phoney "Sub" culture

[greencucumber]

I wanted to experience what the dom/sub thing was all about thinking perhaps I was missing out so I advertised for a partner to give it a go. And my observations were that those women I came across looking for a dom were the prickliest domineering individuals imaginable. Probably bosses at work and at home. My observations and "perhaps" conclusions were that the "would be" sub was simply play acting to make them feel not so guilty for the bullying disposition they discharge to others during the day. Which makes me think that the person they are looking for does not exist outside of their imagination. And this indefinite search goes on fruitlessly for that reason. Simply chasing rainbows. I may be wrong but to I challenge someone to logically*prove me wrong.

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Gently Bentley

 

[SpunThings]

I wanted to experience what the dom/sub thing was all about thinking perhaps I was missing out so I advertised for a partner to give it a go. And my observations were that those women I came across looking for a dom were the prickliest domineering individuals imaginable. Probably bosses at work and at home. My observations and "perhaps" conclusions were that the "would be" sub was simply play acting to make them feel not so guilty for the bullying disposition they discharge to others during the day. Which makes me think that the person they are looking for does not exist outside of their imagination. And this indefinite search goes on fruitlessly for that reason. Simply chasing rainbows. I may be wrong but to I challenge someone to logically*prove me wrong.

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Gently Bentley

Couldn't you just see it as you are not compatible personality-wise, and what you are looking to build in a relationship, rather than looking down on them?

 

[MeekMe]

Couldn't you just see it as you are not compatible personality-wise, and what you are looking to build in a relationship, rather than looking down on them?

http://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?t=1218147
this seems to be the one we've decided to go with as OP posted two of the same thread.

 

[greencucumber]

Hi
I see that it may appear that I was as you put it "looking down"on them but without publishing to you what took place and what was said and for how long. And I will not because they are entitled to there privacy. you have no idea how our why I came to that conclusion. I was simply stating how I felt about certain ones I had had dealings with. This drew as I suspected it would, a barrage of condescending comments that were aimed at stripping me of my dignity any reducing my honest point of view to sheds.
It is I not them who have been "looked down upon".
However I'm a good forgiver so bless them.

 

[Algos_Idoni]

Might I gently suggest proofreading before posting?

 

[BabblingBrooke]

Might I gently suggest proofreading before posting?

Yes, please.

Hi
I see that it may appear that I was as you put it "looking down"on them but without publishing to you what took place and what was said and for how long. And I will not because they are entitled to there privacy. you have no idea how our why I came to that conclusion. I was simply stating how I felt about certain ones I had had dealings with. This drew as I suspected it would, a barrage of condescending comments that were aimed at stripping me of my dignity any reducing my honest point of view to sheds.
It is I not them who have been "looked down upon".
However I'm a good forgiver so bless them.

You, with limited experience, labeled BDSM "phoney."

Others have said this already, but for added emphasis, just because a woman is submissive does not mean she wants to be your submissive. If you want to play at being dominant, have fun, and try it with a like-minded partner.

 

[midwestyankee]

Hi
I see that it may appear that I was as you put it "looking down"on them but without publishing to you what took place and what was said and for how long. And I will not because they are entitled to there privacy. you have no idea how our why I came to that conclusion. I was simply stating how I felt about certain ones I had had dealings with. This drew as I suspected it would, a barrage of condescending comments that were aimed at stripping me of my dignity any reducing my honest point of view to sheds.
It is I not them who have been "looked down upon".
However I'm a good forgiver so bless them.

Do you chat with women using this writing style? Because if you do, I think I found your problem. They probably think you're as dumb as a hog's turd.

 

[RawHumor]

Can a mod please combine these two threads?

 

[lydia_kitty]

It sounds like you need to take a step back and reevaluate what you want out of a relationship and what you are seeking to bring to the table. The first step would be to stop judging these women and overgeneralizing them. In my opinion, a Dom needs to be trustworthy and willing to build trust and intimacy. Submitting takes a lot of trust and that's something that needs to be earned, which means you have to be willing to earn it.