Please designate a "Lit Buddy" that knows who you are in real life.

[Roxanne Appleby]

I urge my fellow litizens to designate a "lit buddy" who you completely trust, and give that person your real world identity and contact info. If anything were to happen to keep you away for a prolonged period, God forbid, people would be worried and have no way to find out. A lit buddy would know how to find out, and could report. You don't have to disclose who your buddy is, but can if you both want to. You probably should ask first before laying this charge on someone. It is not necessary that this be a reciprocal disclosure.

I did this after Colly died. If I were to get hit by a truck tomorrow and suddenly disappear, there is someone here who knows how to find out what happened to me.

This is not the only way to deal with this issue, but I suspect it is the most reliable.

 

[TheeGoatPig]

I'll just leave a note on my PC that says if anything bad happens to me for someone to post in all of my communities about it (I have a lot of forums, and a Live Journal, and stuff, they all deserve to know ).

 

[angelicminx]

Who wants to volunteer to be my Lit Buddy?

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

Who wants to volunteer to be my Lit Buddy?

I'm not sure, but I think you have to ask someone, because the defining characteristic is that you trust the person to honor your confidentiality. Most people would feel presumptuous to volunteer.

 

[Alessia Brio]

Done. Multiple times.

Bel knows me best. But L&V, Vana, M&M, Becca, Jammies, ABG & Mal, ABS, cloudy, SJ, logo, and maybe a few others also know how to reach me offline.

 

[Aurora Black]

I have a few, but most likely A would be the one to share the news.

 

[oggbashan]

I don't think there is anyone on Lit who would know from Lit-independent sources if Og were to die.

One of my family would have to be my literary executor. I'll leave a note with my will explaining what needs to be done...

Og

 

[FallingToFly]

Recidiva, Aurora, my Pyxie, 672...

There are a lot of people who know how to get a hold of me, and most of them have my passwords. But just in case, I already had a list of logins, passwords, names and sites to contact to share the news, lol.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

I have a few, but most likely A would be the one to share the news.

"A" has done so before when you were absent - thank you A.

One detail to think about: The lit buddy probably shoudn't be someone who might be hit by the same proverbial truck at the same time you are. I.E., shouldn't be a spouse, S.O., etc.

 

[scheherazade_79]

I have absolutely no intention of dying for quite a while, but if it happens I'll see to it that I go out in a way that makes frontpage news - or at least page 3 in The Sun

You'll all know it's me

 

[oggbashan]

An aside

It is probably more important in Real Life.

Years ago one of my older employees died suddenly at work. No one knew who the next of kin was until we pulled his file from the Personnel system. The two names on file had predeceased him, one of them by ten years.

Eventually there had to be a police-assisted break-in to his flat to try to find some indication about who would want to know that he had died, who was his next of kin, who would inherit, and who needed to know.

It took a long time to find out that the only relation he was in contact with was a great-nephew who used to visit a couple of times a year. The great-nephew was surprised to find that he was the ONLY visitor and had assumed that his great-uncle was in contact with the rest of the largish family.

The family came to the funeral - about 80 of them. Apart from the great-nephew, none had visited him, or been visited by him, for at least 15 years.

The great-nephew was left a small part of the estate. The rest was distributed between the other relations.

One of them said: "He knew where we were: we knew where he was. That was enough for us. Why visit if you've nothing to say?"

The employee was really missed by his colleagues. He had been involved in organising many social events and outings and had been the life and soul of many a party. He just couldn't stand his relations...

Og

 

[ungenderless]

I don't have any real life LIT buddies.

 

[FallingToFly]

I don't have any real life LIT buddies.

*hugs*

 

[R. Richard]

I must politely decline to participate. I suspect that, if another Litizen knew who I really am, they would run screaming from the room.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

I don't have any real life LIT buddies.

You will.

You are likeable and interesting. Relationships will form in time.

 

[Roxanne Appleby]

I must politely decline to participate. I suspect that, if another Litizen knew who I really am, they would run screaming from the room.

Relax - we already know that you are really Karl Rove.

 

[Skip1934a]

There are two who could reach me, either by mail or phone. One, the only one I will mention, is FTF. She has a phone number. The other has, or had, my mailing address, but would not likely respond. Oh, Sophia jane might have my mailing address and real name due to the Secret Santa project.

None would know my real life situation, but could inquire.

 

[sophia jane]

Like Imp, I have several. The main one being Logo, but there are several folks here who have all my real life info. The ex, too, would also let y'all know, if need be.

 

[TxRad]

I have a few on here and they know who they are....

Litogethers are places to make great friends....

 

[Nirvanadragones]

Abs knows too much about me

 

[English Lady]

I must politely decline to participate. I suspect that, if another Litizen knew who I really am, they would run screaming from the room.

knew it -you ARE cookie monster!!!



A few folks have my address and a couple my phone details. My Mitnik would let people know if 'owt happened to me, though. He's good like that

 

[ungenderless]

You will.

You are likeable and interesting. Relationships will form in time.

Thank you, you're sweet.

To be honest, I've already had a...rather forward offer from someone to hook up (I declined). Does that happen often around here?

 

[Zeb_Carter]

There are several peeps that should know how to contact me or the family to find out about me...that's if they would want to find out though.

As TxRad said...Litogethers are great places to make friends.

 

[CrimsonMaiden]

Done. Multiple times.

Bel knows me best. But L&V, Vana, M&M, Becca, Jammies, ABG & Mal, ABS, cloudy, SJ, logo, and maybe a few others also know how to reach me offline.

This makes me sad. Not for you but that I have no one like that.

 

[Trombonus]

I don't have any real life LIT buddies.

Same here, I'd be surprised if any of my friends were on here. Although, I got into a discussion with two of my more open minded friends yesterday and admitted to writing stories online. Perhaps I'll ask one of them. Not that I plan on dying any time soon.