Planning a scene

[Lain]

I've heard a number of people say that having a script for a scene is a really good idea. I was wondering how detailed those scripts tend to be? I mean, do you plan things down to the minute? Do you plot the layout of the room, plan what you're going to say? Or is it just a general outline of what you want to get accomplished?

Or is it just something you have in your head?

I'd love to see an example of a script if someone wouldn't mind posting one. I'm gearing up for my first full scene and I want everything to go perfectly so I'll probably plan the hell out of it.

Lain

 

[Lain]

I was gone all weekend and yet no replies...
I hope I didn't say anything wrong.



Lain

 

[cymbidia]

No, Lain, nothing is wrong at all. Sometimes it takes a while to get answers to specific questions, is all. Over the weekend, many of us disappear, too, like you did.

I'm certain that someone who knows about scene-planning will be along shortly to help you with this. Unfortunately, on my side of things, one has only to react with honesty; no planning involved (outside some killer new lingerie, perhaps, or something of that nature).

 

[James Blandings]

I don't think it's a good idea to plan out a scene in too much detail. A bottom who enjoys an activity one time may not respond as well to it the next. For that matter, the top may decide that they are not in the mood they had anticipated while planning.
A good top will read their bottoms reaction and respond accordingly as fits their own desires for the situation. I believe it's best to keep one's options open as much as possible.
Meticulous planning of a scene makes no more sense to me than doing so for any other erotic encounter. One might make plans for certain activities, but no one says "We'll talk for 10 minutes, then I'll go down on him for 10 minutes, then we will fuck till 9 o' clock" and to me, detailed scripting of a scene is doing just about that.
Of course, carefully planning for safety and health concerns is another matter, but I don't think that is what you are asking about.
What works best for me when I am topping is to have several options ready for different stages of a scene. For example, I might have 2 or 3 light toys set aside for warm up and use whichever one seems right at the time. When we are ready to move on to heavier play, I will have several choices of more severe implements at heand, and pick the one that seems best at the time. Of course, if I have something new, or something I know the bottom will particularly respond to, I will most likely grab that one. And so on through the various phases of the scene.
I hope that helps. Good luck with your first scene.

 

[Lain]

I don't think it's a good idea to plan out a scene in too much detail. A bottom who enjoys an activity one time may not respond as well to it the next. For that matter, the top may decide that they are not in the mood they had anticipated while planning.
What works best for me when I am topping is to have several options ready for different stages of a scene. For example, I might have 2 or 3 light toys set aside for warm up and use whichever one seems right at the time. When we are ready to move on to heavier play, I will have several choices of more severe implements at heand, and pick the one that seems best at the time. Of course, if I have something new, or something I know the bottom will particularly respond to, I will most likely grab that one. And so on through the various phases of the scene.
I hope that helps. Good luck with your first scene.

Thanks, that makes a lot of sense. It seems to be a good idea to have a number of options close at hand (no rummaging around in the closet) and to have an overall vision for the "shape" of the scene, but to include lots of flexibility as well.

Are BDSM "quickies" possible? Is it always necessary to warm up before getting into the more intense stuff, so if you only have half an hour (for example) you can't really do much?

Lain

 

[cymbidia]

Are BDSM "quickies" possible? Is it always necessary to warm up before getting into the more intense stuff, so if you only have half an hour (for example) you can't really do much?

Oh hell yes!

If you've got an odd half hour, that's certainly enough time to do some quick, light bondage, give or get some good oral sex, and/or watch someone get themselves off while you do yourself and/or provide additional stimulation.

If you've got that extra half hour, you can fuck like bunnies (even ~gasp~ missionary style) while one of you has their hands tied to the top of the bed, or above their head, or is simply ordered to keep them someplace and not move them.

There's a whole world of BDSM-flavored quickies possible, Lain.

It's limited, as always, only by your imagination and the needs shared between you and your partner.