I'm one of those girls that's never had an orgasm from a guy - whether it be oral or regular sex. I tend to play with myself to relieve the sexual tension that's been building up over the years. Is too much masturbation making it worse for me to get off from a guy, or should I continue doing it? I apply pressure to my clit for a few minutes and that sends me over the edge. I don't know what to do...but should I tell him to do the same, or do I just have to wait for "Mr. Right?" I've had 5 sexual partners, and none have done it for me...
Please help?
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thefishfryer
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Continue doing it and post the video here 
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How Old Are You
And how old are your partners?
This position has always worked for me. Rather, my partners have always gotten off. You see, while it is obvious that the gentleman's hands are in the right spot. notice how his ear is close to her mouth? Yes, a great partner knows how to listen. A ll you need to do is to tell them what you want / need
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And how old are your partners?
This position has always worked for me. Rather, my partners have always gotten off. You see, while it is obvious that the gentleman's hands are in the right spot. notice how his ear is close to her mouth? Yes, a great partner knows how to listen. A ll you need to do is to tell them what you want / need
Care If I try?
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Luna_Bella
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have you tried to use the same technique you use when masturbating while you are with your partner? I use to be the same way, I just couldn't come when I was with someone, they just weren't doing it right, until I was asked to do the same as when I was masturbating and show how to do it right.
None of your partners have any ideas what you like, so you have to show them! even the most experienced guy will not know how to send you over the edge as every single person is different(well he'l have a good idea but won't know the details)
SPEAK UP GIRL and let them know what you need!
None of your partners have any ideas what you like, so you have to show them! even the most experienced guy will not know how to send you over the edge as every single person is different(well he'l have a good idea but won't know the details)
SPEAK UP GIRL and let them know what you need!
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I had the same problem for the longest time. And I'm pretty sure it was my problem and not my partners'. I was overthinking it and not comfortable/relaxed enough when I was with someone. Obviously that problem is not an issue when masturbating... After a few years of being with the man I eventually married, I admitted my issues to him and overcame this problem with his help!
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That's the fun part
Working with a partner and learning her body.
I think that is the real trick. A few of my partners weren't ready to take the time to work with me. While sex was okay, they weren't willing / unable to take it to the next level.
That is, to dedicate the time and effort to explore and discover.
Working with a partner and learning her body.
I think that is the real trick. A few of my partners weren't ready to take the time to work with me. While sex was okay, they weren't willing / unable to take it to the next level.
That is, to dedicate the time and effort to explore and discover.
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I wouldn't call it an issue -- a heck of a lot of women find it harder to orgasm with a partner than by themselves. The trick is to show them what you like, and to not be shy about lying back and enjoying it. The female orgasm isn't always incidental but once you realise that he's capable, it certainly becomes more so.
, who think that a bit of instruction/demonstration from a girl is just crazy-awesome hawt. Don't fear to steer! 
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I feel bad that you're struggling and would like to make a simple suggestion if I may. Why not just play with yourself while your guy has sex with you. If anything its good for two reasons, the first being it will surely get you off, and the second being he will most likely think its very hot. Many women need more than just penetration to cum. I would try it and see how he reacts if he's like most of us men, he wont complain. Especially when you cum for real.
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xandryah, if it makes you feel any better, it's generally easier for everyone, regardless of gender, to get off when flying solo: we know what works for us, after all. :>
you don't mention what the guys you've been with have tried, but if you're hoping to achieve orgasms strictly through vaginal stimulation, you should be aware the majority of women (80%, i believe) just can't there that way.
of course, if you're saying they've been going down on you for hours and still nothing, that's something else entirely.
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you don't mention what the guys you've been with have tried, but if you're hoping to achieve orgasms strictly through vaginal stimulation, you should be aware the majority of women (80%, i believe) just can't there that way.
of course, if you're saying they've been going down on you for hours and still nothing, that's something else entirely.
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