on steroids, IMHO.

ed

 

[Etaski]

Just to clarify:

It is possible that there are many Mormon closet-kinks, but I don't really know numbers.

When I was in the town, I was part of the 20% that was non-Mormon---and that is how you were grouped: Mormon or not. Everyone asked. It got on my nerves in the 4th grade: I once responded: "No, of course I'm not a moron!" Then of course they said, "No, no, you didn't hear me. I said Mormon." I, ultimately, was too chicken to go with the obvious zinger: "No difference."

As they say, "Hey, I have to live/work with these people!"

But yes, human sexuality never goes away---it simply underground when the "societal control" gets as bad as it does in Purtian-like situations. It's always there, much to the frustration of the "leaders"!

 

[Etaski]

sigh.

 

[Unafraid]

I was 19 before I was conmfortable enough to admit it to anyone. I started when I was 14 or 15.

I'm 32 now, and very few days go by that I don't do it at least once. Whether I've had sex or not.

 

[sexyjenn]

14-15 don't remember really. everyone does it so why bother to hide it? if they deny it they are liers

 

[done_got_old]

14-15 don't remember really. everyone does it so why bother to hide it? if they deny it they are liers

Not everyone does it!