plan a bachelor party

[ahungrymind]

I'm planning a bachelor party in Boston in early July.

Anyone have suggestions? Advice?

The groom want to keep it low key.

 

[SweetErika]

Have you googled 'bachelor party ideas' yet? I took a quick look at one of the first links, and there are tons of lower key ideas that might work well for you guys. You could do anything from a Poker game/themed party to an experience that all/most of the men in your group would be likely to enjoy.

 

[culloden]

Erica's on to something. Perhaps white water rafting? The Deerfield in western Mass is pretty good. The Upper Hudson near Lake George is a further drive, but the one day trip through the Gorge is freakin' awesome.

 

[ahungrymind]

Have you googled 'bachelor party ideas' yet? I took a quick look at one of the first links, and there are tons of lower key ideas that might work well for you guys. You could do anything from a Poker game/themed party to an experience that all/most of the men in your group would be likely to enjoy.

I have used the google, but thank you, those aren't bad ideas.

 

[ahungrymind]

Erica's on to something. Perhaps white water rafting? The Deerfield in western Mass is pretty good. The Upper Hudson near Lake George is a further drive, but the one day trip through the Gorge is freakin' awesome.

The wedding is the following week and his future wife would kill me if he showed up banged up at the wedding.

But thank you for the suggestion.

 

[fire_breeze]

The wedding is the following week and his future wife would kill me if he showed up banged up at the wedding.

But thank you for the suggestion.

What sort of low keyed event? Is it a Jack and Jill party or boys only? How many people? What's the demographics?

Strip clubs are popular, and traditional, choices.

You can go out and play laser tag or paintballing. Billiards (if there's a lot of you, you can even rent out a pool hall).

Camping. Fishing. Hunting. Hiking. Kayaking.

Chip in to rent a box seat for a game, with the works.

Here's one that I saw over the weekend: a groom-to-be was washing car windows at the lights in downtown. The money he did collect went to a local charity to help street kids. Something along those lines could be fun, if he's that type of guy.

Pub crawl, where after exiting each pub, he has to give a speech on the virtues of his intended to those around him. (Again, skip this last one if he's the shy type).

Skeet shooting.

Indoor skydiving.

The options are limitless. Do what HE likes and wants and just make it even more extravagant. The point is not to make him uncomfortable or make him do something that he'll regret, but rather ensure that he's having a wonderful time. Don't pressure him. If he'd rather stay home and have an Adam Sandler marathon, then do that. It's his party, not yours.

And if he really doesn't want to go out, then have a bachelor party without him. Go out wherever, and toast him every so often.

And have fun and be safe.

 

[SweetErika]

I have used the google, but thank you, those aren't bad ideas.

If you've been through all of the ideas listed on various pages and none of them appeal to you, then you're going to have to give us more info to go on. What does the groom like to do? What kinds of things are interesting to the group attending the party?

 

[subwannabe]

I don't know anything about etiquette in this area but I would try to pin down the groom as to what he meant by "low key".

 

[Lust Engine]

It's ultimately the groom-to-be's party. Don't cater to all of his neanderthal friends who want to go to a strip club if that's not what the groom is into; it's their excuse to their significant others to go out of "duty to a friend".

Personally the bachelor parties where I've been a part of usually involves some form of sports in the day- whether it's a ball game, paintball, whitewater rafting or some form of adrenaline rush- it's usually followed by a dinner and then debauchery if that's what the groom is expecting. But by all means, this was done with the consultation and blessing of the groom.

Feel him out and do it discretely. See if he's into sports, what kind of food he likes and what other activities he'd be okay with (cards, pool, go karts, etc.). If he wants strippers, then speak up. As well as asking what he likes- ask for a list of his dislikes as well. With all of your good intentions you just might stumble onto a dislike (we once took a friend out to a bar that had bad memories for the guy because it was where he dated his first wife- not good.). Be creative and toss out some of your suggestions- see what he thinks.

And I'd do this one-on-one with him so the both of you can discuss heart to heart without some dope pushing for something inappropriate or something outlandishly expensive that could kill the buzz of the party.

 

[hd8001]

Some good ones are just having a cook out with cards, outside games, beer and them maybe going out bar hopping later in the evening. Another one that I was at was an afternoon of paint ball. Great way to get some anger out and feel like men. Alot of it depends on the size group that you have to deal with. If it is going to be a small group you can do an activity like paintball. If it is a larger group with lots of ages mixed in it maybe better off just doing a cook out. Good Luck and have fun most of all.