biprincess09
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What's the best way to get started and what do you say/do?
Phone sex?
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CoralJones
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usually the guy asks what i'm doing with my hands, or if i'm wet. i IM sexy talk first, and if it goes well, phone. it's hot.
biprincess09
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Do you go into what you want to do or what? lol, I'm new at this lol
It can be really hot.
It helps if you have someone to have phone sex regularly, preferably your bf/gf.
I've had phone sex with a few female friends. With one, it was something that was initiated online then went to the phone. With another, it was something that happened after a long conversation when we both felt comfortable and turned on by one another's voices. I think I turned the conversation to sex, and after awhile I mentioned I was stroking myself. She asked if I minded if she played with herself. I said that I wanted her to. From there started the dirty talk. Usually I would imagine out loud what I would do with her if we were together. She would do the same, but not quite as much. Mostly she would moan and groan. After a few weeks, I learned more about her sexual response and I decided I would hold off on cumming until she came. This made her appreciate enjoy the experience even more. I'm talking about someone who didn't orgasm very much, even on her own, so finding the right words to get her into that comfort zone where she could do what it took to reach climax was a nice accomplishment.
If you're dealing with a guy, I doubt you would have to spend much time getting into it. Most guys would be happy to have phone sex at any time. With girls, she needs to feel comfortable and turned on by your voice. So it's best, IMO, in the context of a relationship or good friendship in which phone sex is just something you do together, not your only motive.
It helps if you have someone to have phone sex regularly, preferably your bf/gf.
I've had phone sex with a few female friends. With one, it was something that was initiated online then went to the phone. With another, it was something that happened after a long conversation when we both felt comfortable and turned on by one another's voices. I think I turned the conversation to sex, and after awhile I mentioned I was stroking myself. She asked if I minded if she played with herself. I said that I wanted her to. From there started the dirty talk. Usually I would imagine out loud what I would do with her if we were together. She would do the same, but not quite as much. Mostly she would moan and groan. After a few weeks, I learned more about her sexual response and I decided I would hold off on cumming until she came. This made her appreciate enjoy the experience even more. I'm talking about someone who didn't orgasm very much, even on her own, so finding the right words to get her into that comfort zone where she could do what it took to reach climax was a nice accomplishment.
If you're dealing with a guy, I doubt you would have to spend much time getting into it. Most guys would be happy to have phone sex at any time. With girls, she needs to feel comfortable and turned on by your voice. So it's best, IMO, in the context of a relationship or good friendship in which phone sex is just something you do together, not your only motive.
CoralJones
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i do. that's kinda the point. but i totally IM for a bit 1st, to make sure we're on the same page. i have a serious kink and i don't like wasting my time.
usually 'he' asks me to touch myself, maybe taste. i'll ask if he's hard for me, and make the natural sex noises. it depends on what you like, i guess.
usually 'he' asks me to touch myself, maybe taste. i'll ask if he's hard for me, and make the natural sex noises. it depends on what you like, i guess.
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Why must you always insist on ruining the decent advice you give by adding crap like this to your posts? Why not say what you have to say on this thread so that everyone else can benefit from your superior knowledge?mrron said:
I'm gonna call you on your cyber-predatory bullshit every time I see it.
BaltoBoy
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Get a grip girly. You need to find out what someone's about before you start calling. I'm not prepared to discuss it here, but I will in PM. I await your call.
http://www.tmonews.com/blog/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/i-see-what-you-did-there.jpg
As far as phone sex, the key is to make sure you and the other person are into the same style.
Some people like to describe some fantasy scene as though it's going on now. Like "Oh I'm running my hands up your thigh as we sit naked under the sun on the beach"
That's not my thing at all. I'm more into talking about what's really going on. I want to hear how the woman is feeling frisky and slightly wet and how she's jonesing to touch herself. That realism is hot to me. But other people are bored to tears by that stuff and want to hear the fantasy.
So it's all about being on the same page.
You know...like normal sex. If you're into bondage and he's a moron, you're not going to have a good night together.
I've been talking with an online friend on the phone for years.
If we haven't talked in a while, we get right into it. Sometimes we just talk for a bit. I make her laugh. Then I twist her words into something sexual and funny.
I ask where she is (always in bed), what she's wearing, how she's lying down.
I tell her I'm in bed, what I'm wearing, how I'm lying down. I talk about what I would do if I was there. LOTS and lots of details - where my arms are, what my hands are doing, how I'm looking at her, how I'm hugging and kissing her.
I tell her that I thought about her earlier that day and got turned on, how I saw something and it made me think of doing something naughty to her.
For example, I went shopping at the mall and saw a girl going into the fitting room, which made me think about taking my phone friend shopping and what we would do together in a fitting room. She tries on outfits for me, I take pictures of her in outfits and while she's changing and while she's doing stuff to me while customers are in other rooms (the possibility of getting caught is one of many things that gets her hot).
Sometimes I talk about what I would do to her if I was there, but I know all of her kinks (she has so many but I also try out new ones all the time), so I make up a story.
She talks sometimes, but usually I dominate the conversation (and I also dominate her). She keeps me going with her moans, groans, heavy breathing, expletives and the sounds she makes as she's sucking on her dildo. Sometimes I make her talk by asking her questions or making demands - tell me how much you love it, who's my little fucktoy, I'm going to keep teasing you until you beg for it.
If she wants to bring something new up, she usually says she had a dream about it. I guess if she thinks that I think that she thought of it spontaneously/accidentally, she won't get judged. Not that I would judge, it's just the way she thinks. When she says something like, "I had a dream last night that I was in a threesome with two guys," I make up a story about her being with me and another guy.
She says I make her cum harder on the phone than her man does in real life (she's in another state). She sure makes me cum hard.
If we haven't talked in a while, we get right into it. Sometimes we just talk for a bit. I make her laugh. Then I twist her words into something sexual and funny.
I ask where she is (always in bed), what she's wearing, how she's lying down.
I tell her I'm in bed, what I'm wearing, how I'm lying down. I talk about what I would do if I was there. LOTS and lots of details - where my arms are, what my hands are doing, how I'm looking at her, how I'm hugging and kissing her.
I tell her that I thought about her earlier that day and got turned on, how I saw something and it made me think of doing something naughty to her.
For example, I went shopping at the mall and saw a girl going into the fitting room, which made me think about taking my phone friend shopping and what we would do together in a fitting room. She tries on outfits for me, I take pictures of her in outfits and while she's changing and while she's doing stuff to me while customers are in other rooms (the possibility of getting caught is one of many things that gets her hot).
Sometimes I talk about what I would do to her if I was there, but I know all of her kinks (she has so many but I also try out new ones all the time), so I make up a story.
She talks sometimes, but usually I dominate the conversation (and I also dominate her). She keeps me going with her moans, groans, heavy breathing, expletives and the sounds she makes as she's sucking on her dildo. Sometimes I make her talk by asking her questions or making demands - tell me how much you love it, who's my little fucktoy, I'm going to keep teasing you until you beg for it.
If she wants to bring something new up, she usually says she had a dream about it. I guess if she thinks that I think that she thought of it spontaneously/accidentally, she won't get judged. Not that I would judge, it's just the way she thinks. When she says something like, "I had a dream last night that I was in a threesome with two guys," I make up a story about her being with me and another guy.
She says I make her cum harder on the phone than her man does in real life (she's in another state). She sure makes me cum hard.
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are you seriously suggesting what she said is in any way, shape or form incorrect?
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I've only done it a few times but when I did the guy I was doing it with would just tell me dirty stories about what he's done in the past and ask me what I was doing to myself. He would also tell me to moan for him and tell me what to do with my hands and things like that.
