piss play: overcoming pee shyness

[Raingirl85]

I'm new to watersports. Current partner introduced me to it. Both of us both give and receive. I didn't expect to like it but I really do, and find it very arousing. While being on the receiving end has been very fun and easy, I struggle when it is my turn to "perform." He loves it when I piss on his cock in the middle of sex or right after we have both cum. The issue is I can only do this successfully about half of the time.

I think pee shyness plays a large role-- it's not that I'm actually shy, more like my body just won't let me release it. I also think all the rubbing and arousal maybe make it a bit harder to get the flow going.

Any tips? I have heard that you should hold your breath but I don't really understand how that works.. should you try to pee while holding your breath?

And yes, I always drink a ton of water ahead of play time and genuinely have a strong urge/need to pee.

 

[ararejewel]

As with everything when it comes to new sexy stuff: get a little bit drunk first.

 

[Raingirl85]

As with everything when it comes to new sexy stuff: get a little bit drunk first.

It may sound odd but I don't drink. And I am into very kinky/bdsm type sex play which I don't see how you can enjoy if you aren't sober/fully present in the moment.

 

[ararejewel]

It may sound odd but I don't drink. And I am into very kinky/bdsm type sex play which I don't see how you can enjoy if you aren't sober/fully present in the moment.

It was a joke.

Honestly, getting over shyness is pretty difficult; your mind conspired to destroy any little gains you make in self-confidence, and it can sometimes feel like a losing battle. Ultimately, you just need to throw yourself into stuff.

 

[Raingirl85]

It was a joke.

Honestly, getting over shyness is pretty difficult; your mind conspired to destroy any little gains you make in self-confidence, and it can sometimes feel like a losing battle. Ultimately, you just need to throw yourself into stuff.

I have thrown myself into it and am definitely not a shy person. I'm using pee shy as a phrase, it's not a true shyness. I feel absolutely ZERO embarrassment and ZERO self-consciousness. It's like my body has decided that it releases pee while sitting over a toilet, and given that that criteria has not been met, it doesn't care how much I want to pee it's not letting pee out. LOL hard to explain, was hoping someone else would know what im talking about and have some guidance from experience.

 

[albertaboy]

It might be biological a bit as well.

Shortly after orgasm our sex organs tend to be a bit excited and inflamed.

Not sure if that would affect a woman's ability to pee on her partner, but it would sure affect a mans.

 

[lilly5742]

I would attribute it to mostly biological. I know when I try to urinate after sex or masturbation I cannot always go right away. Perhaps something to just try to be patient with yourself over, maybe with practice it will get easier? Good luck! Also, I'm so jealous of you having a partner you share such a kink with. I hope you guys have fun with it.

 

[Raingirl85]

I would attribute it to mostly biological. I know when I try to urinate after sex or masturbation I cannot always go right away. Perhaps something to just try to be patient with yourself over, maybe with practice it will get easier? Good luck! Also, I'm so jealous of you having a partner you share such a kink with. I hope you guys have fun with it.

Thanks! I have always had trouble getting the flow started after masturbation when im alone, on my own toilet at home..so I definitely think that plays a role and have mentioned it to my partner. One idea we are going to try next time is to do it in the beginning, before I am all engorged/swollen from arousal and sex and just see how that goes.

As to being jealous- if you are ever in MA feel free to join us any time!

 

[biggreg]

Good idea . Try piss play as part of foreplay maybe ? I like to fill first , lots water . It's nice to be all wet and pissy , but still sometimes even when full can be hard to get started
But when it flows mmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
Be interested how it works out for you

 

[jehoram]

It might help to have the sound of running water provided by a recording or something. It seems to work for guys.