pheromones

[who_goes_there]

Good afternoon to you!

After being seriously confused for the past few days, I thought I might share a little something with the world, if not only to be able to get rid of it.
I apologize in advance if I am boring you. I say hit the time-travel button and go back to before you opened this post...

Background:
32 year old woman, generally not psychotic.
Happily involved with a the best human being that I know for the past six-plus years.

Situation:
I feel oddly attracted to this almost complete stranger.
All this started by one sentence:

Romance is great, but sometimes aggression is a more palpable aphrodisiac.

Now I know that the word aggression can seem very, very negative to some. I agree with that most of the time... in this case, it left me, well... moist.

* would like to hear your thoughts on this as well

And curious enough to keep in touch with this man. We have spoken a few times, over the phone. What comes out of his mouth are the most erotic words ever spoken to me, without being explicit. When this man said: I want to have you, it sounded like a freakin' serenade to me.

I have never smelled this man, but now think it possible for pheromones to come flying through a cellphone.

(Mind you, I realize that I should stop talking to this creature, and I will... soon.)


* If you could see the thoughts in my head, you'd know why I put this vanilla post on the BDSM board*

 

[s_red830]

Good afternoon to you!

After being seriously confused for the past few days, I thought I might share a little something with the world, if not only to be able to get rid of it.
I apologize in advance if I am boring you. I say hit the time-travel button and go back to before you opened this post...

Background:
32 year old woman, generally not psychotic.
Happily involved with a the best human being that I know for the past six-plus years.

Situation:
I feel oddly attracted to this almost complete stranger.
All this started by one sentence:

Romance is great, but sometimes aggression is a more palpable aphrodisiac.

Now I know that the word aggression can seem very, very negative to some. I agree with that most of the time... in this case, it left me, well... moist.

* would like to hear your thoughts on this as well

And curious enough to keep in touch with this man. We have spoken a few times, over the phone. What comes out of his mouth are the most erotic words ever spoken to me, without being explicit. When this man said: I want to have you, it sounded like a freakin' serenade to me.

I have never smelled this man, but now think it possible for pheromones to come flying through a cellphone.

(Mind you, I realize that I should stop talking to this creature, and I will... soon.)


* If you could see the thoughts in my head, you'd know why I put this vanilla post on the BDSM board*

I must say that yes, aggression (in a safe way) is considered erotic to some. But may I ask... what exactly is your question?

 

[FurryFury]

This sort of attraction is not unusual with married people. After all we are married not dead. Still unless you want to damage that marriage or you have already told your wonderful partner about this, I'd be very careful.

I do believe in pheromones but not that they can be transmitted over a cell phone. That doesn't mean that certain attractions and hot buttons can't be pushed over a phone, they certainly can.

Good luck,

Fury

 

[who_goes_there]

I must say that yes, aggression (in a safe way) is considered erotic to some. But may I ask... what exactly is your question?

As stated in the first sentence, I am merely sharing something, not really asking a question.
My curiosity lies here: Who, if anyone, has had a similar experience? How did they respond to this? And even, just for my reading pleasure; who has actually gotten together with a creature that made them feel like that? How was it? Did the pheromones keep flying, or was it just temporary lust?

 

[who_goes_there]

This sort of attraction is not unusual with married people. After all we are married not dead. Still unless you want to damage that marriage or you have already told your wonderful partner about this, I'd be very careful.

I do believe in pheromones but not that they can be transmitted over a cell phone. That doesn't mean that certain attractions and hot buttons can't be pushed over a phone, they certainly can.

Good luck,

Fury

Thanks for your advice Fury.
You are right, we are not dead; however, this creature is making me feel more alive than ever. Maybe crushes get stronger with age!

I have no intent to physically stepping outside of my relationship, just a huge curiosity as to what would happen if I did. So maybe I am trying to find that person I can live vicariously through, while enjoying my new lust within my relationship. Who knew that a random encounter would breathe so much new energy into an existing relationship?

 

[FurryFury]

As stated in the first sentence, I am merely sharing something, not really asking a question.
My curiosity lies here: Who, if anyone, has had a similar experience? How did they respond to this? And even, just for my reading pleasure; who has actually gotten together with a creature that made them feel like that? How was it? Did the pheromones keep flying, or was it just temporary lust?

I've felt that way a number of times. At the mall, at a storytelling festival, at a role playing group, at a bachelor party, with good friends male and female, but I've never done a damn thing about it because I'm all repressed and scared and shit.

Fury

 

[who_goes_there]

I've felt that way a number of times. At the mall, at a storytelling festival, at a role playing group, at a bachelor party, with good friends male and female, but I've never done a damn thing about it because I'm all repressed and scared and shit.

Fury

Well darn-it woman, make something up!
I am now retreating to search the story section of Lit, in hopes of finding some satisfactory release...

 

[FurryFury]

Well darn-it woman, make something up!
I am now retreating to search the story section of Lit, in hopes of finding some satisfactory release...

*chuckles*

Fury

 

[CutieMouse]

Might I quietly inquire...

If the idea of more assertive sexual encounters arouses you, why not discuss it with your partner, and see if the idea appeals to them? I guess I just don't understand why there should be a need to find release by reading stories, or living vicariously through someone else, if you have a stable, healthy relationship with someone who Loves you.

The best that can happen, is that they will admit to finding "aggressive" sex as hot as you do; the worst is that they don't, and you find out where things stand, sexually.

 

[FurryFury]

Might I quietly inquire...

If the idea of more assertive sexual encounters arouses you, why not discuss it with your partner, and see if the idea appeals to them? I guess I just don't understand why there should be a need to find release by reading stories, or living vicariously through someone else, if you have a stable, healthy relationship with someone who Loves you.

The best that can happen, is that they will admit to finding "aggressive" sex as hot as you do; the worst is that they don't, and you find out where things stand, sexually.

You are so smart and cute!

*smiles*

Fury

 

[who_goes_there]

Might I quietly inquire...

If the idea of more assertive sexual encounters arouses you, why not discuss it with your partner, and see if the idea appeals to them? I guess I just don't understand why there should be a need to find release by reading stories, or living vicariously through someone else, if you have a stable, healthy relationship with someone who Loves you.

The best that can happen, is that they will admit to finding "aggressive" sex as hot as you do; the worst is that they don't, and you find out where things stand, sexually.

I find your inquisitive response a fair one.
To answer your question, my partner and I both enjoy reading Literotica, although we might choose different subjects at times.
I enjoy the fact that we each still have our private sex-life, as in reading, writing, watching, drawing. We both know and respect that aspect of our sexuality. I have always been a very sexual person, as is he, and enjoy my masturbatory time.
In reference to your last paragraph, I found out the "worst", but am at peace with that.
Although, maybe that is why I am so intrigued by "the creature".

Thanks for responding!

 

[Musing]

Although, maybe that is why I am so intrigued by "the creature".

Good grief, you make him sound like something out of a B movie

 

[who_goes_there]

Good grief, you make him sound like something out of a B movie

To me, it is unnatural to feel like this; he must be a creature therefor.

 

[Perfect_Trust]

Yes

I have had a similar experience, which I was able to act on as I was single. It didn't turn out to be what I hoped for though, so bare that in mind if you're considering acting on it.

 

[who_goes_there]

I have had a similar experience, which I was able to act on as I was single. It didn't turn out to be what I hoped for though, so bare that in mind if you're considering acting on it.

Thanks for sharing that with me. I am a pretty realistic person, so I would never abandon my relationship for a "what if..."
I am just utterly confused by my feeling this way. I attribute it to life's little surprises.
Thank you all for responding, and your sound advice.

 

[ABX]

(Mind you, I realize that I should stop talking to this creature, and I will... soon.)

...soon

...soon

Warning bells flash at that bit.

If you're going to stop, why not stop now? You're obviously aware it's a bad thing for the stability of your marriage. People are exceptionally good at deluding themselves, whether it's "I can quit whenever I want", or "I can afford just a few more minutes of sleep"...

So if you're going to stop, stop now.

 

[who_goes_there]

Busted!
*dropping head and sighing*

Yes Mother, you are right.


Life's little guilty pleasures, I curse you.