Plz give ideas on what to tell GF about bi fantasy

[jcguild]

I've been with my gf 4 years now. We once had a mmf with dvp as the highlight of the evening. I enjoyed the night immensely and I know she enjoyed the 'idea' of it more than the actual acting out of it.

Afterward she said she didn't want to do it again because it made her feel like she was cheating on me. Thusfar we have not had another 3some.

However, I want to, but not necessarily for the same purposes as before.

One of the things I enjoyed about the evening was when I had my hand on the other guy's penis. She was giving him a bj to get him hard (cuz he was going soft alot) so that we could finally dp all together and as she stopped blowing him to get on top of him I used my hand on his cock and stroked him for half a minute or so (I damn well wanted his cock hard so we could enter my gf's pussy together!). I would have never guessed it would be as much a turn on as it was just feeling his erection. He was slightly bigger than me and I honestly think that made me feel hotter knowing I had hold of a bigger cock. And then the feeling of our cocks sliding against each other inside my girl's pussy - OMG. But...

Anyway, because I know she does not want another dose of the same kind of mmf (both guys pentrating her) and she will not allow a fmf (she would be too jealous and be hurt) - well, I've been increasingly fantasizing about mmf but from a bi point of view. I just think it would be such a turn on to stroke a guy, suck him, and have him do the same with me and do that while involving my gf (tho not with intercourse with the other guy). I want to cup a guy's balls, lick them, rub his ass, etc.

I'm just having difficulties bringing it up even tho my gf and I are pretty open and honest about our thoughts. In part this may be due to some of my own views concerning my bi-sexual feelings, but certainly because I don't want her to refuse something I want very much to do.

Any thought? Anyone else with similar experiences? Anyone with ideas on how to break the ice? And just as importantly - how the hell do I go about finding another bi male who doesn't just want to do a mmf so he can bang my gf? I'm perhaps looking for some 1 liners, not a line you tell a girl (guy) at a bar - but 1 I can tell my girl and be a little off the hook in terms of embarrasment in case she refuses.

 

[skitzoid]

Hay jcguild,

This might work. Just start up a conversation when you know you will not be disturbed. SLOWLY direct it toward sex and you past experience. She will probably tell you she wouldn't want to do it again. Then you shyly explain your fantasy. She would be in the same room and direct your efforts. Hell, she can even stay clothed. She knows how to handle a cock better than you do.

As for finding another guy, I have no suggestions. Discreation and cleanliness are the necessary parts. If you have a "good" friend that will help out. But then, you'll always see him and if it didn't go right, he'll be in your face.

Good luck with both of you. Have a ball (he he)

 

[jcguild]

hmmm

Thanks for the reply.

Thinking about this reminded me that a few years ago, even before we started dating a friend of hers overheard me and a guy saying how sexy it would be to watch 2 girls. Her friend (a girl) mentioned it would be just as hot seeing 2 guys get it on. Then my gf agreed.

So I'm thinking of bringing that conversation up then seeing if she'd think it was hot if I was one of the guys. And I want to go into details too just to find out her reaction. I can tell by the tone of her voice if she gets a bit turned on by things I'm saying so hopefully she'll give me the right signals. If she is up for it then we can find out how to go about finding the right guy. Probably online. I have a friend who is homosexual and male but I don't think he'd be up for having a 3rd around and I really am not attracted to him in any way. I'm nt gonna be in love with a guy but I at least would like a cute guy with a nice dick.

I also want to remind her about our mmf 3some we shared but I'll only mention the part when I was stroking the guy. I'll tell her that it turned me on and I have had thoughts about wanting to do that again (He's married now and as far as I know completely straight).

I'm pretty sure she'll agree to it even if it wasn't something that she'd enjoy alot (me being with a guy) if only to please me - but I'd prefer if it were something that also got her aroused. I mean, it'd be awesome to suck on some balls and cock with my own lover right there helping me. I just don't think I could enjoy it without her.

And I think it has little to do with not wanting to feel gay. Having had gay friends I can empathize with the prejudice and or awkwardness they've sometimes described. Mostly I think women tend to be more sensual and or affectionate than many men and that's how I am. I mean, I don't just want to have us come and be done with it. I want hours of foreplay and lots of stroking and licking and sucking ya know?

 

[txnrude]

definitely know what you mean man. I was lucky and it was my gf who was always putting the ideas in my head haha.

 

[jcguild]

getting there...

I came out and told her about my fantasy a couple nights ago. I lead up to it with her old conversation then asked what she'd think if I was receiving and giving a handjob and blowjob from a man. At first she paused, thought, then said, "I don't know". Then she asked for more details.

She asked me if I would want a guys penis in my ass. I lied and said no. She then asked what I would want her to be doing during such an escapade so I mentioned a few ideas.

Last night the subject came up again after she asked me if I was serious about it. We didn't talk much about it because I don't want her to think I'm obsessed by the idea. But, she mentioned it would be interesting to watch me with a guy.

So, I know she's been thinking about it, at least the idea of it. I'll give her time to let her hormones visualize more of what it would be like then I'll bring it up again soon if she doesn't. Then hopefully she and I can go about setting something up.

 

[PredatorSmile]

Good luck with that !!!