Pickleball Widows or Widowers?

[StrongMaster7]

You’ve heard me bitch, moan, and complain about how little interest my wife has in sex. I get 20 minutes, once a week.

Well, last year, she discovered pickleball. And guess what she has all the time, energy, and interest in the world for? Not sex. Pickleball.

I try to look on the bright side. She is getting exercise and staying healthy. But some weeks it’s eight or nine times. An hour or two each time.

But, it hasn’t taken away from our 20 minutes, once a week. So, I don’t complain to her. I’m complaining to you.

(And I know a few of you will suspect that she is cheating. No chance. I can watch her play. It’s pickleball.)

Any other folks have their partners discover pickleball (or some other all-consuming hobby)?

 

[write_or_wrong]

You’ve heard me bitch, moan, and complain about how little interest my wife has in sex. I get 20 minutes, once a week.

Well, last year, she discovered pickleball. And guess what she has all the time, energy, and interest in the world for? Not sex. Pickleball.

I try to look on the bright side. She is getting exercise and staying healthy. But some weeks it’s eight or nine times. An hour or two each time.

But, it hasn’t taken away from our 20 minutes, once a week. So, I don’t complain to her. I’m complaining to you.

(And I know a few of you will suspect that she is cheating. No chance. I can watch her play. It’s pickleball.)

Any other folks have their partners discover pickleball (or some other all-consuming hobby)?

At least it looks like you now have a safe one-hour window for private time every day.

 

[cadman7777]

You’ve heard me bitch, moan, and complain about how little interest my wife has in sex. I get 20 minutes, once a week.

Well, last year, she discovered pickleball. And guess what she has all the time, energy, and interest in the world for? Not sex. Pickleball.

I try to look on the bright side. She is getting exercise and staying healthy. But some weeks it’s eight or nine times. An hour or two each time.

But, it hasn’t taken away from our 20 minutes, once a week. So, I don’t complain to her. I’m complaining to you.

(And I know a few of you will suspect that she is cheating. No chance. I can watch her play. It’s pickleball.)

Any other folks have their partners discover pickleball (or some other all-consuming hobby)?

It's addictive for sure.....and I do know there have been affairs from it......like other places where people spend time together

 

[LMWM321]

You’ve heard me bitch, moan, and complain about how little interest my wife has in sex. I get 20 minutes, once a week.

Sorry to hear but agree that at least she's getting exercise

A few thoughts....

Is your wife menopausal? If so, would she consider testosterone replacement? Nearly ALL women's T level drops significantly during menopause and there is growing evidence that nearly ALL menopausal woman should be taking T to restore it. ...And not just for libido but also because T plays a role in preventing osteoporosis, cognitive decline, and may help prevent cardiac problems. In short, T is more than just a male sex-drive hormone. Women have testosterone too, and should maintain it their whole life. ..And it WILL very likely raise her libido. However, if she's not menopausal, then extra T has not been shown to help, and raising her level beyond normal physiologic levels can be risky.

Also.. Are there other sex activities that your wife will allow?? ..When my wife isn't interested in penetrative sex, she will often allow me to masturbate onto her breasts, her feet, etc... ..No, I don't enjoy it as much as sex with mutual involvement, but it still feels good and is a way to deal with our large desire discrepancy

 

[Eyelevel]

I did not realize pickleball is a substitute for sex. I need to go see what’s going on at these games.

 

[lifeis2short2b]

Ever think of maybe playing pickle ball with her ? Maybe if you showed an interest in her things she would show an interest in your Pickle and balls

 

[StrongMaster7]

Sorry to hear but agree that at least she's getting exercise

A few thoughts....

Is your wife menopausal? If so, would she consider testosterone replacement? Nearly ALL women's T level drops significantly during menopause and there is growing evidence that nearly ALL menopausal woman should be taking T to restore it. ...And not just for libido but also because T plays a role in preventing osteoporosis, cognitive decline, and may help prevent cardiac problems. In short, T is more than just a male sex-drive hormone. Women have testosterone too, and should maintain it their whole life. ..And it WILL very likely raise her libido. However, if she's not menopausal, then extra T has not been shown to help, and raising her level beyond normal physiologic levels can be risky.

Also.. Are there other sex activities that your wife will allow?? ..When my wife isn't interested in penetrative sex, she will often allow me to masturbate onto her breasts, her feet, etc... ..No, I don't enjoy it as much as sex with mutual involvement, but it still feels good and is a way to deal with our large desire discrepancy

I appreciate your thoughts. My wife does not think she has a problem, so she would never consider going to a doctor to address it. She is post-menopausal. The issue is very simple. She told me long ago that she is not very interested in sex and that it is not important to her. And that is her truth. I could leave her, but I love her. That is my truth.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

You’ve heard me bitch, moan, and complain about how little interest my wife has in sex. I get 20 minutes, once a week.

Well, last year, she discovered pickleball. And guess what she has all the time, energy, and interest in the world for? Not sex. Pickleball.

I try to look on the bright side. She is getting exercise and staying healthy. But some weeks it’s eight or nine times. An hour or two each time.

But, it hasn’t taken away from our 20 minutes, once a week. So, I don’t complain to her. I’m complaining to you.

(And I know a few of you will suspect that she is cheating. No chance. I can watch her play. It’s pickleball.)

Any other folks have their partners discover pickleball (or some other all-consuming hobby)?

I love sweaty Pickleball ladies! Ton of em at the nudist resort we occasionally frequent.

 

[Britva415]

I did not realize pickleball is a substitute for sex. I need to go see what’s going on at these games.

It's not. She just wasn't interested in sex in the first place.

 

[wouldloveto]

Sorry to hear but agree that at least she's getting exercise

A few thoughts....

Is your wife menopausal? If so, would she consider testosterone replacement? Nearly ALL women's T level drops significantly during menopause and there is growing evidence that nearly ALL menopausal woman should be taking T to restore it. ...And not just for libido but also because T plays a role in preventing osteoporosis, cognitive decline, and may help prevent cardiac problems. In short, T is more than just a male sex-drive hormone. Women have testosterone too, and should maintain it their whole life. ..And it WILL very likely raise her libido. However, if she's not menopausal, then extra T has not been shown to help, and raising her level beyond normal physiologic levels can be risky.

Also.. Are there other sex activities that your wife will allow?? ..When my wife isn't interested in penetrative sex, she will often allow me to masturbate onto her breasts, her feet, etc... ..No, I don't enjoy it as much as sex with mutual involvement, but it still feels good and is a way to deal with our large desire discrepancy

so, you are a fucking doctor now. Must be your fantasy...

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Avoid doctors!