Hey, this is my second post at this site...so far you all are a lot of help. Well i kinda have a girlfriend...we mainly just mess around. I love to please her, just as much if not more than her pleasing me. I learned about the G-Spot orgasm at this site, anything else that the females love? Any ideas would be great. Thanks!
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peachykeen
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OK I may be percieving this incorrectly, but I get the feeling that you are looking for, like, some kind of 'checklist' or a repertoire of tricks that you can pull out of your back pocket. Which is so totally such a *guy* thing it's ridiculous. (Think John Cusack and the endless Top 5 lists in High Fidelity.)
Here is what females love (if I may be so bold as to speak for half the friggin planet):
1. Your honest attention and respect.
Well, that's pretty much the list.
p.s. your girl doesn't want you to do "things females love" to her. She wants you to spend time with her exploring and discovering what she personally, as, like, an individual human being with her own unique body and her own unique personality, loves. Get it?
Here is what females love (if I may be so bold as to speak for half the friggin planet):
1. Your honest attention and respect.
Well, that's pretty much the list.
p.s. your girl doesn't want you to do "things females love" to her. She wants you to spend time with her exploring and discovering what she personally, as, like, an individual human being with her own unique body and her own unique personality, loves. Get it?
alltherage
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Grooming.
Sadly enough, we men are so programmed to think that we MUST get you women off. It's in all the magazines, fuck.. even all the women talk about it, all your guy friends talk about it.. nobody wants to be unable to help their partner achieve orgasm. I must admit I'm a victim of this brainwashing as well. I've overheard many women talking about who does or doesn't please them, and I certainly don't want to be that guy referred to as the one pump chump or a shitty lay, so women also help to contribute to the stigma as well. Us guys have all seen a few episodes of Sex in the city and we're well aware that girls DO like to talk about sex and they almost make it seem as if you're a bad partner in general if you find it hard to get your girl off. Personally I think it sucks. I love to please my partner but I feel pressured by it sometimes and as a result find it even harder to control myself. I see nothing wrong with wanting to please your partner, but some things are just beyond your control. I've seen a lot of it on this site in a few days of browsing, but I've also seen many women who seem to be understanding and secure in the fact that while their partner might care for them a hell of a lot, sometimes it's just hard for a guy to get a girl off. You have to show us what you like and even teach us if necessary. It works both ways! We want you to care about how we feel during sex, too!
GldnAngl
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Somebody's sig line alludes to the fact that if she is not woman enough to tell you or show you what she wants/needs, she's not woman enough to be with. I agree with that (and I think the same goes for men).
Listen to her, take your cues from her. Sex is about giving your partner pleasure, not, IMO, just getting yourself off (unless that does give your partner pleasure). Talk about it. 'Cuz, if you're inserting Tab A into Slot B, you better able to talk about it, otherwise, it'll never be as good for either of you (besides, everybody should form their "what happens if the BC fails" contingency plan worked out prior to Tabs being inserted into Slots).
Listen to her, take your cues from her. Sex is about giving your partner pleasure, not, IMO, just getting yourself off (unless that does give your partner pleasure). Talk about it. 'Cuz, if you're inserting Tab A into Slot B, you better able to talk about it, otherwise, it'll never be as good for either of you (besides, everybody should form their "what happens if the BC fails" contingency plan worked out prior to Tabs being inserted into Slots).
Jim311 said:
What he said^^^^^^^^^^^
This sounds good in a movie, but it doesnt help him. I know this is what you say but I have heard women talk about one man that sticks out in their head. Hell, I even heard a woman say she would cheat on her husband to be with the guy she got off the best with. Honesty and respect mean alot but women like a good fucking and dont you girls damn deny it! I try my best but I dont stop looking for things to try and make her happy and satisfied.
Besides he sounds a little inexperienced and is looking for tips or pointers and he wanted to ask the women what they liked.
Just remember, XxNyCgQxX, when you go down on a woman,(and you always should) dont just shove you tongue inside. Lick the more sensitive outer areas to get her off, ie: the little man in the boat.
Scary Gary
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weeeeeell
I'm not exactly a woman hehe, and I'm not Casanova either, buuut! If you're really heartset on having an...erm..."equally pleased" partner, it's *all* about the foreplay. This is sooo true for both men and women, sure you can always just skip the groundwork and just go for the gold, but half an hour of making out/teasing with your hands, mouth, tongue, toes, WHATEVER really does make an orgasm go a LOT farther, male or female.
A big part of it is also in what your partner REALLY goes for. I don't really agree with
Some girls are just plain shy, no two ways about it, and asking them how many fingers they like their ass just isn't going to sit well! I'm like that, I used to date someone like that, and I think it's kinda cute. If you've got a "shy one", you can always experiment, you can pretty much tell what your partner likes, dislikes, or what makes him/her truly go apeshit 
(For my shy girl it was anything involving her bellybutton, she made these little chipmunk noises, pretty positive sign.)
I'm not exactly a woman hehe, and I'm not Casanova either, buuut! If you're really heartset on having an...erm..."equally pleased" partner, it's *all* about the foreplay. This is sooo true for both men and women, sure you can always just skip the groundwork and just go for the gold, but half an hour of making out/teasing with your hands, mouth, tongue, toes, WHATEVER really does make an orgasm go a LOT farther, male or female.
A big part of it is also in what your partner REALLY goes for. I don't really agree with
Some girls are just plain shy, no two ways about it, and asking them how many fingers they like their ass just isn't going to sit well! I'm like that, I used to date someone like that, and I think it's kinda cute
. If you've got a "shy one", you can always experiment, you can pretty much tell what your partner likes, dislikes, or what makes him/her truly go apeshit (For my shy girl it was anything involving her bellybutton, she made these little chipmunk noises, pretty positive sign.)
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The signature line that GldnAngl is talking about goes like this:
If I am woman enough to have sex with you then I had better damn well be woman enough to tell you what pleases me. If I can't tell you what pleases me, then I damn well better be woman enough to show you.
That is one that a friend of mine that used to post here used. I find it to be very true. For both sexes.
If people don't get over the shyness, then the communication skills are lacking and that doesn't bode well for any relationship in the end.
If I am woman enough to have sex with you then I had better damn well be woman enough to tell you what pleases me. If I can't tell you what pleases me, then I damn well better be woman enough to show you.
That is one that a friend of mine that used to post here used. I find it to be very true. For both sexes.
If people don't get over the shyness, then the communication skills are lacking and that doesn't bode well for any relationship in the end.
NaiveOne
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It's true, it's all about the foreplay!!!!!!
With a good sexy time of touching, kissing and teasing I can cum in about 4 minutes or oral. Without takes MUCH longer and isn't as satisfying.
So I recommend:
teasing
kissing
touching
udressing her
more kissing
Good luck!
With a good sexy time of touching, kissing and teasing I can cum in about 4 minutes or oral. Without takes MUCH longer and isn't as satisfying.
So I recommend:
teasing
kissing
touching
udressing her
more kissing
Good luck!
Noor
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I like backrubs
having my hair washed
being dried off and lotioned after a shower
tons of different kinds of kisses
my favorite juice brought to me in the morning
being read to, a story, or image to sleep on
hearing how much my lover wants me and how he wants me in situations where he can't have me-like at a party or something
really good chocolate
honey dust
unscented candles
water like fountains
a very clean man
to hear my lover come
hear my lover play music for me or sing
laughter
having my toenails painted
being stroked with a swans down puff
instrumental music
silk
flannel sheets
being kissed or have air blown on every part of my body
to feel surround by my lovers body, voice, scent
having my hair washed
being dried off and lotioned after a shower
tons of different kinds of kisses
my favorite juice brought to me in the morning
being read to, a story, or image to sleep on
hearing how much my lover wants me and how he wants me in situations where he can't have me-like at a party or something
really good chocolate
honey dust
unscented candles
water like fountains
a very clean man
to hear my lover come
hear my lover play music for me or sing
laughter
having my toenails painted
being stroked with a swans down puff
instrumental music
silk
flannel sheets
being kissed or have air blown on every part of my body
to feel surround by my lovers body, voice, scent
I’ve seen a few threads like this one in the past and frankly, they confuse me. Sure, inexperience could be the cause I guess, but the answer seems obvious. Perhaps I’m just missing something.
In my opinion communication is the key to a great sex life. Have you tried simply asking her what she likes? Talking about it is almost as much fun as doing it, and you get the added benefit of knowing that you’ll be doing something she’s enjoyed in the past or has an interest in trying. It also gives you the chance to bring up things you like or want to try.
Working from magazine articles and shows like Sex in the City can backfire in a big way. Men need to know that no two women are alike. What works for the person writing the article or on a fictional television show could result in you being force-fed your balls (I’m sure this won’t happen, but you understand what I’m talking about).
While it’s true that some women may talk about their sex lives with their friends, that doesn’t mean what they’re talking about is negative. Nor does it mean that all women do this. There is no magic check list as PeachyKeen said. The advice you get here on the boards may have your girlfriend thinking you’ve lost your mind or worse.
As an example: someone in this thread happens to mention that they like having their ass spanked while going at it doggy-style. So what the heck, you give it a try. Next thing you know, you’re girlfriends got you locked up for abuse. See? Again, this probably wouldn’t happen, but you don’t know it won’t. If you take some of the ideas from this board, make sure to talk to your girlfriend about them before just plunging ahead.
Oh, and one last thing. RELAX! Remember this is supposed to be enjoyable for both of you!
~Alyx~
In my opinion communication is the key to a great sex life. Have you tried simply asking her what she likes? Talking about it is almost as much fun as doing it, and you get the added benefit of knowing that you’ll be doing something she’s enjoyed in the past or has an interest in trying. It also gives you the chance to bring up things you like or want to try.
Working from magazine articles and shows like Sex in the City can backfire in a big way. Men need to know that no two women are alike. What works for the person writing the article or on a fictional television show could result in you being force-fed your balls (I’m sure this won’t happen, but you understand what I’m talking about).
While it’s true that some women may talk about their sex lives with their friends, that doesn’t mean what they’re talking about is negative. Nor does it mean that all women do this. There is no magic check list as PeachyKeen said. The advice you get here on the boards may have your girlfriend thinking you’ve lost your mind or worse.
As an example: someone in this thread happens to mention that they like having their ass spanked while going at it doggy-style. So what the heck, you give it a try. Next thing you know, you’re girlfriends got you locked up for abuse. See? Again, this probably wouldn’t happen, but you don’t know it won’t. If you take some of the ideas from this board, make sure to talk to your girlfriend about them before just plunging ahead.
Oh, and one last thing. RELAX! Remember this is supposed to be enjoyable for both of you!
~Alyx~
DevilishTexan
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Brush her hair for her. Just one thing ya might try.
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Noor said:
Damn Noor is good. Thanks for reminding me why I love women so damn much!
BlueSugar
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touch her aaall over, not just her neck, tits and pussy. Her thighs, her back her lips, her ears, her sides, the areas around her breaks, the space between her belly button and pussy... everything. Try a massage/carress/erotic loving type touching... its incredable and it'll warm her up if you use an oil or cream and vary between super soft and as rough as you both like it.
Rub your body against hers, kiss everything! Use syrup, honey, honey dust, anything ... spend ours kissing .... ask her what gets her going, what she enjoys that you do.
Spend an hour, or tie her down and spend and hour going down on her. Kiss, lick, nibble the whole area, even her thighs ... touch her arms, squeeze her hands and fingers and toes ... make her body BEG for you.
Tease her with yourself when you are ready to have sex after all of that ... give her a little... a little... then take it away ... then give it all to her ... and pause ... Listen to her breathing, watch her skin tingle and redden... feel her warmth... if you are intune with her body and she with yours, you'll just know what to do and how to please her AND please you
After incredable experiences, its a bonus to get an orgasm, but if not there is still all that close personal, increadable feelings that you gave her that you allowed her, that You did... you made her moan, you made her whimper, you made her scream, you made her claw at your back, you made her wrap her legs around you in that death grip hehe...
ask her how and where she wants everything, tell her "you forgot how," and ask her to guide you, tell her you're not doing anything unless she says it to you. And if she doesn't know, learn together ...experiment .... have fun.
just watch the signs her body is giving to you.
Rub your body against hers, kiss everything! Use syrup, honey, honey dust, anything ... spend ours kissing .... ask her what gets her going, what she enjoys that you do.
Spend an hour, or tie her down and spend and hour going down on her. Kiss, lick, nibble the whole area, even her thighs ... touch her arms, squeeze her hands and fingers and toes ... make her body BEG for you.
Tease her with yourself when you are ready to have sex after all of that ... give her a little... a little... then take it away ... then give it all to her ... and pause ... Listen to her breathing, watch her skin tingle and redden... feel her warmth... if you are intune with her body and she with yours, you'll just know what to do and how to please her AND please you
After incredable experiences, its a bonus to get an orgasm, but if not there is still all that close personal, increadable feelings that you gave her that you allowed her, that You did... you made her moan, you made her whimper, you made her scream, you made her claw at your back, you made her wrap her legs around you in that death grip hehe...
ask her how and where she wants everything, tell her "you forgot how," and ask her to guide you, tell her you're not doing anything unless she says it to you. And if she doesn't know, learn together ...experiment .... have fun.
just watch the signs her body is giving to you.
Four_Inch_Heels
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I, myself, like a soft and gentle touch with a tongue. I hate teasing.....don't lick my thighs, stomach, etc.....get to the main event!
Backrubs/body massages are relaxing and hot. Lick and nibble my neck, jawline, chin, earlobes. Talk dirty to me! I want to hear what you're going to do to me, and how much I'm going to love it.
Rub your precum all over my tits and nipples, then lick it off. Hump my leg.....let me know how much I turn you on!
Backrubs/body massages are relaxing and hot. Lick and nibble my neck, jawline, chin, earlobes. Talk dirty to me! I want to hear what you're going to do to me, and how much I'm going to love it.
Rub your precum all over my tits and nipples, then lick it off. Hump my leg.....let me know how much I turn you on!
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