Pleasure from Femdom

[evilernie]

Hi,

I have written a few stories about female domination. All of it were from a man's point of view. I want to create something where a woman is the protagonist. I want to explore

- How a woman feels when she is in control
- why the act arouses her
- does she consider her sub as inferior or as a toy
- which gives her more pleasure: power or conquest

I understand that most of you will probably raise your eyebrows wondering why I am writing something I know little about. That is why I need your help. Please kindly share your thoughts.

If you have read stories where it revolves around a female main character, please let me know.

However, if female domination is purely a guy's fantasy and women don't really get pleasure from it, I will just abandon the whole plan.


thanks,

 

[catalina_francisco]

Writing about that which you have not necessarily experienced yourself is always a challenge and more often the case. Is why writers spend years in research to write one book sometimes. As for female Dommes and their subs, think just reading the threads here will begin to give you some insight and perhaps a way to open dialogue with a couple of the more experienced ladies. I am a 24/7 female slave so of little help to you I'm afraid. Good luck.

Catalina

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

i am a female domina not 24/7 and yes i do get real pleasure from it, otherwise why do it, i have just written a story and submitted it and now await its approval, its not a full on BDSM story, so it will be under fetish, but it shows the aspect of control that i personally find erotic, there are many reasons for a female to enjoy to dominate as there are for a man, you will have to pick an idea/reason and explore it. Good luck.

 

[evilernie]

I guess I have my work cut out. I am neither a dom or sub. And I am too much of a coward to explore. (Afraid I may like it - he he). I based my previous stories on what I have read and my own fantasy.

If I just base it on what I have read so far, it is always exploring the man's weakness, struggle and eventual defeat. Of course, I can relate to them. But I want the other side of the story, how the woman feels.

I think I am just missing the point, maybe that is all there is to it - being in control of a helpless person.

Thank you both for your input.

I look forward to reading your story.

 

[Netzach]

it's not about overpowering, though, not always, and not always for me.

It's more about seducing. What can I convince someone to do, through the sheer power of sexiness, will and self-confidence?

How far out will he go? What will he put up with? What will cause conflict in his mind?

some things that turn me on:

feeling madly insanely desired, so much so that the prohibition of any culmination to that desire could be called "torture" so much so that begging is not out of the question

watching someone be really stoic, the way they become self-possessed and the way they clamp down on themselves

knowing that I can make any damn thing I please happen, for the duration, the self-confidence of knowing my bottom and knowing how far along I can take him (or her in any of these cases)

the physics of SM violence, welts, squirming, tears, the evidence as it were.

 

[ImmortaleAmante]

That is so well put Netzach, that is exactly what i feel, the seduction, the exploration, the seeing how far we can go and what i can encourage in him, and watching his developement,
The overall sexiness, seduction, control and desire
Again very nicely said.