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just want to add my two cents, after having read this thread all the way through...
you HAVE to find a way to meet soon. I got caught up in the intimacy of LDR... phone calls all the time, email, chat, etc. But those forms of communication also leave out the reality of being with a person face to face, seeing his face as he talks to you, looking into his eyes, and all the other body language, habits and nuances that are so important in discovering love with another person.
You have probably built up the sexual tension to the point where it cannot go wrong, because its so easy to share your needs and desires when not face to face, body to body. That's the good news. The bad news is that you have also idealized so much about the physical side, and you know that needs constant work.
That's just one example of how different things can be face to face. But there's so much more, such as whether you are impressed or embarrassed by the way he treats a waitress when ordering food. Or whether you feel secure or nervous when he drives. I could go on and on...
The point is, the longer you experience this LDR in its idealized form, the greater chance for a letdown face to face. I wish you the best, but cannot stress enough the need to know your man in the flesh.
you HAVE to find a way to meet soon. I got caught up in the intimacy of LDR... phone calls all the time, email, chat, etc. But those forms of communication also leave out the reality of being with a person face to face, seeing his face as he talks to you, looking into his eyes, and all the other body language, habits and nuances that are so important in discovering love with another person.
You have probably built up the sexual tension to the point where it cannot go wrong, because its so easy to share your needs and desires when not face to face, body to body. That's the good news. The bad news is that you have also idealized so much about the physical side, and you know that needs constant work.
That's just one example of how different things can be face to face. But there's so much more, such as whether you are impressed or embarrassed by the way he treats a waitress when ordering food. Or whether you feel secure or nervous when he drives. I could go on and on...
The point is, the longer you experience this LDR in its idealized form, the greater chance for a letdown face to face. I wish you the best, but cannot stress enough the need to know your man in the flesh.
