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I have a problem. I have never had a problem finding a girlfriend but…just read and maybe you’ll understand.
I’ve known my current girlfriend since I was in the 8th grade but it never went beyond being friends, and after we graduated from school we grew apart. Then about six months ago one of her friends started dating my best friend Andy. One night after hanging out drinking Smirnoff Ice’s (I didn’t drink) I drove everyone home and since Sara lived the furthest away she was the last to be dropped off. She told me she wanted to go for a ride. So I drove around for a little and ended up at a local park were we sat down on a bench and talked for a few hours until the police came along around at 4:00 AM and said we had to leave.
In that time I learned a lot about what had happened to her in the in the three years we had last seen each other. She had gone threw a few abusive relationships… I know I can’t change that…no one can. I can do is be as kind to her as possible and hope that she can look beyond what others have done and see that I would never intentionally hurt her.
That was a month ago and since then our friendship has grown into more and I really do love her, I always have. I know allot of you are saying ‘yeah sure’….but I really do and I know it’s mutual. Every day I get out of work I can’t wait to see her, and when I look into her eyes no matter how tired I am I can sit and talk to her for hours on end.
I don’t drink and when I do it doesn’t take more then a 4-5 beers before I’m completely out of it. Well, last week we went out and she wanted to go back to my place. After making out for I don’t know how long we made our way to my bedroom and I’m going to be honest….I’m not well endowed and that has always bothered me. I don’t mean my penis is small it’s really small, barely four inches and it makes me very insecure when it comes to sex. Like I said before I almost never drink and that night we had both been drinking. I used the excuse that because I had been drinking I was impotent… which was almost the truth because when I do drink my entire body goes numb and ‘Mr. Winky’ is no exception. She was disappointed to say the least; I could see it in her eyes. I have been avoided sex with her since then and I think she think she is starting to think it is her and it isn’t. It’s me. She is the most caring woman I have ever known and it bothers me that despite I can talk to her about anything and vise-versa that I can’t talk to her about this. Most of all though I’m afraid I’m going to lose her because I know I cannot satisfy her.
I know this may be the most common questions among men but aside from surgery (which I couldn’t afford even if I ignored the risks) is there another way to increase the size of my penis. Please try to understand what I’m going through though. I really care for Sara and I couldn’t stand loosing her.
 
Worthless said:
I know it’s mutual. She is the most caring woman I have ever known and it bothers me that despite I can talk to her about anything and vise-versa that I can’t talk to her about this.

Why not? Don't take this the wrong way but if she cares for you the way you believe she does, this should not be a problem. Which would you prefer? (1) For this woman you care so much about to develop a complex because she believes there's something wrong with her and for you to lose her over it OR (2) for you to talk to her then find out it's not as bad as you were thinking and it's something you two can work through. I personally think option number two but it's not me. If, for some reason, she decides she is unable to deal with it, then I'm sorry honey, she's not the woman you thought she was and you deserve better.


Most of all though I’m afraid I’m going to lose her because I know I cannot satisfy her. Please try to understand what I’m going through though. I really care for Sara and I couldn’t stand loosing her.

Even if having a shrinky dink was a problem, you're making it more so by stressing about it. There are other ways of satisfying your partner. You sound like the woman who won't get undressed in front of her partner because she doesn't look like the supermodels on TV and is scared she'll be rejected. If Sara loves you, it won't matter. Especially if you love her enough to try to please her by other means.

That said, Dr. Blackbich prescribes one valium (for your nerves), a nap (if you don't drink, you'll need to sleep off the valium!) then for you to immediately talk to your girlfriend. No hemming and hawwing, let her know how you feel about your smallness AND that you've been hesitant to be intimate with her because of it!

Good Luck, Kiddo!!
 
Have to agree with BlackBitch on this one. ITs not a matter of whether you penis is 12 or 2 its a matter of how the girl feels. Besides penetration is not the be all and end all of sex my friend. Satisfaction can be had in many ways. There are actually penis extentions if I remember correctly that can act as a tool to allow you give her a little more when she craves it. Also, thre is a lot said to playing with your woman using a dildo or vibrator.
As for how to make it larger. I hear tell of a ton of different gadgets drugs and all sorts of other what have you. The best thing I can say is talk to your doctor. Maybe even getting refferal to a sexual therapist to help you understand your situation better and give you a little more confidence.

The biggest thing is TALK to the woman! Tell her you are concerned about your size and the effect it can have on your ability to please her. You might find out much to your suprise that she is very ok with the whole thing and you will feel much better.
 
There are many ways to make love to someone. It's not all about penetration with a penis. Your penis doesn't make up your whole self and nor is her vagina the only defining part of her. I also think that talking to her before you go for it may help to ease some of the tension you have. It sounds like you really really care for Sara, and if she cares as much for you, the two of you will be able to work out any problems. Use your imagination and come up with various ways to please Sara. She may even clue you into some new ways you may not have thought of. I know you say that you feel your penis is on the small side, but males average 4-6" when erect. Also, the penis is not your biggest sex organ, your brain is and so is Sara's. If you can learn to turn on your brain and Sara's you have half the men in the world beat when it comes to making love.

Hope things work out.
 
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