I have been in a LDR for entirely too long, so i have more then a bit of experience with phone sex. it happens a few ways for us.
1. the "planned out" phone sex. often this includes being on webcam. in this, i know beforehand that we will be having phone sex. im already turned on before me even start.
2. the "accidental" phone sex. i'll start playing with myself while we talk about something else, and he fgures out what im doing then runs with it. usually this starts with him asking in a sly tone "what are you doing?"
3. the "exhibitionist" phone sex. i play with myself, do my thing, dont talk to him at all unless its to answer direct questions or to ask permission to cum, and he listens to my moans.
4. the "not for me, but for him" phone sex. every once in a blue moon, A wants me to direct his actions as opposed to the other way around. oddly enough, phone sex is the only time i feel remotly close to comfortable topping. i still get a small sub drop afterwards and crave reassurance that im still His puppy, but nowhere near as bad as it is in person. i dont ever get off on this, but he does and i enjoy being able to make him cum.
this last one is sometimes used for punishment since i really really dont like it for its own sake.
Yes, number 4 was the same mind block I was having. It seemed to me in my mind that it would be topping from the bottom. But, after told me to see it as servicing him.. it puts my mind more at ease.
