please delete

[Officelady1]

No thank you

 

[Bbl87]

I responded in your other thread as well, but since you asked for favorite cheating storeis, feel free to read mine and LMK what you think.

https://www.literotica.com/stories/memberpage.php?uid=6617387&page=submissions

 

[Midsmale69]

Hello everyone! I’m a relatively new writer on Literotica. I’ve been documenting my life and journey of sexual discovery and posting it on Literotica. However, I’m learning that people are VERY against cheating, almost to a toxic level. I thought all fetishes were encouraged and accepted here.

Has anyone else run into that? And while we’re at it, share your favorite cheating stories

Hello....you might enjoy one of mine https://www.literotica.com/s/bored-british-wife

 

[yukonnights]

I read Ch. 01 of My Coworkers Steal My Clothes — I think there are some things that would make the ones who enjoy a "cheating story" like your stories better. Honestly, I'm impressed with you output. I've only read the one, and it was fun and easy to read.

That said, the feedback is of two types; The 2 most recent are useless and in my opinion you should remove those.

There were some useful comments as well. One spoke of the story as being a bit short — I agree with this. In general, I've found that readers enjoy and reward a story where they can learn about what motivates a character — why does the character do what they're doing, etc. In this story, one wonders why she did what she did, etc. One way to fill in such details/information is through the use of interior feelings, emotions, doubts, fears, etc. — anything that helps the reader better understand the character.

Just a made up example of that; It seemed a good plan — but now my stomach is flip-flopping. I see my race in my mind — breathe — just breath. It's now or never. I begin my journey now — or never....

Hope some of this is helpful and best wishes as you go forward!

 

[Britva415]

I’m learning that people are VERY against cheating, almost to a toxic level.

The "Loving Wives" category is where the worst of this toxicity is.

If you stay away from it, you might still get some one-bombs and shitty comments in other categories too, but hey, you aren't writing this stuff for the assholes.

In other words, who gives a damn what they do.

 

[Differentendeavours]

Hello everyone! I’m a relatively new writer on Literotica. I’ve been documenting my life and journey of sexual discovery and posting it on Literotica. However, I’m learning that people are VERY against cheating, almost to a toxic level. I thought all fetishes were encouraged and accepted here.

Has anyone else run into that? And while we’re at it, share your favorite cheating stories

You will take your lumps but there is definitely an audience!

 

[shinybikiniwife]

Hello everyone! I’m a relatively new writer on Literotica. I’ve been documenting my life and journey of sexual discovery and posting it on Literotica. However, I’m learning that people are VERY against cheating, almost to a toxic level. I thought all fetishes were encouraged and accepted here.

Has anyone else run into that? And while we’re at it, share your favorite cheating stories

What? On a site with stories and chat dominated by incest topics, cheating is taboo?!

 

[PastMaster]

Hello everyone! I’m a relatively new writer on Literotica. I’ve been documenting my life and journey of sexual discovery and posting it on Literotica. However, I’m learning that people are VERY against cheating, almost to a toxic level. I thought all fetishes were encouraged and accepted here.

Has anyone else run into that? And while we’re at it, share your favorite cheating stories

HI lady.
I can only speak for myself but although i have written a number of LW stories, I alwasy go the BTB way. Mainly because the thought of my own wife cheating on me engenders such a visceral feeling of hurt and rage, that I struggle to read a cheating story without those feelings.
(Just FYI my first marriage ended due to her infidelity so I guess i'm scarred that way)
I dont know if that is why anyone else is against it, but that is my experience.
I'm sorry if our negative experience is hurting you, I certainly don't mean it to, but I can't help the way I feel.

Good luck

PM

 

[Differentendeavours]

HI lady.
I can only speak for myself but although i have written a number of LW stories, I alwasy go the BTB way. Mainly because the thought of my own wife cheating on me engenders such a visceral feeling of hurt and rage, that I struggle to read a cheating story without those feelings.
(Just FYI my first marriage ended due to her infidelity so I guess i'm scarred that way)
I dont know if that is why anyone else is against it, but that is my experience.
I'm sorry if our negative experience is hurting you, I certainly don't mean it to, but I can't help the way I feel.

Good luck

PM

You make good points. I would say that context is everything though. To me, a story about a struggling marriage that leads to cheating and the end of the relationship , is not sexy at all, and neither is deception and/or cruelty.
However, I think stories about individuals succumbing to temptation, even if it means being unfaithful to their partner, can be really hot, if told well. There can be all kinds of extenuating circumstances involved when one person in a relationship "cheats" on the other.
I don't endorse cheating, but the notion of someone " giving in to temptation" can be really hot. Everyone's personal story is unique. But much of popular media has been driven by the exploration of temptation and where it can lead. Soap operas are a case in point. If everyone stayed faithful on those shows, who would watch?

 

[lil_jenni]

My one and only published story to date involves cheating. But while I've received a couple of mean spirited comments, they are nothing like the ones I saw when I looked at your stories. Perhaps it's because your stories are presented as true confessions and mine was a fantasy. I wonder if that riles up the insecure misogynists more.

 

[OverconfidentSarcasm]

I thought all fetishes were encouraged and accepted here.

First of all:
No. While the site itself already blacklists quite a few topics, it also will remove whatever the readers find "disruptive".

While the LW-Category is specifically about extramarital fun, the submissions vary in intensity. They go all the way from the simple description of the erotic act, to elaborate plots of betrayal, torture, and even murder of a spouse. So, naturally, it's hard to please the crowd in a category like that, if the crowd is so widespread.

I just took a look at one of your stories for example: "Cheated on my Husband at the Bar".

Honestly, there is nothing likable about your Character. She thinks her husband's desire to celebrate their anniversary is silly. When they make plans to go on a date, she shows up so late he's had enough time to be well on his way to be drunk, and then goes dancing without him after she barely spoke a word to him. As soon as a big strong guy even so much as touches her, she is putty in his hands, can't speak, and lets him do whatever he wants. Finally, she decides she needs more of that, while we learn nothing about what the husband did or saw.

So, who is this meant to appeal to, other than women who fantasize about cheating on and disregarding their husbands? And you're surprised everyone else, who didn't fit that specific description, left unfavourable comments? But sure, they must all be...

...insecure misogynists

Now, don't get me wrong. There ARE people enjoying your story, and if writing about it makes you happy, just turn the comments off and continue! But you can't expect less backlash when writing about a topic like that.

Here's what I came to think: It's not that complicated.

The subset of people who actually enjoy being cheated on and/or cuckolded, is surprisingly small! On the other hand, the subset of people who have been cheated and downright shat on in a relationship, is surprisingly high. So, a significant amount of the people clicking on the LW-Category enjoy Revenge-Stories. That's the stories that do fairly well in there pretty quickly, and rarely have to deal with One-Bombers.

I personally suspect its a self-insert thing. Studies suggest, most people enjoying (Porn-)stories are empathetic readers. They actually feel for the characters they are presented. If you don't enjoy cheating on someone, you will naturally feel for the other character who's being cheated on, and likewise condemn the cheater.

 

[PastMaster]

My one and only published story to date involves cheating. But while I've received a couple of mean spirited comments, they are nothing like the ones I saw when I looked at your stories. Perhaps it's because your stories are presented as true confessions and mine was a fantasy. I wonder if that riles up the insecure misogynists more.

Do you seriously suggest that every man who objects to the woman who is supposed to have a relationship with sleeping with someone else is an insecure misogynist? Does it then follow that if a woman objects to her man fooling around, that she is an insecury androgynist, or is he just a cheating asshole.
Just curious.

PM

 

[Priscilla_June]

I posted a hotwife/cuckold story today. At first it was really high up with a significant amount of votes. Then it took a really hard down turn with what I can only assume are 1 bombs due to the topic of the story. I even got comments like “rubbish” which I’ve gotten on stories similar to that theme.

I know Im not supposes to take ratings too seriously. Most everyone says that on Lit as well as people who have been around. But then how do you get to be top rated? Win competitions? How do you gauge that without looking at ratings?

Its a bit discouraging as a new writer, I may need to bite the bullet again and ask for direct feedback. I had people I know read it and they said they loved it? So Im not sure of the disconnect.

 

[lil_jenni]

Do you seriously suggest that every man who objects to the woman who is supposed to have a relationship with sleeping with someone else is an insecure misogynist? Does it then follow that if a woman objects to her man fooling around, that she is an insecury androgynist, or is he just a cheating asshole.
Just curious.

PM

Nope, you brought that to what I wrote. I wrote that I wonder if cheating wife stories rile up insecure misogynists who then post hateful comments. So I won't be engaging in your straw argument nonsense.

 

[ofbuttons]

Do you seriously suggest that every man who objects to the woman who is supposed to have a relationship with sleeping with someone else is an insecure misogynist? Does it then follow that if a woman objects to her man fooling around, that she is an insecury androgynist, or is he just a cheating asshole.
Just curious.

PM

The thing, though, is we're talking about fiction. Free, optional fiction.

Your feelings are valid. If you read a story about infidelity, it is perfectly legitimate to hate it, to remember your own experiences and feel sickened, to find the story morally reprehensible. But the characters in it are not real (and sorry, having read a little bit of OP's work, I doubt any of it is real because no one behaves like these characters -- but I respect the sales pitch!), and the story you read cost you nothing but a few minutes of your life, and that's assuming you went to the trouble of reading it instead of realising it's not for you and moving on.

I know what kind of stories out there aren't for me, and I don't engage with them. And while I'm not suggesting you do this, PastMaster, a lot of guys in your position will 1-bomb, flame, and abuse an author in defense of a fictional man being treated badly. Which is wild to me.

I also think Sarkasmus made a lot of legitimate points and constructive feedback -- I'm not really defending OPs stories and ratings, on the level of construction.

However, I'm speaking to a wider trend of women (and men) writing some niche fantasy stuff about infidelity and men who actively seek it out to project themselves in it and verbally abuse them. That's misogynistic behaviour, thinking it's okay to tell a woman to get cunt-punched in defense of a fictional character, the latter of which they value more than the living breathing person who wrote it. Sorry, nothing justifies comments that wish sexual assault and death on an author, and it's disgusting these comments pass whatever flimsy moderation is in place, and I'm sorry it happened to you, Officelady1.

 

[lil_jenni]

I was in the middle of writing another post, but the below quote said it for me:

However, I'm speaking to a wider trend of women (and men) writing some niche fantasy stuff about infidelity and men who actively seek it out to project themselves in it and verbally abuse them. That's misogynistic behaviour, thinking it's okay to tell a woman to get cunt-punched in defense of a fictional character, the latter of which they value more than the living breathing person who wrote it. Sorry, nothing justifies comments that wish sexual assault and death on an author, and it's disgusting these comments pass whatever flimsy moderation is in place, and I'm sorry it happened to you, Officelady1

Yeppers.

 

[Priscilla_June]

The thing, though, is we're talking about fiction. Free, optional fiction.

Your feelings are valid. If you read a story about infidelity, it is perfectly legitimate to hate it, to remember your own experiences and feel sickened, to find the story morally reprehensible. But the characters in it are not real (and sorry, having read a little bit of OP's work, I doubt any of it is real because no one behaves like these characters -- but I respect the sales pitch!), and the story you read cost you nothing but a few minutes of your life, and that's assuming you went to the trouble of reading it instead of realising it's not for you and moving on.

I know what kind of stories out there aren't for me, and I don't engage with them. And while I'm not suggesting you do this, PastMaster, a lot of guys in your position will 1-bomb, flame, and abuse an author in defense of a fictional man being treated badly. Which is wild to me.

I also think Sarkasmus made a lot of legitimate points and constructive feedback -- I'm not really defending OPs stories and ratings, on the level of construction.

However, I'm speaking to a wider trend of women (and men) writing some niche fantasy stuff about infidelity and men who actively seek it out to project themselves in it and verbally abuse them. That's misogynistic behaviour, thinking it's okay to tell a woman to get cunt-punched in defense of a fictional character, the latter of which they value more than the living breathing person who wrote it. Sorry, nothing justifies comments that wish sexual assault and death on an author, and it's disgusting these comments pass whatever flimsy moderation is in place, and I'm sorry it happened to you, Officelady1.

Well said

 

[Differentendeavours]

The thing, though, is we're talking about fiction. Free, optional fiction.

Your feelings are valid. If you read a story about infidelity, it is perfectly legitimate to hate it, to remember your own experiences and feel sickened, to find the story morally reprehensible. But the characters in it are not real (and sorry, having read a little bit of OP's work, I doubt any of it is real because no one behaves like these characters -- but I respect the sales pitch!), and the story you read cost you nothing but a few minutes of your life, and that's assuming you went to the trouble of reading it instead of realising it's not for you and moving on.

I know what kind of stories out there aren't for me, and I don't engage with them. And while I'm not suggesting you do this, PastMaster, a lot of guys in your position will 1-bomb, flame, and abuse an author in defense of a fictional man being treated badly. Which is wild to me.

I also think Sarkasmus made a lot of legitimate points and constructive feedback -- I'm not really defending OPs stories and ratings, on the level of construction.

However, I'm speaking to a wider trend of women (and men) writing some niche fantasy stuff about infidelity and men who actively seek it out to project themselves in it and verbally abuse them. That's misogynistic behaviour, thinking it's okay to tell a woman to get cunt-punched in defense of a fictional character, the latter of which they value more than the living breathing person who wrote it. Sorry, nothing justifies comments that wish sexual assault and death on an author, and it's disgusting these comments pass whatever flimsy moderation is in place, and I'm sorry it happened to you, Officelady1.

Well said.

 

[lil_jenni]

I will write one more thing on this. The OP's stories have titles that strongly indicate the type of content found within. That should serve as a warning to potential readers.

Unfortunately, my story is not.like that (although I did put a warning in my signature with the link to it), and it is in the BDSM category, where cheating may not be expected. So, if/when I post another story that involves cheating, I will put the warning upfront so people know. I think that is fair, because I can understand why a reader might feel upset or tricked if the reader realizes part way through a story that it involves cheating.

 

[PastMaster]

The thing, though, is we're talking about fiction. Free, optional fiction.

Your feelings are valid. If you read a story about infidelity, it is perfectly legitimate to hate it, to remember your own experiences and feel sickened, to find the story morally reprehensible. But the characters in it are not real (and sorry, having read a little bit of OP's work, I doubt any of it is real because no one behaves like these characters -- but I respect the sales pitch!), and the story you read cost you nothing but a few minutes of your life, and that's assuming you went to the trouble of reading it instead of realising it's not for you and moving on.

I know what kind of stories out there aren't for me, and I don't engage with them. And while I'm not suggesting you do this, PastMaster, a lot of guys in your position will 1-bomb, flame, and abuse an author in defense of a fictional man being treated badly. Which is wild to me.

I also think Sarkasmus made a lot of legitimate points and constructive feedback -- I'm not really defending OPs stories and ratings, on the level of construction.

However, I'm speaking to a wider trend of women (and men) writing some niche fantasy stuff about infidelity and men who actively seek it out to project themselves in it and verbally abuse them. That's misogynistic behaviour, thinking it's okay to tell a woman to get cunt-punched in defense of a fictional character, the latter of which they value more than the living breathing person who wrote it. Sorry, nothing justifies comments that wish sexual assault and death on an author, and it's disgusting these comments pass whatever flimsy moderation is in place, and I'm sorry it happened to you, Officelady1.

Fully agree@ofbuttons I have, myself been on the receiving end of the knuckledraggers, who, as you say verbally abuse the author, having read a story they knew would trigger them. It is assumed that these commentors are male but that in itself is not certain, since the cowards never stand behind their words, and always post anonymously.

 

[thomas1965]

However, I think stories about individuals succumbing to temptation, even if it means being unfaithful to their partner, can be really hot, if told well.

I agree, if the tempted person gives in only after quite a long struggle and maybe with lots of guilt afterwards.

 

[RedLegoDragon]

Hello everyone! I’m a relatively new writer on Literotica. I’ve been documenting my life and journey of sexual discovery and posting it on Literotica. However, I’m learning that people are VERY against cheating, almost to a toxic level. I thought all fetishes were encouraged and accepted here.

Strange. Maybe it's the circles I've been hanging around in since I started writing on Lit but I've rarely seen any toxicity towards cheating (just writers who post obnoxiously long stories )

Has anyone else run into that? And while we’re at it, share your favorite cheating stories

Shout outs to @The_shadow_rising, who writes exclusively cheating stories, and @westerntiger, who has one or two amongst his incredible collection of stories. A Weekend Adventure is a personal favourite of mine, as well.

Finally a shameless bit of self-promotion: I currently have four cheating stories up on my profile, with one more in the pipeline.

So, if/when I post another story that involves cheating, I will put the warning upfront so people know. I think that is fair, because I can understand why a reader might feel upset or tricked if the reader realizes part way through a story that it involves cheating.

I've been doing this with my stories, mainly because they're very long and it takes a while before a reader might realise what type of story they're reading. I don't want people to feel like they've wasted their time, or (even worse) feel tricked into reading something that would be uncomfortable to them. Yeah, you can argue that's what tags are for, but the layout of Lit doesn't make a story's tags immediately obvious.

 

[Seadog777]

Hello everyone! I’m a relatively new writer on Literotica. I’ve been documenting my life and journey of sexual discovery and posting it on Literotica. However, I’m learning that people are VERY against cheating, almost to a toxic level. I thought all fetishes were encouraged and accepted here.

Has anyone else run into that? And while we’re at it, share your favorite cheating stories

Of course people are "VERY against cheating". Who the fuck wants to feel that kind of devastating heartache.

A person can be "accepting" of things in a fictional world but not in real life.

Anyway, I hope you have a wonderful Sunday.

 

[LiverpoolMaster]

Of course people are "VERY against cheating". Who the fuck wants to feel that kind of devastating heartache.

A person can be "accepting" of things in a fictional world but not in real life.

Anyway, I hope you have a wonderful Sunday.

Can they indeed?

There is actually an amazingly prevalent tendency among Lit. contributors to confuse real life and the world of the imagination.

Yes, you would think, would you not, that people who are supposed to be involved in writing fiction might just be aware that there is a difference? Not so, apparently, to judge by the antics of one member a little while back who insisted that the mere act of imagining a fictional rape scenario was "promoting acceptance of rape in the real world". No, honestly... that's what they were asserting. Rolling eyes to the Nth doesn't get even halfway there with such people, I'm afraid.

As for infidelity, this has always been one of my favourite themes and I've written about it within numerous contexts and scenarios. A grade A, top notch driving force for erotic tales.

 

[Seadog777]

Can they indeed?

There is actually an amazingly prevalent tendency among Lit. contributors to confuse real life and the world of the imagination.

Yes, you would think, would you not, that people who are supposed to be involved in writing fiction might just be aware that there is a difference? Not so, apparently, to judge by the antics of one member a little while back who insisted that the mere act of imagining a fictional rape scenario was "promoting acceptance of rape in the real world". No, honestly... that's what they were asserting. Rolling eyes to the Nth doesn't get even halfway there with such people, I'm afraid.

As for infidelity, this has always been one of my favourite themes and I've written about it within numerous contexts and scenarios. A grade A, top notch driving force for erotic tales.

I think that as society "evolves" (more like devolves IMPO), they are confusing the real world with fictional world.
I write about adultery as well.
As someone who experienced it firsthand, I have a damn good understanding of how complicated it is.