Please allow me to bitch!

[barn888]

I rarely start threads here, I just respond to other's threads and I rarely bitch but thanks to a muscle pull I'm in pain today so what the hell! Do you ever feel like you'll never find someone? That special person to spend the rest of your life with? I'm 34 years old and have never been married, I have alot of health issues so I'm limited in where I can go, I don't meet alot of women, I do have many female friends and they care about me and stuff but they'd never consider me marrige material, health-wise and financially I'm just not a good catch, I'm not putting myself down, I think I'm nice and I try to be funny but those things don't get a soulmate, I don't know, maybe my life would be simpler if I just accepted my limitations and stopped looking for someone, at least I could cut some disappointment out of my life that way. Oh well, thanks for letting me bitch!

 

[tendril]

Bitch away Barn ! But never give up hope of finding someone, it's going to happen when you least expect it !

 

[barn888]

Thank you tendril, you're very sweet!

 

[Bachlum Chaam]

I rarely start threads here, I just respond to other's threads and I rarely bitch but thanks to a muscle pull I'm in pain today so what the hell! Do you ever feel like you'll never find someone? That special person to spend the rest of your life with? I'm 34 years old and have never been married, I have alot of health issues so I'm limited in where I can go, I don't meet alot of women, I do have many female friends and they care about me and stuff but they'd never consider me marrige material, health-wise and financially I'm just not a good catch, I'm not putting myself down, I think I'm nice and I try to be funny but those things don't get a soulmate, I don't know, maybe my life would be simpler if I just accepted my limitations and stopped looking for someone, at least I could cut some disappointment out of my life that way. Oh well, thanks for letting me bitch!

Sir may I say I am a married man,in truth that special lady I have never met in person,since I came to LIt there is a chance I may have spoken to her,I have never "met "anyone that I have clicked with as this lady.
I am older than you also with health problems,to boot I am an ocean away from my lady,I only have the belief that I shall meet her in the end,should that happen I feel we could "click".
To you sir I say that never in my life have I met ladies like the ones on Lit,to you there will be here a lady to make your heart sing with whom you will find great joy.
Always fight sir and never give in.
greetings Bachlum Chaam

 

[cookiejar]

Barn...Tendril is right. Keep looking, you sound like a real sweetheart and the right girl will see it. Saying prayers for your health to improve....chin up!! Oh btw...bitch all you like....I may bitch with you....

 

[barn888]

Thanks so much Bachlum!!!!!

 

[barn888]

LOL, cookie, you're a sweetheart! You may bitch with me anytime sweetie.

 

[silkynsmooth]

I rarely start threads here, I just respond to other's threads and I rarely bitch but thanks to a muscle pull I'm in pain today so what the hell! Do you ever feel like you'll never find someone? That special person to spend the rest of your life with? I'm 34 years old and have never been married, I have alot of health issues so I'm limited in where I can go, I don't meet alot of women, I do have many female friends and they care about me and stuff but they'd never consider me marrige material, health-wise and financially I'm just not a good catch, I'm not putting myself down, I think I'm nice and I try to be funny but those things don't get a soulmate, I don't know, maybe my life would be simpler if I just accepted my limitations and stopped looking for someone, at least I could cut some disappointment out of my life that way. Oh well, thanks for letting me bitch!

Barn - You can bitch all you want because your not alone. Now mister....don't you give up. You can be and do anything you want if you put your mind to it darlin. You are a strong person from what i've learned about you from talking to you. I don't know about your health problems but that is no reason to think you can't be loved or wanted. Everyone deserves and should be loved and you will be. Don't rush it it will findyou when you least expect it. You are above alot others I know and I can see some lucky woman falling in love withyou darlin. Hugs and kisses to you. Always your friend!!!!

 

[Native Alien]

may i suggest a Lit bitch in and we can all take turns just getting all the bitching out of our system.

barn, honey, you just bitch away but, never, ever, give up hope. that special someone will show up just when you least expect it.

 

[barn888]

Thank you Silky, you've been so sweet to me since I joined Lit, you're a wonderful person!

 

[barn888]

Thank you very much Native Alien, I try not to give up but sometimes it's hard not to get down, it helps alot to have nice people like you to talk to though!

 

[tigerjen]

Barn,

You are exercising your 1st Amendment rights of freedom
of speech and freedom of expression........feel free to bitch,
feel free to pour out your feelings..........there are many
of us on here who have a listening ear


tigerjen

 

[barn888]

Thank you tigerjen!

 

[Hornymama]

I'm not onon for long friend but i noticed your thread and had to post...From what I have talked with you any woman would be very lucky to have you as her soulmate...You must remember it's not wealth or looks or such as that that makes the person who they are...It's what's inside and I think you have a world of good things and much love to offer...what more could someone want...don't give up....she's out there...

Many hugs to you Barn....

 

[barn888]

Awwwwww, you're gonna make me cry H'mama! Thank you so much sweetie!

 

[MsAngel]

Barn,

My dear sweet friend. Everyone here is right. I may not know most of them very well but I know Silky, Hmama and Native well enough to know they wouldn't be just telling you that to make you feel better and I know for a fact that they don't sugar coat anything!

You are a special man with a heart made of gold. Your laughter is contagious and your hugs are plentiful. I may not be the soulmate your looking for, I'm sorry that I'm not. I know out there is going to be a very lucky woman to have the love you have to give. And when you finally meet her and you look her in the eyes, you will feel the most wonderful feeling grow through out your body. You will forget all about the lonely years that it took to find that special someone.

Now close your eyes for a moment (after of course you read what I tell you to do next) and imagine my arms wrapping around you giving you the biggest hug possible.

Never forget the person you are or try to be something your not in hopes to finding love. Just be yourself and love yourself and I am positive that love will come knocking on your door when you least expect it!

 

[starkpic]

Hello Barn, I think the response from these wonderful ladies of Lit and from Sir Bachlum says it all; here are people who care and they care enough to write these messages. I've only just noticed this thread, others will miss it who would have written, no doubt. My problem is depression and having to care for someone else but ladies are canny beings and, in my opinion, are generally better at seeing the true merit of an individual beyond the 'public disguise' than we males are. My best friends are females and I am not in, of attempting to be in, sexual relations with them for that would spoil our friendship, which I value so highly. Having female friends is itself a wonderful thing and other relationships may come easier thereafter.
I know this is not a proper answer but these are my thoughts.
Best wishes, Barns.

Hello to all you kind ladies

 

[~Dream~]

hiya stark sweety,hugggs !! anyways as for you Barn dear..hmmm where do I start?/ I am 46 yrs old have had 4 failed marriages and lots of FAILED relationships before and after , however I do wear my heart on my sleeve and NEVER quit tryin ,I did meet a wonderful man on Lit just last May who was more of a mentor to me than anything really , he passed away in January of cancer, however he was still a great guy ,just NOT the right one for me ,so we broke up inOcT OF 2002...It was a very good thing we did ,I met the love of my life literally at the Aussie thread in Oct., even tho he is American and from Virginia,he's alot younger than me granted ,however He and I have fallen in love with each other after months of talking both online and on phone and he has been to meet me and my children here in Mich.as well,to make a long story shorter ,he's moving here w/ me in 20 days and I'm telling you NEVER give up your dreams!!!!!!! be yourself,you seem like a real sweety, and always treat others as you want to be treated,TRUST and HONESTy and COMMUNICATION,thats the foundation, besides RESPECT in Dracoa's and my relationship ..I wish you all the love, luck and happiness That I myself have found ...bigg huggs & kisses to you

 

[barn888]

Thank you so much Angel, you're friendship has meant alot to me sweetie!

 

[barn888]

Thanks starpic, I appritiate the encouragement.

 

[barn888]

Thank you so much Dream, it means alot.

 

[starkpic]

hiya stark sweety,hugggs !! anyways as for you Barn dear..hmmm where do I start?/ I am 46 yrs old have had 4 failed marriages and lots of FAILED relationships before and after , however I do wear my heart on my sleeve and NEVER quit tryin ,I did meet a wonderful man on Lit just last May who was more of a mentor to me than anything really , he passed away in January of cancer, however he was still a great guy ,just NOT the right one for me ,so we broke up inOcT OF 2002...It was a very good thing we did ,I met the love of my life literally at the Aussie thread in Oct., even tho he is American and from Virginia,he's alot younger than me granted ,however He and I have fallen in love with each other after months of talking both online and on phone and he has been to meet me and my children here in Mich.as well,to make a long story shorter ,he's moving here w/ me in 20 days and I'm telling you NEVER give up your dreams!!!!!!! be yourself,you seem like a real sweety, and always treat others as you want to be treated,TRUST and HONESTy and COMMUNICATION,thats the foundation, besides RESPECT in Dracoa's and my relationship ..I wish you all the love, luck and happiness That I myself have found ...bigg huggs & kisses to you

Hello Dream Thanks for your story; I'm pleased you're happy now. BTW, Trust & Honesty were the virtues I tried to project through my photographic work when, initially I started shooting the nude studies.

Hi Barn! Its good to see how these kind folk show their concern

 

[barn888]

Hey Starkpic, good to see ya, hope you are having a great day!

 

[starkpic]

Hey Starkpic, good to see ya, hope you are having a great day!

Thankee, mon ami! All the better for seeing thee

 

[barn888]