Please help this 18 m virgin :(

[TruPlaya]

Hi,

I understand im probably the youngest on this forum, but please gimme a break

Anyways, Im wondering if the wondeful ladies on this forum could help me.

Im going to be honest so please keep the stupid comments out.

Ive had a few chances to get laid, but all of them Ive been too shy. I dont know why, but when It was time to make the move on the chick, I just didnt do it. I have no idea why.

I can tell you im not ugly, I go to the gym alot to try and get my body in perfect condition, but I dont know.

Why am I soo shy?

Is their any remodies?

Ill find myself alot checkout a chick in the street and dream about her, but something in my body is stoping me from going up to her and saying hi. Alot of these chicks I think are even in my league.

I think my shyness is linked to me being a virgin, that is, I dont know if my penis etc will be good enough for the chick. I know all chicks say 'size doesnt matter' but we all know it does.

Im 16cm in length, Im not ashamed to admit it, theirs not much I can really do about it.

Please help me stop being sooo shy

 

[Weird Harold]

I think my shyness is linked to me being a virgin, that is, I dont know if my penis etc will be good enough for the chick. I know all chicks say 'size doesnt matter' but we all know it does.

Im 16cm in length, Im not ashamed to admit it, theirs not much I can really do about it.

FWIW, 16cm = 6.5 inches or just a hair above average size.

Being shy is all in your head. Girls are NOT an alien species, no matter how much they may seem like one at times.

All you need to do is stop thinking about girls as potential sex partners and start thinking of them as people you'd like to get to know. When you find the right girl, the sex will just come naturally.

Being a virgin is not some disease that needs to be cured. It's just one more aspect of being inexperienced in inter-gender relations -- something that is pretty much expected in teenagers and young adults.

 

[Blackbich]

Re: Re: Please help this 18 m virgin

All you need to do is stop thinking about girls as potential sex partners and start thinking of them as people you'd like to get to know. When you find the right girl, the sex will just come naturally.

Being a virgin is not some disease that needs to be cured. It's just one more aspect of being inexperienced in inter-gender relations -- something that is pretty much expected in teenagers and young adults.

I couldn't have said it any better myself, thank you Weird Harold.

 

[redrock911]

Weird Harold

I agree, well said.

 

[millieteases]

Welcome to the real world, one where people don't all start their sex lives at 13 and have bedded as many women as a porn actor by 18. You're normal. Be happy about it. Listen to what the other people here are saying. They've got it right, mostly.

Just be yourself, be sweet and relax. Remember that the girls who aren't supermodels may well be more interesting than the ones who are. And some can turn into supermodels overnight - it's mostly a matter of makeup, lighting, good underwear and a little exercise. Treat everyone with respect and kindness and you'll be surprised how far you can go in life and love.

Good luck.

 

[TruPlaya]

Re: Re: Please help this 18 m virgin

All you need to do is stop thinking about girls as potential sex partners and start thinking of them as people you'd like to get to know. When you find the right girl, the sex will just come naturally.

I really like that line.

Thanks for that.

 

[princessa]

shyness isn't necessarily bad... but you can help yourself by trying... next time you see a girl, make yourself say hi... the time after, say hi and introduce yourself... just build up your courage by doing little things that will become bigger in time...

besides... some girls like shy boys...

 

[David112]

I'm in the same place as you. I'm coming on 19 and I just had my first EVER girlfriend. My first real kiss, the first person I could go to and know I can hold her in my arms.

That may sound sad to everyone in my peer group, and to be honest I was ashamed of it. I wish I could tell you that it'll all be alright, but I guess some personalities are less likely to get girlfriends than others.

I've tried long and hard to make the big jump from friend to girlfriend, even tried to change my personality but it's not that easy.

Truth is it's hard. Very hard. At least it has been for me.

Keep at it, I'm sure we'll find happyness one day. Don't be bitter...

 

[peachykeen]

go easy on yourself tru

all in good time

remember antyhing worth having is worth waiting for

 

[Guest]

hey you know there are alot of girs in the same boat as you

look i'm 18 female and a virgin and its not like i've been with out oppertunities. it's just sometimes your not ready for whatever reason

I'm cool with going off to collage a virgin (or what ever the next stage in your life is) i just don't get why guys feel the need to do it so young.

look you'll be great when the time is right for you, chances are your first will also be a virgin so chill

 

[TruPlaya]

thanks alot for the support people.

The reason I spose im getting picky on myself is being im going to university now (Australian equivalent of college) and I seem to be surrounded by alot more girls than I used to be.

For my highschooling I went to an all boys school, which is sorta good, but in terms of moulding me into a sociopath isnt as good.

I wish I was just friendlier with girls.

I have no problems going up to a guy and talking about whatever, but chicks...I need a massive hit of confidence before I even contemplate it

 

[MidnightsANGEL]

I have 2 very good male friends...one is 22, one is 25...who are both virgins....both are "waiting for the right girl" and I respect them immensely for it. A lot of guys hit a certain age and see losing their virginity as something that's required...and most of them regret their first time because it didn't mean anything...

Good luck to you and RELAX!! Most of the girls feel the same way you do!!

 

[Star of Penumbra]

I REALLY wish I were in your situation.

I lost my virginity when I was 16 to a girl I didn't love. I really regret that, and I wish I had waited until I met somebody I could really connect with.

Don't be in such a big rush. Being an 18 year old virgin is NOT, I repeat, NOT a bad thing.

Anyway, if you really want to get a date, just go up and ask her. Expecially if her friends are around, because if you strike out with your first choice, then her friends already know that you aren't afraid to go after what you want.

Even if she says no, you've still made an impression on her friends.